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2021-05-16T06:13:09+00:00

Go to the bar. Order NA, you’ll still have a better chance at a bar drinking water than you will at home.

CleanWholesomePhun · 2021-05-16T08:15:05+00:00

For older guys, my advice is just to look open for business. Running around trying to chase everything that walks into the room is a bad look at a certain stage, instead you're trying to make sure that a woman who's trying to meet a guy like you knows you're there to be met. Doing simple stuff like wearing slightly more colorful or form fitting clothes than the average guy your age makes a huge difference. Same thing with a newer, more stylish haircut. I'd recommend going just about as daring as you can comfortably go with these things, but it's a personal decision in the end.

Additionally I'd suggest going to places where women want to meet people, so bars that have poetry or open mic nights are usually good, because everybody's already there to express themselves and be open in ways they might not otherwise. Bonus points for your soul and your chances at meeting somebody if you actually participate. As far as one night stands go... if that's what you're looking for, just say you're not looking for anything serious pretty early on and you should be ok.

smind893 · 2021-05-16T08:24:26+00:00

Easiest way is to become cool with lady coworkers, neighbors etc so you csm.meet.other singles and get into a scene.

Whatever it is, doesn't matter.

Just need to be around people and an easy way is with an introduction.

Shakespeare-Bot · 2021-05-16T10:30:15+00:00

Go to a Latin country. You may have missed your boat on that in the states

2udaylatif · 2021-05-16T07:36:24+00:00

You have a lot going for you it sounds like but you are out of practice. You are the getting back out there guy.

Most women won't hit on men. Not the way you think. So right off the bat your assessment of your looks is off. If you want women you have to take action and push the interactions.

First thing to boost your confidence and help you out is update your look. Get some new clothes. r/mensfashion is good. Or you can hire a personal stylist or shopper. Get a new haircut. You want to look your best and also look like a new man. That will give you a confidence boost.

If you have longer hair cut a bit off and get it a little neater. If you have short hair maybe grow it out a bit.

So get some new style. Switch a few things up looks wise. It will free you up mentally to the change you are about to undertake since it has been years for you.

BAR 101

You don't have to drink alcohol to be in a bar. Most bars have food too. Go and order some food and drink a non-alcoholic beer in a glass or anything else you want to drink. Look for women in the bar.

Here is the basic hit on women in the bar. If you see a woman you want to talk to on the other side of the bar, tell the bartender you'd like to buy her a drink. The bartender will go over and tell her that you want to buy her a drink. They may even point to you. If she is not interested the bartender will come back to you and tell you that she doesn't want a drink. If that happens it is done. Forget it. If she accepts, wait until the bartender gets her drink. Let her take a sip or 2 then go over and talk to her.

Go to happy hours at bars 3-6PM. There is often a discount and you want to catch the work crowd after work blowing off steam. Try and find the popular happy hour spots for more people.

You can try going out at night but night bars are really hit or miss unless they have an event going on like a band, dj, trivia night, etc. Just depends on the area.

simonviper3 · 2021-05-16T11:47:32+00:00

As someone who done a very similar thing to you I'd say best advice get tinder, go out to bars and be as confident as possible I found that does wonders! If someone rejects you move on to the next one and legit say absolutely anything that's in your head dont overthink the answers. Also I don't think you need to worry about the blue pill because you said you're fit and healthy so I think you have a while before that. And lastly goodluck with it all.

Go_Brr · 2021-05-16T10:49:29+00:00

Go dancing!!! Take classes if you have the body you say you do you'll pop

Agreable_Actuator84 · 2021-05-16T11:28:55+00:00

Need to provide more details such abs or not, bald?, what town are you in, your specific location, height, weight. So much depends on your specific town and hour specific situation to get much helpful advice here.

For example, If you are in a medium sized is town or suburb in the US and a single dad and your kids play sports, well the single moms is f kids who play the same sport are looking for fwb when their kids are with the ex. If that is your cup of tea.

Also suggest getting friend to help you stage pics for dating apps. Can make a difference.

Also, what do you do for fun?

You have to take what you already have and use it to your best advantage.

Eliza03 · 2021-05-16T11:03:40+00:00

I’d say smile at women when they catch your eye. A smile goes a long way! Also, once you find one, don’t rush it and expect anything the first night. Feel free to say you aren’t looking for anything serious and give it a couple/few dates. It’s should happen naturally by then. If she goes on a second date after you told her your intentions of nothing serious, she probably wants the same, but might just need a couple dates to feel comfortable and a lot of us don’t want to feel like sluts.

If I were you, if the sex is good, I’d try to arrange a friends with benefits relationship with rules that if anyone catches feelings it’s over or if anyone starts a relationship with someone else it’s over, maybe also no more than seeing each other once or twice a week. That will allow you to get to know what techniques work on her and master them. Maybe after a few months, move on to a new FWB. It’s better than bedding every woman you can and much safer, even if you use protection. It might also not wear on your psyche as much after a while. Plus, once you’ve established a sexual relationship with a woman, it’s a lot easier to get laid than just fishing for a new woman every time. Might keep you out of your head if you land upon a dry spell.

Sultan-Lannister · 2021-05-16T07:09:18+00:00

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2021-05-16T09:34:09+00:00

Go to a fashion/style adviser, you can afford it. Fashion brings you from an awkward dad (whether you have kids or not) to an eligible bachelor.

Watch some Todd V videos on youtube or better yet buy his program 'The System' and watch your way through that. Really breaks down man to woman interactions in a way that even the most hard-cases like myself can understand.

And you will need to go to bars, most likely. Don't have to drink, but there aren't many other places that are designed for women to flock there, so seems crazy not to.

monkeyeatinggrapes · 2021-05-16T08:37:09+00:00

The best advice I have is to Be confident and Approach women

Hayze_Ablaze · 2021-05-16T12:47:49+00:00

Whatever you do, and there’s a lot of great advice here, please please please tell the people you’re dating that you’re not looking for a relationship. There are lots of gorgeous women who want to have fun carefree interactions, especially if you’re throwing in exciting adventures and gifts, so you don’t need to hurt people or trick anyone. Stay honest and have a great time. Wishing you all the luck!

2021-05-16T10:33:59+00:00

Man you are in your prime years, just try more by having a standard of asking at least 10 women a month and you will have no problem getting a dozen girl a year. I would have recommand a YouTube channel ( entrepreneur in cars) I assure you that nothing will be more useful than that. Btw: for the physical part just ignore it you are a mature man and it doesn't matter for you at this age. And for the compliments it doesn't mean anything because most men 99% doesn't get them anyway.

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