There have been a lot of posts these days from people with very specific situational questions, like "How do I reply to this text?" or the memorable "I told her to call me in an hour, it's been 90 minutes." ones. To be honest, they make me feel a little bitchy. They rarely end up in productive and educational discussions. But, instead of being bitchy about it (or maybe in addition to being a little bitchy. lol.), I decided to try to make a worthwhile contribution. Here it goes...

This comes from both my experience as a woman and a PUA. It breaks down to one main thing: Women remember and are influenced by the way you make them feel more than anything else.

It's your overall impression that matters. It's not the specific things you say, but how you say them, how you act. It's responding in stride and confidence. Focus on her responses. Notice what makes her relaxed and comfortable. Don't run away from her challenges. Women can sense uncertainty and it makes them nervous. Not everything is a shit test either, sometimes she's just trying to learn how you feel. Showing emotion isn't weak or beta at all. Most people hold their emotions in because of how they think people will respond, but an alpha isn't afraid of this. Look at southern european men, women love them, and they are some of the most emotional in the world. And don't forget to make women feel safe and comfortable with you, it's not all about making her attracted to you. Another point is that instead of mirroring women, try to get women to mirror you... not your actions but your emotions. They do it naturally, take advantage of this.

Now there's a lot posts about online communication. The standard seddit advice of only using it to get dates is right on target. But, girls are often chatty too and it's hard not to get wrapped up in a little more than planning stuff. I've got one big piece of advice here. You've all heard it before, but I will explain why I think it's so important. Here it is: the bitches love the smiley faces! They do because: Smiley faces communicate emotion!!! And women really want to know your emotions! It's a great way to give them a little without really offering them much at all. Give them a sticking-out tongue :p when you neg or tease them. Otherwise it an easily come off as too harsh. Don't skip on the winks ;) either. They are kind of sexy. Even through in the occasional laugh :D when she says something funny. Another bonus is that if you do say something that might be a bit awkward, a smiley face dilutes the effect a little. It's easier for her to believe that you meant well. Use those fucking emoticons guys! You may feel a bit silly, but you will also make her smile and feel good.

So, I've ended up talking a lot about showing emotion. How do you do it? Do you just tell her your feelings? No. Like so many things in seduction, you show her. You are animated and interested and express yourself with passion and certainty. One easy thing is to just use the word "feel" more often. Like instead of: "This is a relaxing place." say "This place feels relaxing." Ask her how she feels too. "Don't you find this place relaxing?"

Finally, I'll just add that, while it may not seem like it, women are pretty forgiving creatures, especially when it comes to small stuff. Women don't care as much about the details as men do. They care about the big picture. And, the thing is, that if they feel bad about the big picture, they will take it out on your by focusing on the small stuff. This is not quite the same as really caring about the small stuff.

So, newbies, go out there and read up on techniques and go out and try them and report back. You, and everyone else here, will learn more that way. :)