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GrandMasterB19 · 2020-08-08T21:08:24+00:00

Inner game development always starts with life goals and creed IMO. It’s far less important to think about what kind of life you want to lead than what kind of man you want to be, if that makes sense. Because the thing is, you are going to make mistakes. You are going to be wrong and miss things and, occasionally, hurt people, even if you don’t mean to.

But starting with a creed lets you determine, to some extent, what kind of mistakes you want to make. It’s far less important that you avoid being wrong a lot (although it helps) than that, when you are wrong, you accept it with grace and use it to accelerate your self development.

Because you will be judged by your mistakes. You will be judged not only by the best that you are capable of, but by the worst thing you’re willing to consider. I think that’s something that a lot of guys miss. In some ways being really attractive or having good on-paper prospects (career, social networks and financials) is a representation of what you can be to a woman, but your mistakes are a better representation of who you are.

And the reason this is applicable to your situation is because attraction is continual. Physical attractiveness works on the very, very first moment she sees you and is at its peak then. After that you have to prove yourself every step of the way. The bar for like, suaveness and intelligence and charm when you first meet a woman is very, very high. So always aim to improve that. But also be aiming to pull the worst of your behavior in line with the best of it. It has something to do with what I would call stability, integrity, and directness.

GrandMasterB19 · 2020-08-08T22:05:23+00:00

You need some charisma and some understanding of female dynamic as well as male dynamic (most men overlook this one). Otherwise you're just a ripped handsome dude that's still shy and can't talk to girls. Good news is - if you've got the fundamentals in check, girls will make it easier on you once you give them a taste of your charm.

SadBananaCat · 2020-08-08T22:53:04+00:00

There multiple factors, but 3 main ones that you should consider. Game, attractiveness, and social status. Consider posting a picture and we can give you honest feedback, you could be aiming too High with women? Next, how’s your social life? Are you a social man with lots of friends? This will help you a lot with women. And with game, one thing I would say is to start with women you know you can get and play the latter game. And apply game to your social life. Game has a lot to do with regular conversation, so start going out more and meeting new people.

Dodechaedron · 2020-08-08T23:51:09+00:00

Social success: build a career, make money. Women will come, guaranteed.

401kisfun · 2020-08-09T00:58:25+00:00

This is based on observation. You can’t just focus on one thing. Everything should be thought of just like brushing your teeth. In terms of excelling. Job, career, physique, attire, good conversation. Not thinking any of these things give you a superior position in a conversation with anyone.

K1ngKyle1 · 2020-08-09T01:18:16+00:00

Its the age old truth, looks for guys aren't as important as you think. I was in the same boat. Athletic, good looking, got my life together but being attractive to opposite sex is not as easy for for men, just based on looks.

Some really solid advice here from other comments. I'd say now instead of looking confident, you have to be confident.

Being attractive is not something you do, its something you are.

You know your a catch, now start acting like it. Don't get cocky (even tho that might help a little) but be fearless in expressing yourself. Sounds like a little more inner game/confidence and your well on your way to being the ladies man of 2020!

Good luck brother

caesarfecit · 2020-08-09T01:45:41+00:00

You're over-pursuing.

If you're good looking/in shape enough to get female attention on that alone, you should be getting at least some lays.

My guess is you over-pursue and this makes the girls get bored and flake or try and friend zone you, yes?

Get to the bottom of your need for female validation and you'll likely see better results. For me it was about getting over my free-floating anxiety and porn addiction.

It's either something like that, or you're totally locking up around women and not gaming them at all, but my first guess is what it smells like.

nazario1017 · 2020-08-10T07:48:29+00:00

Get better

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