Wanted to write this post to help motivate others and inevitably, motivate myself if I ever get into a rut.

A few months ago, I broke up with a long term girlfriend. Ever since then I've been in a rut on and off. I never got too into seduction before my girlfriend, so as you can imagine, wow approaching a random girl at a bar or club. So foreign to me at this point.

To this point, I don't think I've ever approached the girl I want at a club and said "Hi, I wanted to come over here and introduce myself cause I thought you were gorgeous". If I have, it was definitely the alcohol talking which doesn't really lend itself to learning opportunities.

Anyways, I was recently in Vegas (yes, I know, everything is on easy mode) with a table with some guys (yes, I know, this makes it easier). Anyways when I arrived, I was completely sober. Had 1 drink. As I was standing around, I see this gorgeous girl off to the side.

Well I don't have a drink yet, everyone else is still standing around, maybe I should wait until I get a little tipsy, maybe I should approach some other girls first to warm up. A lot of the typical approach anxiety thoughts.

I get a drink, and she's no longer there. Man. I've seen this story play out way too many times. Approach anxiety gets in the way of approaching the girl you want. Maybe approaching any girls at all. Get drunk. Maybe the alcohol will do the talking and I'll get some girl when my standards are lowered too.

She reappears. I think to myself, if I don't overcome this AA, the same story will repeat. If I don't change myself, nothing in my life will ever change. She might disappear again and not reappear. Fuck it. I walk over to her. Stick out my hand. As awkward as it sounds coming out of my mouth, say something along the lines of "Hi I saw you from afar and thought you were gorgeous and wanted to introduce myself". Honestly probably messed up a few words cause shit man I've never done this sober.

And let me tell you guys, after that first initial approach. You gain so much confidence. I tried talking to every girl after that. A lot of rejections but meh. You ever sometimes feel like the world is your oyster and you can approach anyone? Yep feels like that.

Again I realize that when you're in vegas surrounded by tons of girls and you have a table, everything is a lot easier. But some of the other guys in my table never left the table to talk to anyone. Don't get AA stop you. If you never make a change, your life will always be the same.

Quick edit: since I labeled this as a FR, the first girl I saw in my story that I approached was a successful approach. We danced and flirted all night. Nothing happened beyond that though cause I saw a ring.