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[–]-PlushToys- 8 points9 points10 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
She was pretty clear. It might be that she found someone else close to her and she wants to respect dating that person. If she doesn’t want to continue, get another fwb.
[–]quinnmcd 6 points7 points8 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
No you should respect her decision and text her back that you understand and hope for the best for her.
[–]aepr88 4 points5 points6 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
She is upfront and honest with you. She deserves the same from you.
[–]spiralguy3[🍰] 4 points5 points6 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You soft next her. Google Blackdragon's article on soft nexting to learn how to do it right. Do NOT become her orbiter. If you do it right chances are she'll come back. Meanwhile start gaming other girls so you aren't dependent on just one for sex.
[–]getyourlifeplease 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
I had a fwb who traveled to my area once a month. And we would have a great time when he was here...it was cool. But when I got tired of the casual stuff, and I was trying to pursue a real relationship, my fwb asked about 'us' being a couple. He was fun, and good in bed, but honestly NOT who I saw myself with down the line for a relationship - so I ended it. It felt awkward knowing HE wanted more but I wasnt thinking the same - yet I was pursuing other men by dating and all. I couldve kept seeing him when he came to town, but the truth was I didnt like him like that and I didnt want more with him...so I moved on.
Your fwb was clear she wants to move on. No matter the reason or whatever...so respect that and let it go. Yall arent a couple - you are f$& buddies, no more no less. And she doesnt want to f$% anymore.
[–]BigBeardDaddyK 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Just let her know you appreciate the honesty and wish her good luck in life. She's a real one for being straight up with you. Alot of females are either on some bullshit, pull back or just ghost you out of nowhere once they're done with you. That level of decency she showed you deserves some decency on your part too.
[–]Shadow__Account 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Just my thoughts: In my experience these kinds of statements a lot of times are more meant to indicate she wants you to be a leader and do something about the situation, she is frustrated about it and probably wants more. She basically put the ball in your hands.
What i did a couple of times is sort of wave it off, like yeah i totally understand what you mean or something like that, anyway let's watch this movie together next time,it is amazing. She will probably continue the relation you guys have and after a while bring it up again.
So to be honest if you just want to have sex with her and not commit i would sort of ignore her concern and lead by advancing what you guys were already doing, that being said i feel like you would at the same time fundamentally slowly destroy what you guys have and i am not sure if it would be mentally all healthy.
I did these things from a scarcity perspective and like she already brought up, it's probably healthier to either cut it off and advance your life or go for it together.
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