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bl1y · 2013-05-19T02:41:17+00:00

This happens to almost everyone at some point. Hell, it happened to me tonight, also with a shy girl, just couldn't pull the trigger. And to make this failure to seize the day worse, we were watching Dead Poets Society.

There's not any magical solution to this, just something has to click in your brain that says "Fuck it."

The only thing I can think of that will help is to try to become more impulsive in other circumstances. Keeping safety and stupidity in mind, the next time you want to do something, just go do it. Try to identify in your life when you're having that same mental block and try to get over it.

recyclablebantha · 2013-05-19T06:58:45+00:00

I notice that she's playing with her hair and remember that I read somewhere on this subreddit that it's usually means a girl wants to kiss you.

Just a brief note. I would seriously dispense with the idea that Behavior A = B. If you get wrapped up in looking for little details before you can act, you're going to miss SO much information that a girl is just handing you ALL the time.

Regardless, it sounds like you had a good impression of her attraction to you, though...... so that's good.

rgravano · 2013-05-19T07:34:44+00:00

If she's shy find something she's into to connect with her about, or like others have said just lower your standard of what you need to say and self amuse, if you're having fun she will.

Anyway it's obvious that she's into you so just escalate. If you're having trouble going for the kiss, try this.

As you're talking, find a way to get face to face to her. Pull her in by the hips, then try to get forehead to forehead as you talk, or atleast be an inch or two from her face as you're talking. Gauge her comfort level. I like to call this the splash zone (kickass academy). If she doesn't move away, go in for the kiss. If you don't feel it, touch her cheek with your lips as you talk. From there you can jump into the kiss much more comfortably if she doesn't pull away.

n1cey · 2013-05-19T02:12:33+00:00

Sometimes tension mess with conversation.

Don't be afraid to be the weird who says everything that pops into you head.

I was on a BBQ date with a shy girl the other day, conversation was a bit slow. So I read what was on the label on a juice box and started to talk about my juice prefrences, which got the conversation going again. We talked about all sorts of shit, but though it all, my eyes were on her. Isolated later, got close and kissed. After the kissing, conversation was flowing much better.

Next time, calm yourself, isolate, get close and kiss. Words are not that imporant, body language and eye contant is everything.

0x48656c6c6f · 2013-05-19T02:41:32+00:00

Holding eye contact can be a bit intense, so I wouldn't take her looking away as a negative cue. Playing with her hair doesn't mean she for sure wants to kiss you. Ending up at her place watching TV is a much bigger indicator. I feel like you're trying to go through this checklist sweating all the small details and missing the very obvious stuff.

For watching TV, I often find it much easier to transition into a cuddling position and then move in for the kiss.

What are you two doing when you meet up with each other? You wrote so much about your first two meetings but nothing about these meetups. Why haven't you setup more dates that end up with the same opportunity as your previous one?

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