Not sure if anyone can help and see what I'm missing. I've gone out with two girls this year both of them it felt like we got to the comfort stage super quick but nothing happened afterwards.

Girls 1) she was the new receptionist at my boxing gym. Super flirty girl. One day after training we went out for ice-cream. Then we spent hours just in my car talking. Thought it went really well but couldn't organise a second time to go out. I think I may have been too forward with my messaging after the first time we went out.

Girl 2) She was the new girl at work. Really friendly girl. I learnt from the first girl and decided to always keep the messaging fun before organising anything. We end up going for a walk one day. Once again thought it went really well, there was a lot of incidental touching like we'd bump into each other while walking and when we sat down on the bench we were sitting like right next to other. During the walk though, she mention when the other girls at our work joke about something happening between the two of us it makes her feel uncomfortable. I figured it was one of those times a girl says one thing but means another so I didn't actually think too much of it. I can spend hours talking to this girl as well. I remember one time at work there were like no customers (late at night on a weekend) and she was like the time has gone surprisingly fast. I'm not sure if she realised it was because we spent the whole time talking. Anyways try to organise for us to go out a second time. In person she seems keen but says she needs to double check her diary. She messages me and says she's got something on and if it was ok if she could let me know when she's free. I said that was fine and she replied that's awesome thanks. This was a couple of weeks ago and she hasn't reschedule. I'm also over-hearing comments at work that are implying she is seeing someone. She hasn't mention anything to me despite the fact we still talk a lot.

I'm not asking for advice on how to salvage these two girls. More for what to do with the next girl.

My theory (could be wrong) is that physically I'm probably not too many girls ideal type. I'm a short asian guy living in a western country (both the girls are white). I think what's happening is the girls are getting to a position where they are thinking "hey would I date this guy?" And then they logically say no "he's not my type". But I think I could probably do something to stop this. Just don't know what.

Is it just about escalating harder? Am I getting friend zone? Or do these girls just like the attention and validation they get from me.

Thanks for your help.