escalation over text

famineofcrows · 2016-09-06T22:12:36+00:00

I'm not even sure it's as easy as just escalating!

Ages ago, a really hot girl who was half my age and only just legal where i live (wouldn't be in the US) opened me on tinder - basically with a pickup line!

I done some investigating and was able to confirm she was real. In fact, a friend of my cousins daughter.

I asked her for her number. She gave me it. Texted her and had some usual chit chat, and then I asked her if she wanted to come over/meet, and then she went cold almost instantly. Confusing since she was the one who opened me, lol

I wasn't able to recover the situation either, unfortunately. Would have been happy to never get laid again if I had have got her! :( Super hot and super young.

TheXXL · 2016-09-07T07:50:17+00:00

doesn't really reply to my teasing and/or compliments.

How often do you compliment her? and what are you complimenting? Girls are used to get compliments on a daily basis, you cannot stand out if you are constantly tell her how beautiful she is, how cool she is or whatever. Teasing is a good way to get her into a fun mood though, if she understands that it's just teasing of course.

I know that I should ask her out and stuff, but she still lives in my hometown, and university is 120km away from there, so planning a date isn't so easy...

Then you should only take her as means of practicing your text game. Try things out, make notes on things that worked, try other things, fail, start over etc. Don't expect to even meet her for a date, and you will be much more open and experimental.

It has happened before to me that girls where asking for MY number, after which we chatted for a bit and things ended up nowhere.

I am sure you are doing the same thing over and over. There is a saying: "Madness is to always do the same, but expect a different outcome". Change your texting behavior, experiment.

I know that I'm doing something wrong, maybe not escalating quickly enough,

What is there to escalate? You can't touch her, let alone have sex with her, which is the goal of escalation.

but I don't have the means to escalate it to a date for example,

exactly.

in this particular case.

In all cases. Sure you can get a date, but you cannot escalate to sex.

Where should I deviate from my current game, and where's the mistake I always seem to make? Hope you guys can help me...

If you supply is with text examples, we can help you, but with just stating you do something wrong...

Ok, what you can try: IN your next conversation you probe out if she responds to sexual innuendo. If she does, get more sexual by hinting sexual things. For instance if she says something you could see as a sex reference, and pretty much most things can be seen as such, you call her out on being a typical woman, always thinking about sex. Look how she reacts to it. If she's playing along, you go one step further. Get more obviously sexual by asking her something about sex, like: "i heard women like sex even more than men, how do you think about it?" If she plays along, great, go into detail, ask her about her most adventurous place she had sex at.

When all goes fine, you put in here and there some flirting and she still plays along, she hints at being attracted to you and all, you can be bold and go in for something more, like: "damn... if you knew what i would do to you if you were here...". If she bites, tell her in detail how you will seduce her. I have done this a few times with girls that were attracted and we simply could not meet up for some reason, and when she replied that she wanted to hear about it, i knew it was on. So i explained in detail how i would look at her, take her head, pull her in, kiss her... you get the point. One girl mentioned later she was masturbating to my story haha, so try things out and be bold while always watching her reactions. One more thing i read that worked extremely well, you tell the girl a story where you go for drinks, have great sexual tension and when you leave the bar, you pull her into an alley, push her against the wall and fuck her there.

G_Refined · 2016-09-06T23:40:40+00:00

This wasn't a good example because you couldn't set up a date anytime soon. In another scenario where the girl lives closer, instead of just getting her number to chat more, get her number in anticipation of hanging out. The progression should have went snap convo>Set up plans>get phone number>confirm plans via text/phone call>Hang out. If you're losing interest from texting before you ever get to hang out, don't text as much and set up plans faster those two things should definitely help.

StewedJesus · 2016-09-07T01:19:22+00:00

If a girl asks for your number that is quite a big IOI... They are rarely this forward (if she is not asking for some mundane reason like asking you the recipe of the wonderful pie your granny baked and you took somewhere).

Texting is really difficult tough and I think it should be kept to a minimum and used mainly for logistics (ok... a couple of texts in the beginning, but then ask for a date).

If it is not possible to set a date then you should next and blame, for once, bad luck...

I am not saying it isn't possible to keep an interest for a month or so, but that it can perfectly happen that she loses interest in the meantime.

On a sidenote, in my younger days sometimes I managed to use email for creating and mantaining interest up to the point where, when meeting, the situation was completely polarized (we get into a LTR or we never see each other nor talk again)... But texting... Too short to convey any deeper stuff and too invasive in the same time. In my opinion.

Title	escalation over text
Author	Dunch3202
Upvotes	6
Comments	9
Date	September 6, 2016 7:22 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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