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[–]5_7pickup 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Are you sure you established a man to woman relationship and not in the friendzone?
[–]ORIONFULL23 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Don't go my dude, this girl invited more guys and that would put you in a possible competence , you don't know if those guys are trying with her as well
[–]IndianRedditor88 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago* (2 children) | Copy Link
You should always strive to be the better person in any relationship. You are a high value man aren't you ? Tell her that the next meeting is a date .If 2 guys on the next meeting are her friends, then tell them you want only rhe 2 of you and not the friends.
If she respectfully denies, then sorry man, you are not being seen romantically by this woman, the attraction is no more, and it's better not to waste any more time on this relationship.
If she makes a huge deal out of it and is throwing tantrums, tell her to go alone and enjoy her time with her friends.
If she agrees to a solo date, bingo congratulations, you have a person who is attracted to you and wants to build a good relationship. Make the best out of the date.
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[–]IndianRedditor88 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
More power to you.
[–]eszibit 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
"Whenever I try to escalate the situation I never get the reaction I want so I stop." Friendzoned, sorry dude, drop her if you're not into her as a friend too. You can be attracted to a girl but just be friends with her, nothing wrong with that. But if you just wanted to smash find someone new.
[–]eszibit 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It depends, can be a lot of things. Maybe how you acted on the date, maybe her own insecurities, maybe she wants guys that are really pushy and jerks so she feels "validated" there are a ton of maybe's. But who cares, don't waste time. You could tell her straight and to the point " listen, i want us to be more then friends, if you're cool with that we can hand, if not, no hard feelings but i'm looking for something else"
[–]SyreksDungeon 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
I would go. This is my way of thinking. There is two options: you go or you do not go.
If you do not go, you "might" be closing a door, she might get mad and think you are stuck-up and possibly not give you a shot again. You will possibly lose her.
If you do go, you will get one more shot. I understand, maybe the "friends" are fucking her, but what if they're not? What if they are just gay friends or betas? You will never know if you do not go. I believe a High value/confidence man is able to go into this situation just to see how things are. I understand your emotional stress if you do have feelings for her, so for your own emotional health if you do have feelings, I wouldn't go. But if you do not have feelings, if you go and her and her friend start fucking on the table that should not even bother you the slightest. I would advise you to go, you don't lose anything, maybe that day something happens.
[–]ORIONFULL23 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
I disagree with your approach, even if those guys are betas or gays, she is trying to put op in the same group, women do that, they reject you and and put you in male orbits group
When you tell something to a woman in many cases she will test you, now, op has told her through actions and words that he is not interested in a friendship and in responds to that, she is inviting op to hang out as a friend. If op goes to the meeting he is accepting the friendship even if he is not aware of the situation
[–]SyreksDungeon 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
You MIGHT be right. I agree with your theory. However, I would still go. Possibly your right, i have seen what you are saying happen in the past, but my point is basically is to LIVE. OP is more likely fucked with her, possibly you are right, but in this world who the fuck knows what will happen. Every situation is different, every women is different, and you don't know OPs game. Maybe OP can make something happen. Maybe not (possibly), but just LIVE life, take risks and see what happens.
[–]ORIONFULL23 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Dude, he has tried already twice, going into that meeting wouldn't change a thing, especially with more people around. I get your point of risk and stuff, but the thing is seduction is game, and you need to know what the play is, to act accordingly, not everything is risking it all and see what happens.
[–]SyreksDungeon 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Ok now I will ask you, do you really think if he does not go will he be more attractive? Do you think not going will benefit him in this situation to attract her? Or will he just lose her?
[–]ORIONFULL23 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
He is not gonna be more attractive on her eyes if he doesn't go but he will draw the line between hang out as a friend or hang out as something else and its not him that will "lose her" its the other way around, he wants to have something with this chick and she doesn't.
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