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[–]TheSunshineMan 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
I'll play devils advocate..
Often times it's "the first guy in" that gets the girl.
As long as he does it in a masculine alpha way and shows his clear intent.
Plus if you wait around.. hoping she'll come find you.. you're just setting yourself up for failure more than not, because the guy that did make the moves already got her.
You can save all that push-pull, playing hard to get, take away teasing until after you already hooked the girl.
[–]nicohul 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
True, a lot of times if the first guy does a good enough job, the girl won't be talking to anyone else. So you belive that just having good game will get you the girl, and lying low wil not do anything to spark attraction?
[–]TheSunshineMan 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
So you belive that just having good game will get you the girl, and lying low wil not do anything to spark attraction?
Of course it could.. but I'd rather take my shot NOW.. then wait until later..
But why take the risk?
Another guy moves in and gets her.
She leaves the party and she's gone forever - all while you were trying to play it cool..
She may also think you're too much of a puss puss to hit on her, so you were too shy and left..
Yes good game is way better than laying low hoping she'll come find you.
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[–]TheSunshineMan 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
So are you agreeing or disagreeing with me?
Here's what I just commented to the other guy on why I always say take your shot now:
[–]loofyd 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Exactly
Playing it cool is the bullshit movies teach you - but you forget that movies are scripted
Real life is NOT a script
It's fucking random with a fuck ton of different factors affecting every decision and choice you make
So yeah - no need to be needy with a girl but do go up and say hi to her, she can only get attracted if you shoot your shot
Not talking to her at all is a 100 % guarantee that she will not know about you
Remember, this is not a movie
This is real life !
[–]Hmmoklolthisisfine 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I can agree with this.
On Sunday I went to a music event. Not too big just a couple hundred people. I went with my friends and we spent the day dancing to whatever dj was playing. When I noticed a hot girl and we made eye contact I would keep eye contact, smile, and wave at them. They would smile back and I knew they were interested. I would see other guys go up and talk to them and I just kept doing my thing. Then whenever I needed a drink or to use the bathroom I would walk through the crowd. When I passed one of the girls I made a distant connection with, I would briefly stop, say I like their vibe/outfit/smile. I would get their name then tell them I’ll be heading back up front and I hope to see them around. I would do this even if they had guys right there hitting on them. Then I walk away and go back to my friends. Most of these girls would find me up front to dance. If they didn’t come find me and I saw them again then I got their numbers. It was a pretty fun day.
So long story short, too much attention is the worst thing you can do. I like to just put myself on their radar and keep having fun without them. They usually come around.
[–]NiNj4_C0W5L4Pr 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You already answered your own question. This is why men fail; they fail to realize the power in subtlety. Where does attraction take place? Make her chase you. Signal your interest and then give her the choice to decide whether or not to chase you. Walking up and saying hi to her and then walking away is a perfect way for the "mystery of you" to fester in her brain. Have patience or move on.
[–]JacobMoogberg69 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
As long as you have a fear of "losing" her or care if she notices you or goes out with you, you will not be successful. Thing is, you can't actually control their attraction, so just let it go. By not trying and not caring if she is interested or not you are already standing out as the alpha male.
Contrary to popular belief, the alpha male is not the guy barging in a room and pressing himself up against women. He is the guy all women pursue and they put themselves in his line of vision so they can get picked.
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