I need some help here guys. I was dating this girl, a total stunner like 10, one of the most beautiful girls if not beautiful I've dated. Every time I escalated she would back away saying she had trust issues and that she wanted to take it slow. She also knew I was leaving town in two months, and brought that up as a reason she was fearful of becoming physically intimate. In fact the reaction was so strong that I thought she was either a virgin or just really sexually inexperienced and saved sex for relationships. She never talked about boyfriends or other guys and gave the impression she was tired of guys always trying to hit on her. The farthest she let me get was to third base but never let me have sex. Well after about a month of dating without sex, I finally ask her how sexually active she is and has been in the past.

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I was blown away. Not only is she sexually active, she only does one night stands and from what I understood-- FWB. She get's drunk at bars and takes home a lucky guy. Sometimes the sex has been in the park, on the beach, and who knows where else. She's been with so many guys she doesn't remember. She told me she lost count because so many are one nighters when she is drunk and really doesn't remember the guys, let alone the names. She's only 19 and is in the 30's 40's if not more. She's never been tested for STD's and she doesn't know much about how sex works. She asked me if she could get pregnant by swallowing a guys cum.

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It's really fucked me up in the head because my investment in her and because she didn't escalate with me because of trust issues. I asked her how could she have "trust issues" if she's letting guys fuck her after knowing them for an hour or two. It's not even fucking on the first date. It's fucking after the club. She said she didn't need to trust these guys and that she was doing it for herself. She said this is what sex is like for girls in their 20's these days.

I don't get it. At the same time, she never let me have sex with her after getting close to her after having such a good time together and there clearly being physical and sexual attraction. I don't understand why she just didn't tell me this from the get go and why she told me all this trust bull shit and all this taking it slow bullshit with me. Why didn't she just friendzone me and say she's sexing but not with me?

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What's really fucking with my head is that she is a straight 10 looks wise and so beautiful yet lacks any sense of caring who she sleeps with. It's not even guys who take her on dates that she fucks on the first or second date. It's going to the bar to hook up. The guys she's hooking up with are just random joe's too; it's literally like whoever gets "lucky" enough to get her at the end of the night when she's drunk enough. One night stand sex with strangers who treat her like a hoe is really fucking with my head because I thought she was all that, because I think she is so beautiful.

To be clear, the sense I get is that she goes home with a guy EVERY time she goes out to a bar. I think she even ends up alone at bars and clubs and may even go alone at times; I get the sense she's the type who at a house party or if everyone is just drinking at an apartment, she is going have sex with "someone" there no matter what and where. It's' not like it's a guy she has her eye on. It's more like, who am I going to let fuck me tonight.

She's not this unattainable girl, but the exact opposite. If I would have just treated her like a one-nighter from the get go I would have had her most likely. Instead, I took it slow and tried to gain her trust and show her I wasn't there just for sex. I really started to like her. She was giving me signs that she liked me too, but other times she just seemed to not care about me so I'm thinking I was just played by her.

And why? Why not just say I want you as a friend or why not say she is regularly fucking but not going to give it to me. The few times I acted like I didn't care or was a dick to her she came on strong. I'm realizing she may fuck for validation.

Usually this would be enough for me to be out and I would move on in a heartbeat but she's still in my head. Dare I say I'm still attracted to her and want her. I don't have a problem hooking up or having sex with girls or dating girls. This is to say, she's not the only girl who has shown interest in me. I've walked away from many girls in the past. I'm a confident dude and good looking. But this girl is just stuck in my head. I'm really hurt from all of this and obsessed. It bugs me. I don't know how to move on from her. I don't know why I feel this way about her. I need some help.