Hello Sunday. Time to look back on the action we took last week, and especially the last 2 nights.

Because let's face it, weekend is the most convenient to meet people. 😎

I feel like sharing a few my thoughts after going out yesterday, hopefully, you guys can relate and this can fuel your motivation to take action and crush it. 👍

As usual, I went out alone. Once you're comfortable enough with yourself, it just gets too much of a hassle to text friends and make plans - I'll just make friends wherever I go.

A few key things:

  1. As soon as I arrived at the club I started talking to the first person directly next to me. It happened to not be a hot girl, but instead 2 Indian dudes (a son and his dad) and we had great fun.

This is awesome to get in a talkative mood. The last thing you want to do is to wait before talking to people. The less you start conversations, the harder it gets to start conversations.

(This video can help If you're having trouble getting warmed up and started.)

  1. I kept building on top of that social momentum. Instead of being a sniper waiting to approach that one hot girl I liked, it was more of a shotgun approach: talk to everyone.

It works amazing because in doing so everyone sees that everyone likes to talk to me. And if everyone has a great time with me, it means I must be interesting AF. Remember that social pre-selection is extremely attractive.

Spoiler alert: if you're having trouble being social in general, it's going to be extremely hard for you to meet women. But hey, nothing that you can't change.

  1. Eventually I got invited to a house party by one of the girls I met. She was extremely DTF, but instead of jumping the guns I refused, because I have standards and don't just go to anyone's house because they ask. This made her AND HER FRIENDS try even harder to convince me to go.

If you're fun, and if you're able to share the fun, people are going to want to be around you.

Even better than that: if you make yourself scarce, people who want to be around you are then going to fight for you.

The easiest way to make this happen is to have higher standards for yourself.

  1. This last point is kind of a bonus. We went to this after-party and there were a bunch of guys competing for the attention of fewer girls.

Eventually, they all disqualified themselves.

Why?

One was trying extremely hard to make his interaction super sexual with the DTF girl in front of everyone, and this was just super cringe. He quickly left because no sex happened. His mistake was that he forgot to create an emotional connection with her, and also that he gave up too soon.

Another one got completely shut down because a gay guy was grinding on him and he didn't know how to tell him to stop. Some unresolved masculinity and boundaries issue right there.

The last one just ran out of things to say, because he didn't understand how to share value and engage people in a conversation, so he just became transparent.

I'm not saying this to point out how better I am than them, but it's true that I didn't do any of their mistakes. I didn't do anything specific either, you could say I was the most "normal" of them, and that's the main thing here.

It ended up with the host telling me how great I am, a girl (and the gay guy lol) grinding on me, another girl sitting with her boyfriend who kept asking if I wanted more snacks, while the last gal was teaching me how to eat sunflower seeds.

And again, this all happened because of me not doing much else than sharing fun, being genuine, and holding my own boundaries.

Oh ya, and I also made out with the DTF girl in the bathroom, because I didn't just go there to make friends.

So to end this post, here's a quick win for you:

If what you're trying is currently not working, try not to try when meeting people.

And instead, focus on sharing value.