Does Rejection get easier with time?

so_sick_of_porn · 2020-07-18T04:50:06+00:00

Can I suggest that you meditate on the idea that it is not you, but rather it is something going on in their lives. We can't know all the parts of these women's lives - but there could be heaps of reasons for their behaviour that don't involve anything being wrong with you. Reasonable chance they will reach out when they're ready. Just stay the course and have faith. Life doesn't necessarily get better with a GF by the way - that hasn't been my experience. The wrong woman can really set you back, so please be discriminating and vet them well to avoid regret.

Lusterkx2 · 2020-07-18T05:12:08+00:00

Yes it absolutely does. It’s how I got met my wife.

The truth is...it really hurts! First couple times your brain is going to scramble. You are going to take a look at yourself like “wtf”

What you need to do is step back and breath. RESET! Reset!!!! Every interaction you need to reset when you get rejected.

The key is also to write your experience. You need to understand your formula to approach.

Example would be: don’t cold approach girls who are heading somewhere. Easier to have small conversation at Walmart when they are just slowly browsing aisle.

What you said correctly and not correctly. It’s a learning experience. I am happy you took a stand on yourself and actually said I am not going to wait! Proud of you. One day, one of your approach will be with that person who decided to go out and met someone new. And it was you!

The more chance you take, the more luck you make!

appleORorange · 2020-07-18T05:11:02+00:00

There are 2 sides to this, one is talked about alot, the other is never mentioned.

- Get used to the response, expect to hear no, then your not surprised when you hear it and are used to it

- Mental stability, this is never talked about, its the same as Chinese water torture, which on the surface is real easy, just 1 drip on the head every second, but actually can caused MAJOR long term mental stability issues.

So hearing no, all through your life will have a bad effect on your mental stability, its purely this reason i stopped talking to women, only i was the one letting it happen, so i put a stop to it in aid of greater mental stability and health.

kaasstengels95 · 2020-07-18T08:11:06+00:00

I don't think it gets easier. You just stop giving a fuck.

Kaycarls · 2020-07-18T06:22:44+00:00

You need to make it personal. And i dont think setting your intention to get a gf is the best way to do this. Cause girls are good at reading your intention. Your intention should be set on you want to get to know this person on a personal level. So leave it as it is. Reconnect again when you are already out of list of people you want to connect with. With this, you'll get to know a lot of interesting people. Some are boring ofc! Hope this helps.

junkonejo · 2020-07-18T12:56:45+00:00

Sadly you get used to it, and as someone said it affects your mental stability pretty hard, you get more anxious about the topic and try to find answers, overthinking about what is happening, but the thing is that you have to learn from those mistakes and move on, if there is no good communication with the girl, or if she left you on "delivered" often on purpose, the best you can do is to move on, and stop wasting your time, cuz the girl doesn't want to "hurt" you even when ghosting is doing way worse, but doesn't cause a guilt load to them.

Learn to do a cold aproach, let the girl know you exist and you are concious of her existence, but ignore her, and she will try to catch you attention cuz you will become interesting to her, this is the tricky part cuz you have to trick her into thinking that you are not interested in her but giving subtle hints that you are, (girls tends to drive you crazy with that, and learn a correct way to do so takes time) it is frustrating and left you with no motivation of keep trying, but when it works you will get the correct gal, that will like you truly for who you are and will have a good time.

negdawin · 2020-07-18T14:03:49+00:00

Yes but you have to be doing the right things! Improving yourself, being awesome, etc...
If you neglect those things then game will always be rough on you

manonpoint_com · 2020-07-18T15:08:27+00:00

A few ways. One, you'll get used to it more often. Rejection is really common, and you'll get more accustomed to it. Two, have some successes. Once you start having some success, you'll realize how much is a "numbers game" and you'll get some confidence. Three, don't put yourself in situations where you know you will get rejected. Not saying this is you as I have no details, but a lot of guys who complain about rejection constantly put themselves in the situation--like asking out the bartender, continuing to badger girls who aren't interested until they get a hard no, and things like that.

daniel_shalome · 2020-07-18T19:30:28+00:00

Vulnerability is a gift. Acceptance is the first step. Let your ego down. Go get back on even if it hurts again. You'll be well crocodile skin.

rickyroyal37 · 2020-07-18T20:26:20+00:00

Use rejectionsas a learning tool. If you get triggered their might be inner work that needs to be done. Otherwise practicing on laughing it off. You'll start realizing over time women reject you for the most mundane reasons and it's pretty hilarious.

Title	Does Rejection get easier with time?
Author	BaddestofUsernames
Upvotes	35
Comments	15
Date	July 18, 2020 4:33 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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