From my experience, scarcity is one of the most important aspects of game. Girls mainly judge you on your level of scarcity. FELT scarcity though, not actual.

I was playing golf and I was thinking about what I would be like if I had a crazy abundant sex life. What kinds of things I would think about. And I realized something - neediness in of itself isn’t unattractive at all. Yes, this goes against all dating advice. But pay attention to how I define neediness. We all need sex lives. This also applies to friends and social circles. Being needy, on some level, is perfectly normal. We all need to feel included. It’s in our DNA.

So if it’s not neediness that’s the issue, what is it? Here it is - it’s the feeling that our needs won’t be met in the future. I repeat - it’s not neediness. It’s the feeling that our needs won’t be met.

Those who have abundant sex lives still crave women. They still need women in their lives for emotional stability. No, not as much as most guys, but the reason isn’t that neediness - it’s that average guys feel their needs can’t be met - and so they come from a place of scarcity. Still needy, but needy as a form of scarcity.

So I though about my life, and how I’ve had fairly good success with women if you accumulate all my hookups throughout life. And what I realized is that in all of these situations, I came from a place where I was assuming that my needs would be met. Girls? I would meet one at a party or something. Friends? They just come into your life and no effort is really needed. And the amazing thing is when you are coming from this mindset, scarcity goes out the window.

This may not be an epiphany for some of you or hit home, but for some reason it did me. I just kind of realized that things with girls just work out and I don’t really need to do anything. No, I haven’t had much success lately. But that mostly comes from feelings that I need to TRY and DO SOMETHING rather than just let life work itself out and girls and friends come to me.

I think it’s possible to internalize this belief even if you don’t have an abundant sex life or social life because it mostly applies to everyone. When you’re coming from a frame where everything works out, things suddenly start to work out. It seems to be a weird law. Today I had the most self amused conversation with this solid 10 today after realizing it, because I knew i didn’t have to try. It would just work itself out naturally either with her or someone else.

TLDR: Stop trying and let life do the work for you. Neediness isn’t the issue. Scarcity mindset is. Realize that when you believe things work out, they do. Realize that everything you want is coming to you at all times. But still fucking approach pussy.