Discouraged Tonight

thisisntjet · 2014-06-27T11:11:31+00:00

Why are you gaming so much at a concert? Enjoy it for goodness sakes.

Of course position yourself next to a couple of hot girls at the most. You should be approaching maybe 2-3 maximum. 30 in a small space, awareness of what you're doing is going to be obvious. ESPECIALLY if after every rejection you're going to look like you got rejected.

That said, hang in there. You're only 19. Just keep at it.

Invinciblade · 2014-06-27T06:28:52+00:00

For someone just starting out, it's my opinion that you'll have a better time with day game.

As a general rule of thumb, someone that can pull an 8 day gaming can probably pull a 7 night gaming, and a 6 if they're lucky at a club. Places like clubs and concerts are just harder environments, it's harder to hear each other and their focus is going to be hard to take from the provided entertainment.

So pick a better venue and just keep trying. Don't feel bad for striking out on 90mph pitches during your first at bat.

MasonJarTeaDrinker · 2014-06-27T21:34:13+00:00

I think you should be happy that you at least tried that many approaches...Good for you.

sedditforthewin · 2014-06-28T01:32:52+00:00

Honestly, this is awesome. This is how you get better. The first step is killing that bad feeling of approach rejection by approaching a lot. You want to inure yourself to social pressure while still building up your self esteem by focusing on the things you did well.

There's this concept in the community of unreactivity, or icyness. Being Icy means that the surrounding environment can't emotionally affect you unless you let it. Girls sploosh over this because it sub-communicates you're higher status than them.

Some are saying this will be the worse record you'll have in a day. No if you want to get good, far from it. Rejection is a constant in game, the key is to learn not only to let it roll off you but to actually make it pump you up. You do this by finding it funny. I'm been rejected 70 times in a night, and it was brutal because I was still green, but it was hilarious at points too.

Find a good newbie guide. I like Julien's PIMP but there are plenty of others as long as they teach Attraction -> Comfort/Qualification -> Close model.

sextip · 2014-06-27T07:57:40+00:00

What did you say? Were you with a friend? Maybe you started looking discouraged towards the middle/end and it was a turnoff.

Sadly I am am introvert at heart.

You just got rejected 30 times in one night... I don't think you will ever top that. Your confidence seems to be fine I think the setting was just wrong for you. You won't ever feel as bad as tonight if one girl says, "nah". I think you should be encouraged that you have the nuts to talk to that many people in such a short period of time. You say you're an introvert, next time you're in a comfortable place and you see someone attractive make an effort to ask her an extra question. Say you think your waitress is cute make an effort to make her smile when you ask her a silly question about her attire or the menu. Don't pressure yourself to ask for her number this way you won't feel nervous.

Being disappointed by this is like a golfer saying damn I missed 30 hole in ones this weekend... Yeah but those aren't easy and you just played a shit load of golf... good practice.

You've seen the worst so now you should have confidence to strike up a casual conversation with ease and who knows where it could lead you.

I got a fake number from a girl one time that was 6 digits...

Title	Discouraged Tonight
Author	Sedditfan8
Upvotes	9
Comments	10
Date	June 27, 2014 6:24 AM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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