Did I go too far?

norwegiandoggo · 2024-09-16T06:13:22+00:00

It's a bit hard to say, we don't know how she felt about it. But in general: it's wrong to just grab someone's ass when they are playfully rejecting you or flirting. Escalation should happen more gradually if you're not sure about her interest level. So that means that holding her hand, hugging, and kissing should come before grabbing her ass. Grabbing her ass is for later, like when she's already enthusiastic about kissing you. It should typically not be the first thing you do as that can quickly feel like an over-reach.

SplashGodNate · 2024-09-16T05:41:24+00:00

If she allowed you to and gave you her number, I’m pretty sure she was fine with it. Kinda just have to use context clues

No_Hat9118 · 2024-09-16T05:41:31+00:00

If u have to ask..

DarkTropper1 · 2024-09-16T17:52:50+00:00

First, I can't tell you if you sexually assaulted someone. That's a legal definition with serious consequences, and it's not my place to make that judgment. But I can tell you that your behavior was disrespectful, inappropriate, and crossed a major boundary.

Here's why:

Lack of Consent: You were grabbing her ass without explicit permission. Laughing and pushing you off is NOT consent. It's a clear sign she was uncomfortable.
Escalation Without Calibration: You jumped straight to groping without building a genuine connection, without reading her cues, without establishing clear consent for that level of physical intimacy.
Objectification: You focused solely on the physical, treating her like an object for your gratification rather than a human being with feelings and boundaries.

The "I Feel Like That With Any Sexual Interaction" Red Flag:

Brother, this statement is a HUGE red flag. It suggests a deeper issue with how you view women and sex. You need to do some serious soul-searching and consider seeking professional help to address these feelings.

Changing Your Behavior:

Respect Boundaries: Always, ALWAYS obtain explicit verbal consent before escalating physical intimacy. A "yes" means a "yes," anything else means "no."
Focus on Connection: Game isn't about conquest, it's about building genuine connections. Get to know a woman, listen to her, respect her boundaries.
Calibration is Key: Pay attention to her verbal and nonverbal cues. If she's pulling away, laughing nervously, or giving you any signs of discomfort, STOP.

Remember, a true high-value man respects women, treats them as equals, and understands the importance of consent.

NuncaContent · 2024-09-16T08:44:38+00:00

Excuse me, what is wrong with being called a player?

Own it! You enjoy girls! You enjoy their company and they enjoy yours!

dystopia061 · 2024-09-16T16:44:55+00:00

No? If you did it would be obvious

Affectionate-Ant4888 · 2024-09-16T17:55:29+00:00

I dont understand your post lol, if she alllowed you to do that she has high interest, also first time seeing each other, I dont understand how you got the number after groping her lmao

FirmGuitar5411 · 2024-09-17T05:23:11+00:00

I had an encounter like this. She was wearing spicy lipstick she told me, so I used it as an opportunity to try to kiss her twice. She rejected me, but was very open and liking of me touching the small of her back, rub her inner thighs, grab her ass and touch her “cum spot” on her back. I didn’t really understand, but it ended up fizzling out, but at least I can leave that interaction knowing I was not friend zoned and she probably did not tell any of her friends that I am here to host a faggot hang out. Strictly sexual tension and escalation on my part, so I know she views me as a mate and not a friend.

Title	Did I go too far?
Author	Horror_Driver_1269
Upvotes	5
Comments	25
Date	September 16, 2024 5:08 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/1fhwtug/did_i_go_too_far/
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