Fear of intimacy

Atriev · 2019-11-25T14:55:59+00:00

You need to lower your threshold for what you call “success.” If you fear intimacy, don’t make sex a “success.”

Make success = talking to a girl for 5 minutes and making jokes.

Go home and celebrate.

Then make success asking for a girl’s number.

Go home and celebrate.

Then make success getting a girl out on a date.

Go home and celebrate.

Then make success kissing a girl.

Go home and celebrate.

Slowly progress yourself. Re-define what you consider success or you’ll just have nothing but failure failure failure.

2019-11-25T10:48:36+00:00

Exposure therapy, honestly.

padpump · 2019-11-25T16:28:49+00:00

Thanks you for your question. It’s an important one.

First off your fear off intimacy is correct. You don’t want to be intimate with just anybody.

Second you don’t need to talk to everybody and not everybody needs to talk to you.

With that out of the way you can be more relaxed about the whole situation.

What you need is love - that’s nothing particular to you everybody has the same problem. Just how we experience the love and what our relationship is to it is what differs.

Some feel at home in nature some in their own bed. Wherever you are most relaxed is where you automatically can find and experience love. Because you are open to it.

If that made sense to you so far the next step for you is to be able to relax and smile. If you don’t feel like it yet faking it will get you there also. (Also going in nature and enjoying nature helps as well.) But you cannot be in nature constantly. And since reminding yourself to be relaxed is not relaxing you can have a look here where there’s a method on having you guided into relaxation.

https://www.openheartmeditation.com/

PS: mindfulness meditation does not cut it as it makes your mind full and alert instead of empty and mellow. 😁 Enjoy!

theepicstoner · 2019-11-26T20:15:11+00:00

Thanks for your answers guys. Will get trying again, hopefully will actually commit and hopefully see some results :)

Title	Fear of intimacy
Author	theepicstoner
Upvotes	5
Comments	5
Date	November 25, 2019 10:14 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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