First cold approach!!

ilikepie145 · 2020-02-06T22:37:56+00:00

Good job man! I’d say focus on girls you are attracted to tho lol

mmohamed211 · 2020-02-06T23:07:37+00:00

Good job on having the courage to approach... but next time, keep in mind that if they're occupied or seem to be in the middle of a task your chance of getting a positive feedback will not be likely... it's best to approach them when they're not busy or move on... It's one thing to shoot your shot, it's another to shoot your shot at an unlikely target.

plaguemaid · 2020-02-07T11:00:22+00:00

Good job, that takes balls and not many people do it. Just be careful, cold approaching is also a great way to get “Metoo’d” if you run into the wrong girl.

But besides that word of warning, I would suggest that you approach and talk with everyone in proximity to you; yes even men. This will get you in the right mindset instead of only approaching women you are attracted to. If you are approaching women from a perspective of attraction only, you are viewing her through one distorted lense. I promise you women can smell it from a mile away. Engaging with everyone will get you into the mindset of talking to people like they are just that; people. The much more limited approach of talking to only attractive women is coming from a “take” approach, where she senses that you are only talking to her so you can “get” something.

As the man in any situation, you must bring equal or greater value to a relationship (acquaintance, friendship, marriage etc). Women just so happen to be the sex that is born with much more intrinsic value than men, so in order to level the playing field you have to bring value in other ways (charisma / personality, social, status, monetary). It’s great that you go out and talk to women, but broaden your scope. I’ve often met great women through other men I have met, and not only does that mutuality break down the first “barrier to entry” as a stranger, but some of these women have become my closest friends over the years.

In short, networking will be your best friend. Knowing people is power and influence. Everyone, including men, is a chance to practice and hone your charismatic skills, and you will pick up many unexpected and perhaps lifelong friendships along the way.

Another bit about that word of warning, maybe try consider wearing a hidden body cam if you are cold approaching more women. I know it sounds like an overreaction, but there are some literal bat shit crazy people out there who have the power to completely ruin your life just because they can. A video of the facts can save your hide when it’s your word against hers in a court of law.

Good luck!

5thmeta_tarsal · 2020-02-07T10:50:52+00:00

I think this is a nice idea, especially for getting your confidence up.

I am a big fan of eye contact, and can have lots of fun with flirting from a distance in this way. You catch their eye, engage for a second too long, then look away, then look back at them and smile. It's also fun when you are walking down the street and do this, then you both look back at the same time! It's cute, and gives you a little hit. I'm a girl, so maybe this game is different....but I don't think so, I've met men who do the same, and it works! Flirting is the funnest thing ever! It's a hobby of mine! ;p

jenny_from_da_bloc · 2020-02-06T23:01:33+00:00

Good job, it takes balls. I wonder after how many cold approaches one loses his nervousness.

2020-02-07T19:55:36+00:00

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misunderstood0 · 2020-02-07T05:54:47+00:00

I wish I had done this more often when I was in college. I feel it's way harder now that I'm working and don't have a ton of free time anymore. Good on you and keep it up!

MoGambino · 2020-02-07T16:37:15+00:00

She was probably watching Tik Tok videos and that’s not being busy or interrupting. If you think about it, no one is going to be sitting idle and doing nothing. Either they’re on their phone or doing something. Or just say sorry to interrupt and start a convo. Don’t look for excuses or reasons to not approach

shannjl · 2020-02-07T17:58:39+00:00

Keep approaching people. This is such a dead art and I’m so impressed and flattered when anyone does this anymore. Keep seeing it as an experience/experiment. Well done friend!

l1kehoney · 2020-02-07T05:45:05+00:00

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KindLunch · 2020-02-07T02:31:26+00:00

We as people, in general, gravitate towards whatever is the most attention-grabbing at any given moment. So I would say it's not really that she had headphones on that is important, as much as having something to say or do that's more attention-grabbing.

Samael_Stoned · 2020-02-07T14:39:47+00:00

Dude approach one you actually have a good interest in, that way you won't be making these excuses of "We didn't have any Intrest I and give your 100

2020-02-07T08:29:01+00:00

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Title	First cold approach!!
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Date	February 6, 2020 10:34 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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