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[–]Lead ModeratorThrowawayPUA 18 points19 points20 points 9 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
For maximum efficiency, use the Theta Coefficient with the Schliemann Transform to reduce demangement.
No wait, there is no such thing.
You must stop looking for reasons you can't find women, and start looking for reasons you can find women.
[–]Sinenominibus 9 years ago [recovered] (2 children) | Copy Link
I like your advice and style a lot, you are always motivating, could you expand a bit the last paragraph though? I feel like I'm missing something obvious
[–]Lead ModeratorThrowawayPUA 5 points6 points7 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Your mind is sabotaging itself. You are looking for reasons why it is hard to meet women. And your mind is very effective in creating those excuses, which are all true for you so you should believe them, and then take action anyway. You must change your mindset, and start seeing reasons why you can succeed, rather than looking for reasons you will fail.
[–]Sinenominibus1 point 9 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
Ohh, now it's much clearer. Now that you made me think about it, I always imagine myself failing at what I am about to do. That's a great mindset for work and study, but for everything else it's a pain in the ass.
Do you have any idea how to free myself from this? Any mental exercise/routine/jedi mind trick you know?
Btw, thanks a lot, your help is really enlightening:D
[–]DaygameCoach 5 points6 points7 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Go out, approach, and don't worry about rejection. When woman a gives you a YES or a NO...it is great. Why is a NO good? Because it doesn't waste your time...like a MAYBE can. So, if she isn't appropriate for you for any reason...she is doing you a favor by not wasting your time...she is getting out of your way so you can approach other women until you find the right one(s).
Now, kill the self-limiting beliefs and excuses and approach 10 women a day for a year.Then get back to us and let us know how it went. And have fun...it's important. And...you are the PRIZE.
I wholeheartedly agree with your ideas, but I simply don't meet 10 women a day unless I'm at the university.
The point is that I rationally don't fear rejection, but I still kinda feel scared when I tell myself to approach, and then I don't. It's something beyond reason.. Also, I tell myself: if she said "yes" where could I take her for a date? And I panic internally
Also, in my free time I never find women close to my age. That's why I'm here.
[–]letsriseup 2 points3 points4 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
u have the most important thing in check (logistics - big city)
this alone gives u more opportunities than any stud in bumfuk nowhere ever will
if u can't do well in this env, there's no excuses
also, ur confusing priorities...ur goal is to get better at seduction...not get an interesting life
I see too much "become interesting" advice thrown around in seduction forums...personally I don't give a chit about all that
Be boring as fuk...BUT master the stages of seduction...playing the game right will bear results more than any "interesting" hobby will
[–]MindsEvolve 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Use meetup.com to find other "nerds." There are lots of interesting AND hot women out there. You can definitely bring up the music at some point in the conversation and use that to your advantage. I also play a variety of instruments in the progressive metal realm, but I also learned some John Mayer and things which doesn't hurt with women either. It's very easy to meet interesting women this way. Use the world to funnel your dream girl to you.
-Evan Magor - Honest Dating Coach - Anyone who wants an awesome dating life can schedule a FREE 30 minute skype session with me: calendly.com/EvanMagor
Meetup.com, I'll give it a shot when I'll be back home. i simply hope it is popular here in my country.
Yeah, I feel I could be somewhat an interesting man for women. Too bad I rarely find women to have a nice conversation with..
[–]LavenderSmuggler 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
How old are you?
[–]Sinenominibus 9 years ago [recovered] (4 children) | Copy Link
I'm 20. And if it may help, I can drive. I have quite some freedom, I just don't know how to make use of it
[–]LavenderSmuggler 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago* (3 children) | Copy Link
You should go on tinder, honestly. Most people your age meet people by going out and when you go out you most likely find people who also like going out.
I'm a girl and am similar to you. I don't like going out how most of my friends do. Similar interests. when I was 19 I made the mistake of meeting someone out and when we were dating that's all he wanted to do. Very hard to keep up. Not very mentally stimulating.
It's not like I don't like going out per se, I love going to concerts (too bad I always miss the ones I like), I love hanging around with my friends. But that doesn't net me many women, especially with my friends.
I never thought in that way though. I never tried tinder, can you give me any tips on what to do/what to avoid doing with my profile? A woman's perspective is surely precious.
[–]LavenderSmuggler 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
By going out, I meant bars. You could meet someone at a concert and you would then know you have a similar taste in music. The best advice I can give is, if you have a pet, put a picture of the two of you in your profile picture. Don't post pictures of a large group of guys and none of you by yourself.
Well, good for me I have a couple of cats, so I'm pretty covered on that side. I thought that taking pictures of my self and one of my cats gave much more of a "crazy cat man" vibe than someone attractive, but I may be wrong (this means, I will follow your advice)
No pictures of me by myself? Not even selfies/face shots? I get why I should avoid photos with my group of friends, but why not pics with me by myself? Not even me playing (no concert/band photo sadly)?
Btw, thanks a lot for your help :)
[–]IronManSeduction 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Hi Sinenominibus,
Here are a few places that I have had success with. Feel free to add to my list:
Also, if you are comfortable approaching women walking on the street, then your possibilities have just expanded exponentially.
Yeah, the hardest part is approaching women on the street, but I will have to bite the bullet and just do it. The part that scares me is starting a conversation. If there's some kind of connection/chemistry/whatever, I become a very interesting conversationalist, but getting started it's the hardest part by far.
It would help immensely if women didn't always go in couples/groups with their friends, I already have AA, and that just makes it worse. I know it's possible to approach like that, but not for a noob like me.
Do you think that art exhibits/museums are a good place to find chicks? There are often very cool exhibits in my city and that may be a good start to find interesting women
[–]WathupSP 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Cooking classes, science clubs/groups, book discussion groups. Dude. Its so fucking easy. Just get out of your comfort zone. You have things you like, you also have things you dont know if you like them but want to try them. JUST TRY THEM.
[–]j911kr 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
There's an app called Tinder?...
[–]Sinenominibus 9 years ago [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
I thought about that, but I can't take a decent picture of myself. I always look like a moron or someone who's high as fuck. Any ideas to take a better picture?
[–]j911kr 2 points3 points4 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This here https://youtu.be/ff7nltdBCHs This is a favorite of reddit and it's pretty awesome. It completely transformed my selfie game.
[–]newtrowaway53 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Just go out
[–]Justachillday -3 points-2 points-1 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
you live in a big city.. you say you're a smart guy.. but you can't put 1 and 1 together..
you sound like you think you're better than everyone else, hint, you're not
Wow, why all the hate? I'm a terrible writer and english is my second language, I did not want to give you such a bad impression of myself.
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