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[–][deleted] 11 points12 points13 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
No. No I am not.
[–]Shivam5483 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
😂😂 good
[–]AnywhereDue 5 points6 points7 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Which one of your name is fake? Shivam or Rishi?
[–]Shivam5483 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Lol 😂😂 Both are real. Shivam is my nickname.
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[–]Shivam5483 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (21 children) | Copy Link
Do game
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[–]Shivam5483 -1 points0 points1 point 5 years ago (19 children) | Copy Link
How many approaches did you do till now?
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (18 children) | Copy Link
More than 20 girls in my life, and most were online so they didn't know my height. I had only one "date" in real life from which nothing happened and she ghosted after.
[–]Shivam5483 9 points10 points11 points 5 years ago (17 children) | Copy Link
Yeah so basically you did 0 cold approached. Plus 20 is nothing. Don't expect anything before you approach at least a 100 girls. Height is nothing bro. Maybe you did something else wrong on that date and you're putting the blame on your height. The fact is you don't know. So why not find out. Just do 100 approached and see if they all reject you because of your height (which is technically not possible to know because there is much more to a person than his height)
[–]ImNotMe314 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Is height nothing when I’m 5’3” in the USA which has an average male height of 5’9”?
No if you don't let it.
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[–]Shivam5483 7 points8 points9 points 5 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
No you won't
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I'm only posting here because my account is too young to post on incels and FA.
[–]Shivam5483 5 points6 points7 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Cool bro
[–]gim_san 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
You haven't even try cold approaching you said. Do at least 5 or so then maybe you'll see. You are currently using your height as an excuse. There are tons of guys your height doing well with girls.
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
Corona virus. I cold approached a girl in school who was also nerdy and had similar interests and she literally told me to never come close to her again. All I said was "hello, what are you working on?"
[–]gim_san 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
It happens you just had bad luck maybe she was in a bad mood. keep trying man you won't stop just because of her, will you?
[–][deleted]3 points 5 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
That is the worst reaction I got, but I never got a positive one. All were some variation of "don't talk to me", some girls were just too nice to say it explicitly.
[–]Shivam54832 points 5 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
Did any of these girl even ever explicitly said that they are rejecting you because of your height? You are just making assumptions my friend. You can either live your life and die thinking "it isn't gonna work anyway" or you can atleast try and find out. At least you can die in peace that it really was your height or for that matter it really was you who was not worth it.
As I said bro the universe doesn't give a fuck about your height or your failures or rejection. Why should you?
Apart from that. Lemme give you some practical advice. Try them on at least 5 girls and I can guarantee you that you'll see a difference.
EDIT - If girls are giving you think kind of reaction, then my friend, you might be coming off as a creep, which you're obviously not. But girls have to always have their guard up. It can easily be fixed.
Approach with strong eye contact, a decent distance, not too far not too close, loud voice (how to know if you're not loud enough? Well, if you're trying not to let the other people around you and the girl know that you're approaching her, then you need to speak up), and most importantly, please have a genuinely big smile on your face.
EDIT - Lastly, identify what the girl might be feeling. If you approach after keeping all these things in mind, and she still seems confused, sacred, or creeped out. Then acknowledge the situation. Say something like "I know this a lil random/awkward/weird. I don't mean to scare/creep you out. Just wanted to say hi"
Also, if a girl does say something like "never talk to me again" or even "fuck off" or something like that. Don't take it personal bro. As the other guy said. Maybe she is in a bad mood. Maybe her cat died. Maybe her best friend bullied her. Maybe her dad beats up her mom. You never know what's going on in someone else's life. Also, don't think that you are worthless because someone said fuck off to you. Do you think your mom also thinks your worthless? I guess not. She loves you because she knows you all your life unlike that random girl who only knows you for a few minor seconds. Her opinion literally doesn't fucking matter. Instead of taking it personal, take it as feedback to improve your communication skills.
[–][deleted]2 points 5 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
Yes, more than half rejected me for my height. I had an online gf for 2 months who, on the day before our first real life date, ghosted after I said I'm 5'9 (she is 5'7). Another called me her little brother when I tried to make a move after she gave IOI.
That's only 1 girl and she didn't explicitly said that. Plus, online anything doesn't count bro. Get in the real world. There is huge fucking difference. I can related to you to some level, as I also used to this online shit until a few years ago. But seriously bro. Online anything doesn't count. She doesn't know anything about you online. Fuck that. Get some real life experience.
As I said before, coronavirus. I'm going to uni next year and texting a few girls who flirt with me but I won't see them until September. I think until then I should focus on working out and improving my looks because I have been neglecting to take care of myself for years.
[–]Shivam54831 point 5 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
Sure bro. Do that. But don't go from online to real world. Go real world to online. And try out cold approaching bro. Don't rely on the girls that you already know or your uni. Go to New place and talk to random fucking people.
[–]SnooMachines1406 4 points5 points6 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Great post. Too many times i make excuses to not do all i know i can. Sales people have to go through hundreds nos before getting a yes, i know it sucks but whats the alternative being alone forever. You live once don’t you wanna know that you lived your life to its fullest not being shackled by your mind’s limitations.
[–]Shivam5483 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
At least you can die at peace knowing that you gave your best and found out ;)
[–]catoraimon 5 years ago [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
Nice post, very clear, nuanced and elaborate. I like how you are focussed on personal growth and having a life with goals and how to navigate your excuses-mindset
Hell yeah 🔥
[–]CenaSmackDown 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
People are going to try to fight you everywhere for any number of reasons. A couple weeks ago I almost got into like 5 fights in a week for literally no reason by crazy angry people.
[–]Shivam5483 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Yeah apart from game. I come across many pepple that just wants to fight for no fucking reason. Sometimes I get triggered and sometimes I stay calm and exit the situation. Fight for what's actually worth it.
[–]CenaSmackDown 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
What's funny is that most people with the biggest mouth can't fight at all. It's just a front they make to try to scare people and act tough. 9/10 times they'd probably go down with one punch
[–]Watercrown123 4 points5 points6 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
As an absolute beginner #4 is pretty helpful. I’m constantly making excuses like “She’s busy” or “She just doesn’t look approachable” or “There’re too many people around”. I really need to just kill those excuses and just start approaching. Thanks for the advice man.
Your welcome
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[–]Shivam5483 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Anything new or unfamiliar causes anxiety, stress, fear and all that shit. It's your mind's way to keep you "safe" from uncertain situations. Kinda like darkness. Humans are scared of darkness because we don't know what's there, we don't know what's gonna happen, we don't know if someone's gonna kill us. So our brain wants us to be in familiar comfortable situations as much as possible to keep us "safe" and it encourages that behaviour by making us feel good (what you said about less anxiety inducing)
Whatever you're planning bro. Do it. Spend money on yourself. Spend money to make yourself better. Good luck brother.
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[–]Shivam5483 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Absolutely fine bro. No worries. As to finding open-minded people. They are all around you bro. They just don't come out because of the shame. If you can make someone feel safe and not judged, you will be surprise to know how wild people, especially girls can be, doesn't matter which cultures. Sex is embedded in humans. You just need to master the art of pickup/game.
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[–]Shivam5483 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Good luck
[–]Iam_Siddhant 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Whats your score senpai and how old are you ?
[–]Shivam5483 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
What do you mean by score? I think I pretty much said it in the beginning of the post. I'm a beginner. Didn't even get laid once from cold approach. But I'm getting there.
[–]Iam_Siddhant 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Oh.. the post was so long and mesmerising that I forgot this detail mentioned at the start.
I'm 19 though. Replied you on chat
[–]IllegalAlcoholic 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Post more bro
Bro did you like the post or my style of writing more. I'm a professional content writer and I do this for a living. I'm actually thinking about starting a blog or something. I'll be posting interesting stuff there. But yeah lemme know. Why do you want me to post more? Is it the content or my style of writing or mix of both?
[–]SteadfastStriver 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Look at yourself from another perspective: Especially in India where having a real and stable relationship is very important ; hitting on random girls who are in reality married or committed makes you whoever’s hitting on her like a loser.
Kinda paints the picture of one of those guys that whistle at every girl that walks by and tries to hit on them. Paints a really ugly and low picture of those who are in the habit of doing such things.
Not saying that you are , but pointing out that that’s what you and your friends definitely look like if you do that kinda stuff.
And that, bro, will give bad results
I don't agree with you at all. Whistling and eve-teasing is totally different from cold approach. If anything, most of the girls love it when we go up to them and talk to them directly like a man. Far from a loser. But I understand. You're in your limitied mindset of the world. Not your fault.
On top of that, if complimenting girls with a genuine interest and making small talk with them makes us look like a loser or something, then we have to change it.
Btw, judging by your comment. I guess you don't know a lot about pickup, game, and cold approach. Maybe do a little research.
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