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Did I make a mistake?

massimovolume

July 19, 2017

3 upvotes

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I was in a fwb with this older woman and things were going fine, sex was great but at a point I felt like I was losing my coldness and starting to feel jealous and needy towards her without any reason. She also had some behaviours I didn't like at all, so I decided to not contact her for a period of time.

Around two weeks ago she contacted me for making plans and I told her "look I don't like when you said x and you did y and I don't accept to be treated like this. I don't think I want to see you again" she replied with ok.

Now I realize my sms was a bit too strong, she did nothing extremely bad, but I wanted to be sure I don't accept to be treated the way she did.

Do you think that after some time when I regain my "mental clarity" and she changes her behavior, I can contact her again or my message was too strong and she probably doesn't want to see me again?

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Title	Did I make a mistake?
Author	massimovolume
Upvotes	3
Comments	9
Date	July 19, 2017 8:45 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/6obdmu/did_i_make_a_mistake/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/seduction/did-i-make-a-mistake.1430636 https://theredarchive.com/post/1430636

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[–]p1243 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link

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[–]massimovolume[S] 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago* (2 children) | Copy Link

She didn't do nothing too bad, but I was in a mental state where I was very involved in this "relationship" like thinking constantly about her, checking her fb often, I would say I was in love with her, but that might be too strong of a word. This is what is bothering me:

I was at her birthday party and she was greeting everyone in warm manner, hugging them, etc instead she basically ignored me and she greeted me with a wave and a cold facial expression. I didn't think much about this initially because I asked her the reason why she acted like this and she told me there were a lot of people. I almost believed her.
I ( let's call me John) was at the beach with a handful of friends and with her. At some point she asks to a friend of mine Frank to put the beach umbrella. For some reason he doesn't want to and says "John could do it" and she addressing frank said "you are a man". How she said it implied I'm not a man. I later asked what she meant with that phrase and she told me she noticed frank didn't want to put the umbrella and wanted to insist. But I don't know, I don't think I buy this. I think she has a plan to hurt me, but I only have theories why.

Do you think I'm over reacting? I wouldn't give a fuck about this if I wasn't that involved about her, but I was at that time.

[–]microActive 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

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[–]massimovolume[S] 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link

she was much more affectionate at the start of our "dating". After a bit she told me that she loves me, but I didn't so I didn't reciprocate. At the start for me it was a fwb scenario so I didn't have any feelings for her. I usually would went out with her and then have sex at her house, then I would leave and not contact her for a couple of months. Then repeat.

After a week since she said she loved me, she ( let's call her Jane) went out together a friend of mine Laura, Laura confessed that Jane cried for a person, a friend asked Laura if I was the reason and she said it's a secret, laughing. So there's an high chance me was the reason.

Also I went out with her and met a friend of her who asked if I was her boyfriend and she replied "no, I wish"!.

So many clues points to the fact she wanted a relationship but the fact I didn't reciprocate her love you, my disinterested behaviour and the age difference ( I'm 27, she is 44), made her lose her interest towards me.

My doubt is if she wanted a relationship, why she didn't tell me anything? She just gave hints but she was never direct. As I said she was never upfront about her feelings so I'm doubting all of this and thinking she might never give a fuck about me in the first place.