So let me preface this by saying I have huge approach anxiety, and don't really have any FRs under my belt.

So I'm at the shopping mall, trying to approach a girl. It's been about 1.5 hours since I started, and... nothing. Not a single approach. I'm kicking myself because I haven't done anything (this is typical btw), and I walk into TJ Maxx.

While I'm shopping, a guy compliments my shoes and we have a good conversation for about 20 minutes. This does 2 things for me:

  1. It gets rid of all my insecurities about having a conversation with a stranger, because I managed to survive this one.

  2. It puts me in the position of a girl getting complimented (just try to see the similarities lol), and I see that it's not so bad after all.

Immediately after leaving the conversation with the friendly guy (it was a fun convo btw), I ran into a chick who I was afraid to approach earlier, walked up to her and told her she was cute and asked her out.

No hesitation. No fear. Point blank. It was great. I'm still in shock with myself that I was able to do that so effortlessly.

My takeaway points from that experience (that may or may not work in the future lol):

  1. If you can't pull off an approach after a while, compliment a guy (who hopefully you shouldn't be afraid of approaching) and have a conversation with him to get you relaxed.

  2. Immediately after, find a girl who you had been eyeing and go approach. Don't think about it. Let the words spill out of your mouth.

Good luck to all you soldiers out there and keep trooping!

EDIT: I got rejected. I basically just asked her out without any conversation. But i felt great afterwards and I got the momentum started, so that's a huge step forward for me.

EDIT2: So...strangely enough, I had the exact same experience today. But this time, thanks to you all, I knew what to do differently. I led the first conversation with the guy, and I also made sure I had a conversation with the girl before asking for her number.

Link: https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/95suyd/field_report_the_weirdest_thing_happened_today/