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[–]Agreable_Actuator84 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Maybe consider thinking of the feeling of being abundant as about more than just the number of women in your life or the sexual/romantic options you have.
For example, if I arrange a date, but she doesn’t show (last Minute flake), I could choose to wallow in sadness and anger. Or I could try and live in abundance. If i have abundance with women, maybe I call a FWB to hook up later. But wha if I don’t? Maybe I could have abundance by deliberately working on improving social skills and could see if I could implement what I have learned by talking to as many new people as I could.
Or maybe I have abundance by having a side business, or hobbies and so if I find myself with a spare few hours because a date didn’t show, I can use the time in a fun and productive way.
So bottom line is, don’t use one metric (women) for abundance. Have multiple metrics and switch to whatever seems most fun and worthwhile when progress is stalled in one area.
[–]JacobMoogberg69 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Work on becoming an attractive male. It's not about what you do but who you are.
[–]Dazzling_Pin_3492 4 years ago [recovered] (3 children) | Copy Link
I’ve done this a lot, just feels like it’s never good enough.
I lost 80 pounds because I thought the problem was that I was fat, then I started changing the way I spoke because I thought the problem was that my voice sounded annoying, I’m constantly trying new things out, and none of it seems to work.
[–]JacobMoogberg69 -2 points-1 points0 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
It's about how you feel about yourself. You have to like and respect yourself. That takes some serious inner work and then the external stuff wjll just fall into place.
[–]DesperateForDD 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Reading a self help book or what?
[–]JacobMoogberg69 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Start with some cognitive behavior therapy, perhaps something like MoodGym. Also a guy I like is TJ Guttormsen, Creating Self Esteem from within.
[–]throwaway_womenstuff 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Write down your major goals for the year. That always levels me.
That’ll affect you more than what a girl will or won’t do. If you do get the girl and you don’t meet your own personal goals then you won’t be happy. At least I wouldn’t
I’m the most sexual person ever but even I know no amount of sex will help me in my goals. It’ll probably hinder me moreso actually
[–]PatientAssociation62 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
How do you have an abundance mindset when things aren't, well, so abundant? That's actually a really good question. I struggled with that myself very early on.
To me "abundance" means looking for and seeing opportunity. It also means believing in myself and the future based off the changes I am making today. Do I have hot Victoria's Secret models blowing up my phone? No. But I feel way more confident talking to women, have had MUCH better responses, started working through fears/doubts, and mastering some basics.
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