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[–]BensonInFL4 points 4 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
I'm so lost as to why members here chat the cliche "just go shoot your shot, bro", without any context.
Probably easier than trying to explain the fundamentals of attraction, openers and techniques, inner game, and many other skills necessary to succeed.
Like, if the girl is attractive, what makes anyone here think they stand out by being the next guy in line to hit on a girl?
You have to make yourself standout by your fashion, physique, and social skills.
But of course, almost everyone here doesn't want the "ugly" girl, so no one is shooting their shot where they should. I think almost everyone has this sub wrong.
LOL ..this is funny... are you an 'ugly girl' advocate? Who are you to tell me or anyone else who they SHOULD go for? If I'm attracted to the pretty girl, that is who I will go for, thank you very much...
Cold approaching only works if the girl doesn't get much attention to begin with.
Not true at all! The girl might be in a more open emotional/talking state (i.e. they just broke up with bf or just caught their bf cheating, their cat died, they failed a math test, etc...), they might *need* something, they might be bored, they might be on vacation and more open to an adventure or cool story, etc.... there are many and varied reasons why randomly a girl will choose to engage in a chat... and it doesn't matter.. as long as you get past the initial comfort stage and hook them...
Very few people here are socially intelligent enough to figure out how the real world really works with social dynamics.
That's true, and for those that are, it's a very long process to be really be good at it, but most don't need to master it, just learn enough to move the needle in their situation and get results.
-B
[–]BigFunnyBigMoney 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Checked your post history because you commented on mine, and my guy,
You're 100% wrong, i have dated plenty of beautiful women from cold approach, without being the most attractive or tallest guy in the world.
Why would I ever want to be with a girl I don't find attractive? I'm not saying you should only value looks, but a romantic relationship demands physical intimacy and mutual attraction is the foundation for that.
If you're not getting results, that just means you're bad at it.
[–]SandAccomplished3889 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Eh you’re just wrong lmfao. Except about body language.
[–]RegretsNothing1 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Alright. Sooooo are you gonna counter by explaing why?
[–]SandAccomplished3889 -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Ya sure although I don’t think you’ll be convinced. The whole thing with cold approach is that it takes skill, and not only that but it is a numbers game. Like you could be the best cold approacher in the world and still get rejected a lot. I’ve definitely gone on dates with girls I’ve cold approached before though and many of those girls have been “8s” or “9s”. I haven’t been cold approaching for very long, but I could definitely see a relationship being built out of a cold approach given the right setting. Like for myself, I’m in a band and play a lot of gigs around town so I end up cold approaching girls at shows I play, or at shows I’m seeing other bands play at. Given we’re both at a show there’s common ground of enjoying music and that’s usually something I can build off of. Other than that it’s also usually a certain type of girl who attends the shows I do so I generally know what I’m getting into SOMEWHAT. I think where guys go wrong is cold approaching random women that aren’t even their type, so I’ll give you that.
Edit: also not a lot of guys cold approach so you instantly stand out
Sorry for bad grammar fuck it tho
[–]RegretsNothing1 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Well, if you feel it will work for you, then have at it. Not here to command you.
I personally think there's a lot of things wrong with cold approaching. The biggest miss understanding is how girl feel. They are risking more safety with strangers, and cold approaching gives no time for a girl to trust a guy to go balls deep. Empathy goes a long way, and I found I had way more success with women than failures when I was patient and in control of my libido around attractive women. Building that foundation of trust is effective.
And, while straight cold approaching is not super common, it's common enough to be annoying to a lot of women.
[–]SandAccomplished3889 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Eh I disagree again. Most guys in my age range (18-25) don’t talk to women period unless it’s online. I think that’s a fucking shame, also a girl could either want you to cold approach her cuz she thinks you’re attractive or not. You’re never gonna know unless you put yourself out there. Like I said it’s worked plenty of times for me and lead to some really great experiences. It has ESPECIALLY boosted my confidence. Going up to a girl and stating your intention and what you want is such a masculine thing to do. It’s even more masculine when they reject you and you just move on to the next. There’s honestly so much to be learned confidence wise from cold approach. I wouldn’t completely write it off if I were you.
[–]thelambofdeth -2 points-1 points0 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I'm so lost as to why members here chat the cliche "just go shoot your shot, bro", without any context
Bc most people here are too concerned with reposting regurgitated, baseless platitudes in lieu of giving actual, legitimate advice. People here don't listen, they just want to copy pasta their anecdotes.
Like, if the girl is attractive, what makes anyone here think they stand out by being the next guy in line to hit on a girl? The girls that should be approached should be the ones that don't get much attention at all, in my opinion. But of course, almost everyone here doesn't want the "ugly" girl, so no one is shooting their shot where they should. I think almost everyone has this sub wrong. Very few people here are socially intelligent enough to figure out how the real world really works with social dynamics.
This x100. This sub is way too obsessed with beautiful and hot women. Instead of being realistic everyone focuses on 10s when they're not at all in that league and wonder why they're consistently frustrated, reposting the same thread over and over. 8s, 9s, and 10s have too many matches from OLD, hundreds of DMs, orbiters from the social circle, work, social eveents, simps, etc that thinking you're going to stand out as a stranger just be you have confidence is silly. If you're not good-looking, rich or extremely charismatic its much more pragmatic to lower your standards and not be entitled for no reason. It's not even just going after the ugly ones, but the average, decent and cute ones. This board totally glosses over them when the majority of the dudes aren't exactly a catch themselves...
Based on both my experience and observation, to get the pretty ones, you have to spend way more time working on yourself that attractive women look for. Especially self control and patience. The partners I've been with never had me asking for their number the first time I talked to them, and more than that, they've all been people that were in someways in the same circles as me where I saw them more than once by circumstances.
This is key. People here mention all the time they see ugly dudes with hot women all the time, but fail to realize those couplings usually stem from social circle introductions or mutual acquaintances. They didn't just meet them on the street and they had the opportunity to get to know them over them and demonstrate their worth organically.
Not according to this sub. Apparently no matter hot or attractive the woman is and how ugly the dude is, she will simply be mesmerized by the sheer shock of this random dude approaching her and will be instantly smitten...lol.
[–]TheSunshineMan 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This proves you really don't know what you're talking about.. I've cold approached tons of 9-10/10 girls - hundreds and slept with tons of them.
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