Feel very demoralized after a failed attempt

navyblueee · 2015-03-01T22:36:45+00:00

Think of her as just another normal human. Shes just a girl with emotions, hopes, goals, etc. Stragely enough, most humans have these things. You probably wouldn't care if conversation was poor with some guy, so why should you care if its bad with a girl. These hundreds of them on campus anyways

IpickupGrandmothers · 2015-03-02T14:27:45+00:00

Ask yourself, "Am I committed to living my dream life? Or am I committed to my comfort zone? Am I committed to being a confident, giving, self-empowered, high-value man? Or am I committed to my feels?"

Greatness isn't born, it's built. Experiences, whether you perceive them as good or bad, are what allows you to grow and become a better person. Every time you make an approach, even if it doesn't go the way you thought it would, is placing another brick in the palace that is netarangi.

One way to change your mindset is to not look at rejections as failures.

Oftentimes if a girl says "no", she's not questioning your value, attractiveness, or overall sex-worthiness as a man. She's simply saying no. Anything else is just whatever assumptions or nonsense you're adding on there. It's more a reflection of your limiting beliefs, rather than a reflection of how attractive she views you.
Failure doesn't occur when you get a rejection. Failure occurs when you give up. You can learn and grow from rejections, you can never learn and grow from staying in your comfort zone.
IMO, a large part of becoming a bad-ass, confident motherfucker comes from experiencing rejection and learning to move past it. It's developing emotional fortitude. Be happy you got rejected, because sometimes, it can be a great way to get feedback on what you need to work on. Without that kind of feedback, you won't be able to become the man you want to be.

Learn to self-validate yourself. I'm gonna assert that one of the biggest reasons why you feel the way you do is because you want women to validate you before you give yourself permission to love yourself.

secondpua · 2015-03-02T04:20:03+00:00

I'm just going to focus on the part about feeling demoralised after a failed approach.

What you are doing here is that you are basing weather it is a success or a failure based on what she does, aka the outcome. What you need to do is change your mindset so that your success/failure is all based on the action that you do.

For example, "well she told me to fuck off but I succeeded because I approached" or "well she said she had a boyfriend but I succeeded because I asked for her number".

With this mindset even if the outcome is not preferable then you are willing to succeed again by taking action.

Title	Feel very demoralized after a failed attempt
Author	netarangi
Upvotes	0
Comments	5
Date	March 1, 2015 10:20 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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