Everything to offer but invisible?

TheXXL · 2016-07-08T09:26:07+00:00

How does your everyday woman come across as object of interest?

I can't speak for everyone, but what catches my eye are uncommon details. I am not into the "photoshop beauty" but more natural look.

I'm not young (33) and have been in the game a long time. But I've always been aware of young women considered less than their male counterparts and worked against that tooth and nail. Making me today a mentally stable, kind, educated, calm and professional woman in senior position (health care). This carries over to my private life... This is just me. I'm not one to make dramatic moves, I'm introverted and content with it.

Do you like to go out, let loose sometimes, with girl friends?

But I can't flirt to save my life. All that is gone in attempt to be taken seriously, now I'm old and experienced enough that I don't have to work for the respect, I've realised I have no idea how to flirt and catch a guys attention.

Start with a smile directed at a guy you like, some eye contact, then look down. This is a classic IOI, and it gives the guy the impression you are a little bit shy.

Grown up in the beginnings of the digital age, I'm well indoctrinated in how women should look like and behave, and I just don't have the fucks to give anymore. Quite frankly. I care for my appearance and am in the best shape of my life, dress nicely and do get fair amount of looks.

It looks like you out yourself down for no reason. You are a woman that has much to offer, you are obviously attractive, but i guess you are not being approached often, which could mean you give off a strong vibe of "don't approach me!" through body language.

But I always have the sense of being inferior to younger ladies (mentally and physically), I'm bit socially awkward and as mentioned earlier, introvert.

Well, i don't know how you act, look or anything in that regard, but let me tell you, your age is not a problem. I am 39, have many female friends from my teens, and they are also in their 30's. One particular friend, is married, has 2 kids and was always looking very much after herself. We have been going to a bar at the beginning of this year, and it was her first time going out in years due to her kids. at first she as self conscious about her age, looks and all that, but i told her that she looked hot the way she is. So we were out, she was letting loose, dancing and what can i say, the guys where flocking to her. Sure, they didn't have the balls to approach since i was with her, but still, it was pretty funny to see. So basically: If you are taking care of yourself, can have fun, you will not have big problems in getting laid if this is what you want.

Reading this through I'm actually not sure what I'm after, but I guess I'm wondering the same as the guys; how on earth do people meet the opposite sex when I'm completely out of my depth in that department? Tell me your secrets...

The secret is.... drumroll ... being a woman. Women are always in high demands, and if you are looking for a man that is on your level, you have to be selective, but it should be no big problem. Like i say, many of my female friends in my age range have no problem in getting with men, whatsoever.

Overlord7867 · 2016-07-08T18:07:15+00:00

this might not be what you want to hear but women expire after 30, you should lower your expectations and find a chumpy nice guy to marry and have kids with.

Guys your age are usually successful (if they achieved and pursued a passion), attractive (if they care enough about themselves to keep up their appearance), and have options because they're in their prime. Why would they waste time with a 33 year old professional woman, when they can just as easily find a perky 23 year old with big tits and no gag reflex.

Sadly you peaked in your sexual viability in your 20s, its not your fault - you can't get those alpha dudes anymore. Try online dating and find a nice nerdy introvert type.

Imgod1986 · 2016-07-10T12:25:55+00:00

Guys are usually afraid of approaching, specially to a woman that appears serious, you only need to show them you're available and easy to talk to, with eye contact and a smile and focus on having fun not in pick up.

gastrocks · 2016-07-16T15:09:45+00:00

The accusation/assumption that you are old at 33 is laughable. I am an older (53) professional (eye surgeon) male. I am fit, educated, kind, and out dating now after a long slog of a marriage. I look at someone in their young to mid 40's as 'young' and if physicaly fit, in their sexual prime. A 23 year old has nothing on a 43 year old who is educated, life-experienced, and comfortable in her skin. It is the life experiences that make more interesting in my opinion. If you are asking 20-somethings for their opinion, you're going to get young boy opinions like @Overlord7867. My advice: make direct eye contact and smile. Remember that most guys, even good catches don't have game. It takes just a little initiative to make us feel more confident. You aren't even in your prime yet. You still have time to practice.

DaygameCoach · 2016-07-09T04:16:26+00:00

Read Superflirt and Superdate for flirting. Art of Seduction may be helpful too. And you may want to post in /r/fpua.

If you think you are old or inferior, an everyday woman, or less than man counterparts, you ARE. Those are called self limiting beliefs.

Title	Everything to offer but invisible?
Author	rawdatarams
Upvotes	3
Comments	9
Date	July 8, 2016 9:00 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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