Fellas its time, pop the champagne, break out the good silverware. Pure cold approach was a massive mental block for me that took me some time to overcome.I sectioned this off if you guys just wanna read the actual cold approach.

Preface: I am 23m pretty tall dude(6’5) in good shape and just graduated college after finishing my last couple semesters at home. I had 2 ltrs in college and inbetween these I found it relatively easy to get laid, but it was usually on dating apps or at a party where I was drinking and knew the majority of people already(except the girls that I took home, Ive never really had female friends that I didnt initially hu w) Also this is just the truth of the matter, Im not trying to brag in anyway, I had a lot of embarrassing moments trust me. However now Im at home and dont drink anymore bc I had an issue w it and needed to stop. I was having success on dating apps well at home for awhile and then a little while ago it stopped forcing me to try cold approach which terrified me. Also i stopped visiting my ex after going off and on and seeing girls on dating apps when we were off. So when dating apps were gone and I knew I couldnt go back to my ex I had to start cold approach(maybe it was a sign from god for personal development).

Lead up to Cold Approach: Anywho after going out and telling myself I would cold approach daygame/ nightgame then coming home and insert pointing mirror meme beating myself up about it I decided it was enough. But first I had to do the one thing that I always did before I went on a hot streak.

Bang a chick that I was not attracted to.

So last night I had a rather undesirable lady over who we both mutually agreed to hu beforehand. Cleaned up the ole room like a true gentleman then did the got dang deed. Felt good and a little gross after but nonetheless a confidence booster and renewed desire to achieve higher standards.

Actual Cold Approach: Today I woke up bummed out about my missed cold approaches and told myself that this is the fire I need. Im not gonna wallow like some sissy nanny, im gonna get out there and kick some ass(figuratively/ and respectfully).

So I go to do grocery shopping in the morning to get some fucking chicken to fucking eat for fucking breakfast. And i tell myself I gotta just to one approach. I write it on my whiteboard with a little checkbox owwiee and meditated to try and calm and prepare myself. Then I head the grocery store having nerves the entire time and the one thing that gave me the confidence was the ability to pick my poison. I get to have anxiety regardless, but if I can go through the difficult task of cold approached Ive picked the better hardship than being at home with regret.

So I go inside the grocery store and immediately see a cute girl then I wuss out and a couple minutes later I happen to walk by her in an aisle checking out candles. And as I pass her I stop check out the candles too and strike up a conversation. My game was probably terrible as I was very nervous but i managed to banter with her for probably 5 minutes and she was very nice and polite. Then I asked for her number and she said she had a boyfriend and politely said no worries and carried on with my shopping. Am I upset? Not at all. I overcame my fear and well the fear will still need to conquered again, I feel as though I took my first step onto the road of cold game and am finally beginning to overcome approach anxiety. Idk if any will read this or care but ive been in here for awhile and always pussied out of cold approach so I never posted so i had a lot to say and I am excited to share the news with such a positive community. Tomorrow hopefully I will have the courage to do it again. Nightgame is so scary to me being a newly sober fella cuz I already sorta feel uncomfortable when Im out even though I love people and would consider myself an extrovert so any tips on that would be great.