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2019-10-12T11:51:00+00:00

Talking about going from zero to hero . Good job ! ;)

TheThomaswastaken · 2019-10-12T12:05:22+00:00

For me, when you’re already sitting at a table full of fun people getting shots for free, why would you want to walk away to talk to some pretty rando?

ZlatanAgrees · 2019-10-12T15:08:14+00:00

You talked with so many women, got a number, got invited to a homeparty and all in 1 day. Wow. I would feel exhausted after talking to 1 woman😅

paddywacknack · 2019-10-12T12:17:02+00:00

Well I was coming here to tell you I did the same thing last week by going to the movies by myself. But you went way beyond what I did. Awesome job

2019-10-12T13:25:26+00:00

This is inspiring for someone like me.. Well done bro

Michaelpolerman · 2019-10-12T13:52:11+00:00

Damn for one night you talked to a shit ton of girls. That’s impressive. I wish I had the balls you have.

autisticspymaster1 · 2019-10-12T17:39:56+00:00

That was impressive, mate. Good job.

mashyoo · 2019-10-12T12:31:43+00:00

Well done mate, shit hot first attempt. Keep it up!

GomboAndGimlee · 2019-10-12T16:46:05+00:00

Solo is better than staying in but I think the ideal situation is going out with one other person. Most women will be in groups of 2 or more. Your group of 2 will match up with a group of 2. While you're talking to one your friend is talking to the other.

zakary91 · 2019-10-12T17:40:48+00:00

I just started gaming, and im all solo lol it's hard but the adrenaline is too good. I'm taking it slowly but I feel I can free myself from these chains of social anxiety. Also I need to talk to other people too not only cute girls.

erasmo2784 · 2019-10-12T17:53:34+00:00

I’m thinking about going solo tonight since all my friends are now cuffed and never want to go out. Gonna be my first time. How did you deal with your nervousness? I’m just nervous thinking about it

sussso · 2019-10-12T18:19:35+00:00

Nice I’ll give it a try but tell me what type bars where you going? What time?

i-ban-ez · 2019-10-12T19:06:02+00:00

bro that sounds like such a perfect first nice out, if I had that experience I would be so happy

Sordsmen345 · 2019-10-12T19:29:51+00:00

Holy shit dude, you did a fantastic job, I don’t really know how to approach people in public. I’ve been told to open with a compliment but like I don’t want to come on to a girl too strong because honestly I’m not even looking for sex. I just want to meet a nice girl who enjoys spending time with me. But seriously I appreciate you sharing your night with me, gave me some confidence to maybe go out and try this myself.

SABRIAN70 · 2019-10-12T20:07:14+00:00

Totally, can relate!! After a hard week would go out solo to the local spot, some nights are better than others, but enjoying my self going solo, meeting new people, as long as you have a personality and can conversate it's in the bag 👍🏻

sambouzled · 2019-10-12T20:43:58+00:00

Congrats, it’s pretty amazing what you did. And it only gets easier from here on.

It’s interesting that I too was thinking about going out by myself last night after everyone canceled on me. I actually went to the “clubbing street”; But I re-thought my decision and decided to go back home.

My problem was that I don’t drink, and since I didn’t have any friends with me to chill with and have fun, I thought my night will highly rely on me finding some girls to talk to, otherwise I wouldn’t have fun. Thinking about it like that, I decided to go back home.

guywhoisambitious · 2019-10-12T21:16:21+00:00

Hey man do you mind if I ask how old you are?

Eddyx93 · 2019-10-12T21:21:29+00:00

Inspriring! What would you rate yourself pure looks wise out of 10?

mihawkd7 · 2019-10-13T02:29:35+00:00

hey man, you are awesome. I read this a couple hours earlier and said fk it, I am going, too. Didn't go as well as your night, but I managed to go solo and talked to some women. Nothing happened, but I am still happy I did it. Will do it again.

divinesage87 · 2019-10-13T03:04:50+00:00

You did more then most people would do, just have fun!

2019-10-13T04:42:03+00:00

I don't think you give yourself enough credit that was pretty amazing.

UneAmi · 2019-10-13T05:01:56+00:00

Heyyy, this is a genuinely awesome story about not being alone. I wish I had done this when I was in my 20s. I spent so many nights alone and sad. Playing miserable video games because it was the only to ease my pain of loneliness.

UneAmi · 2019-10-13T05:04:48+00:00

Can you share what were conversations about? I just can't image what to talk about with strangers at a bar or houseparty.

Also, what city/town was this at? I think geography matters when you are talking to strangers.

johnsanpedro · 2019-10-13T16:40:16+00:00

Well, there ya go.

I’ve never felt comfortable in groups or crowds. And I recoil at the idea of others speaking for me. And it wasn’t until I was walking into a bar with a couple friends in college and turned away at the door as they were walking in, said I was grabbing a smoke, and as I turned my friend got in my face and demanded to know why I “always find an excuse” to not walk in to a bar or club or show w him and others.

I wasn’t aware I did this. And he was angry about it. What I didn’t say at that moment was: He was the equivalent of a chain of garlic around my neck for any blood sucking opportunities I might have behind that door. He had “DESPERATE” tattooed on his forehead. He hadn’t been laid in years and he “tried” every time he went out. He always bought women drinks. He announced out loud that “we’re hitting it off” and having a “great time”.

He was the polar opposite of how I pulled ass. And I was successful at it. By not being associated with him and his Rasta-colored Tam and Frank Zappa facial hair and haggling w the bartenders after asking strangers if they wanted free drinks.

“I didn’t realize I was doing that. Sorry.” “Well, you do! Every time! And then you walk in alone and approach the rest of us like you didn’t know we’d be there.” “Hooking up w girls is something I do alone.” “Why?” “Because I’m in control.”

And I look stronger. More independent. More self assured. When I’m alone. I’m also more social. More willing to strike up a conversation. More apt to smile.

Friends — in the realm of casual sex — work against me. They are obstacles I have to avoid.

And I realize this stems from my shyness as a kid. My childhood as a poorly trained social being who chose not to fret about not being popular but instead reveled in my outsider vibe. Though still not meeting who I wanted. That would take practice. And practice I did, almost always alone.

But to fly solo and find success, as you mentioned, you have to be versatile with conversation, have to be willing to drop everything and go w an impulse, and goddamit, you gotta be funny.

When you’re 17 - 24 you can rely heavily on looks + clothing + proximity. Cue: sullen tortured poet or misunderstood mathematical genius routines. But as you plunge full on into adulthood, you need a personality to close the deal. You need to recognize a spark and capitalize on that connection.

And this is so much easier when your struggling sexless buddy isn’t handing out kamikazes, telling an uninterested girl he’s so happy to be getting to know her...

“Cheers!”

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