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mlpbrandon1 · 2021-01-31T19:31:31+00:00

Seek your own validation, seek your own happiness first. Cause at the end of the day, your not afraid of losing her, it’s her loss.

hunterpua · 2021-01-31T19:52:39+00:00

How good are you with girls and how often do you meet new ones?

If you struggle to find girls who would be willing to give you the time of day then it makes sense that you'd easily get invested in rare one that does.

The solution: Get good with girls. Do all the self improvement stuff like going to the gym, dressing better, improving your skills, improving your career, working on mental issues, etc but also get better at communicating with them. Get good at conversations, understanding the right time to do different things, learn to read situations with them, learn to escalate smoothly, learn to influence, etc.

While you do that, also sort out the second problem: Not meeting new girls frequently enough.

Unless you mutually decide to be in a relationship with a girl, you're single and you're free to see as many people as you want.

Its not wrong to pick up a new girl while waiting for a first date with different girl. Just like its not wrong for that girl you're going on a date with to give her number to a guy she met while she was on her way to the date.

Single people are allowed to do that. If you milk your singlehood and see lots of girls all the time then it'll be very hard to get over-invested in one.

This approach is better than the make-yourself-busy approach because while doing other things you can still be thinking about the one girl you're talking to.

But if there are multiple girls that all appeal to you and you feel like you always have someone to fall back on then each individual girl will feel less valuable by default.

Its like how you look at an apple knowing you have a full fridge vs being so poor that you could only afford that one apple.

KingoftheNorth412 · 2021-02-01T01:12:06+00:00

Do you set goals? If so what are they. That should be your focus. Stay busy and work on yourself.

HandsumSquidwerd · 2021-02-01T06:30:59+00:00

Just because you met one woman doesn’t mean that you need to automatically stop seeking out other women. A woman agreeing to on a date with you is not a serious commitment at all. Even if she’s been around for a couple dates there’s no reason to expect commitment.

Diaz_Bros_Real · 2021-02-01T19:56:23+00:00

Abundance is the key to dissolving fear.

Invest your time and energy into your future vision.

And learn how attraction really works. Not by reading some guru's philosophy but by going out and actually testing those theories.

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