So I made a video in which I show some examples of the conversations I can have with girls when I'm feeling like finding a hookup.

I'd like to share what works for me.

It's all about going in there step by step.

You want to start by saying something a tiny lil bit wild, something that has a sexual connotation in any way and see how the girl you're talking to reacts.

Because if you go bold and talk about anal in the first message you're gonna scare people away.

It's not the fact you're talking about sex that's scary, it's the fact being too bold makes people uncomfortable and leaves no mystery or sexual tension.

If you watch the video in an example I'm talking about choking and spanking. But not in the first message. It's all about how you bring it up.

I like to do this as a "sex ladder". You initiate it and start soft, and the more she's is open to it, the deeper you dig.

The usual sequence goes like this :

  • Opening message.
  • Flirty line that has a possible sexual connotation.
  • Either doubling down on the sexual vibe or staying soft depending on how the girl reacts.
  • Vibing a bit back and forth, repeating the previous step over a few times.
  • Pushing for the idea of a date.
  • Going for her contact or directly setting up a date.

That usually doesn't take more than 10 messages and if the girl is looking for sex too, it's a very smooth way to figure it out and to make it happen.