First date talking points?

Daytripsinsidecars · 2020-06-14T05:31:32+00:00

These are pretty good

its_alpha_007 · 2020-06-14T15:57:38+00:00

1 What do they do for living ? 2 What thing they are really passionate about ? 3 What was the worst or funny date they ever had ? ( this will seriously engage them in a discussion,you can also share your experience but mind it dont end up bitching about your ex or the person with whom you went on a date ) 4 What is your fav. Cuisine ? 5 How afar your experience have been on the dating app ? ( ask only if yiu meet them through some dating app ) 6 Their fav dinner celebrity ? ( Discussion can get really interesting if they are into MCU ) 7 What qualities they find most attractive if they are finding someone to date ? 8 Following 7 ques you can mix 2 or 3 qualities they mentioned n ask them if they had to pick just one of them which one will they choose ?

MAIN EMPHASIS SHOULD BE KEEPING THE DISCUSSION/CONVERSATION LIGHT HEARTED N FUN.

GrandMasterB19 · 2020-06-14T17:35:59+00:00

Find things that she likes to talk about and let her talk about those things. Then ask questions and take a genuine interest. Be present with her in the moment and don't get stuck in your head. Make her feel like she's the only woman on the planet in that moment. Occasionally interject witty jokes, banter, insights, and observations. Be charming and charismatic about it. All of this will make her see you as a "good listener."

Once you become a really good listener, it doesn't really matter what you talk about because girls don't really want guys with incredible talking skills, they want guys with incredible listening skills.

axe122 · 2020-06-16T21:15:36+00:00

Just have fun with her. Ask 3 questions, what are you passionate about? What was it like where you grew up and what do you do for work?

Emergency questions are do you have any hidden talents or have you had any funny online dates?

Keep in mind she’s gonna ask you all these questions back so have good detailed and playful answer. She’s tryna get to know you too and wants you as well. You wanna remember that it’s not you tryna get her your tryna get eachother. With most women it’s better to act like she’s tryna get you the whole time and your interested cuz your there but aren’t sure how much you like her.

Don’t compliment her directly. If you say wow you look great she’s gonna day thank you and then what? If your sitting down for food and you say “you look “okay” tonight. She’s gonna be like “just okay” you say “yup just okay” “I know what your thinking I look amazing “ but you have to say all this in a playful tone like she knows your full of shot and joking but now she’s having fun.

Don’t interview girls your only on the date to advance things sexually. You’ll get to know her over the course of dating and probably already know everything about her. Don’t just ask a lot of questions that only works when she finds you super hot or you haven’t learned about each other before hand (you got her number in real life asked her out and she showed up)

If she brings up any other restaurants speak in ifs and maybes. If we decide to go out again maybe we’ll go there. I would recommend kissing her within 20 min of the date especially if your not experienced in seduction. Some guys don’t even kiss the girl on the first date to build sexual anticipation and make her wonder if he liked her but you have to be really good at seduction to make that work well. If your not the experienced had only a couple girls make sure you kiss her on the first date. The reason I recommend kissing her early is it sets the tone of this is man to woman you have balls and sometimes women will kiss a guy they don’t want to see again out of sorts social obligation the same way they hug a guy with that ass out aunt hug when they see them.

When you see her grab her and give a her a big bear hug like she’s your girl and you haven’t seen her in forever. She’ll be much more comfortable if she sees how comfortable you are. When your sitting down tease her a bit and maybe tell her a story relative to your personality. Last date I was on I told the girl I had a crazy day, In a nonchalant tone of voice I said yeah.... I fought a grizzly bear..... it was threatening my little cousin so I had to kick some grizzly ass then proceeded to tell some details about the fight and how it got a few good shots in but in the end I won. Then I think I said “I know what your thinking how can this guy look so damn good and sexy after a fight with a bear? She’ll usually say yeah pretty much If she shit tests and says that wasn’t what I was thinking. I’ll say yeah I call bullshit... then when she smiles or says nothing I say “see I take your silence as a yes you were 100% right, if she smiles I say “see I can tell by your smile you you were thinking that” Then I said okay look into my eyes I’m gonna read your mind right now. She says okay and I said hey! This doesn’t work if you keep picturing me naked. Try again and focus. Then looking into her eyes I stand up walk over to her side of table take her by the chin and kiss her. I then blamed it on her and said I can’t believe you just did that. She said I didn’t you did then I got up and kissed her again and said okay that one was on me. Now I kissed her twice within 15 min of the date and any nervous tension or pressure is gonna from her. The tension from this point on is all sexual tension. I wrapped my legs around hers under the table and took her home that night. I ask the 3 questions so she has something to tell her girlfriends about me after sex. Also when I say 3 questions it doesn’t mean you can’t ask more than 3 my point is that asking questions shouldn’t be your approach to the date. Just have fun and make things man to woman, establishing connection and getting her turned on even if you don’t take her home the first night is much more important than getting to know her.

Hundreds of men get to know hundreds of women every day on dates and nothing comes from it they have a long amp out h conversation with no awkwardness and have a ton in common and when they call for the second date she doesn’t seem as receptive.

She tells them no connection, no spark or better off as friends. Basically what happens what she viewed him as a potential sexual partner before the first date but after she no longer views you as a potential sexual partner so theirs no reason to go out with you again. If she doesn’t want to sleep with you she won’t date you. A woman will sleep with a guy she doesn’t want to date but will not date a guy she doesn’t want to sleep with.

Even if you want more than sex don’t show a girl you want more by not having sex and showing her how much you like her first cuz that almost never works. Show her you want more by sleeping with her and then continuing to do the things you say your gonna do and continuing to take her out on dates.

Wether you kiss her mid date or not at the end of the date walk her to her car and kiss her if you can’t take her home for whatever reason makeout with her for like a min or two and be the one to end it leaving her wanting more tell her to text you when she gets home safe and walk away smoothly. Having her text you when she gets home gets her messaging you first after the date and is a good start to having her do the majority of the initiating. If your unaware you want her doing like 75% of the initiating of conversations to keep her interested long term and this is every single girl you meet ( even the ones you think are different) they all respond to the same behaviors in men and they want a guy who shows them interest but they don’t know exactly where she stands. Logically they want to know where they stand with a guy but they just don’t respond to that.

Her attraction will grow when she has time to miss you and think about you, if you e ever had a girl you talked to everyday through the day and things seemed great until she randomly went ghost that’s why. Basically you weren’t a challenge and she got bored or worse annoyed by your texts. She won’t be annoyed if she gets a response after she initiated. Respond to any text she sends but your a busy guy and working on bettering yourself so you don’t have time to initiate all the time is the idea you wanna convey.

Routine texts are also a huge mistake also. Unless she’s initiating them all they do is piss her off or make her think somethings wrong when you oversleep or fall asleep early. They hold no value but a random text initiating once every few weeks or so in the morning will have her lit up and excited all day.

I pre frame who pays for the date before we go out. I might say just so there’s no lane arguing over the check thing I got the first date no ifs ands or buts and if we decide to go out again you can pickup the next one.

You can use this is a character and interest test as well if she allows you to pay she’s either high interest and wants to see you again or she’s low interest and low character cuz she knows she doesn’t want to see you again so she won’t be reciprocating and still lets you pay. I started doing this before I got really good on my dates and most of the girls won’t let you pay and will insist on splitting it if they don’t intend on seeing you again. Basically it’s a way to split the bill without being cheap and throws a little interest test as well. Plus if you’d go out again she pays and you want this dynamic the whole time. Sometimes you’ll have more expensive dates and sometimes she will sometimes you’ll end up paying for two in a row and sometimes she will if you date long enough but in the end it pretty much all breaks even.

Now you don’t have to wonder what’s gonna happen or anything and you know your better off not texting her at all and not even walking her to her car. Your much better off having her wonder if you were even interested as well and don’t expect a call but if it happens cool go from there.

This girls ready to be kissed and sleep with you now but she’s like 90% sure. She wouldn’t be going out with a stranger off the internet if she wasn’t but she wants to meet in a public place for safety reasons and it’s easier to say no if she changes her mind cuz your not the guy she thought you were. Your going on the date to meet her have fun and get physical. If she wasn’t looking to get physical she would find an online boyfriend who she never meets in real life and just talks to her gets to know her and makes her feel good about herself.

jrgardenlover · 2020-06-14T05:56:40+00:00

One good question would be: what does a typical day entail for you? Always ask her open-ended questions.

axe122 · 2020-06-16T21:18:41+00:00

Every date leading up to sex is just a trial period to see if she wants to sleep with you every date before exclusivity is she’s just seeing if your someone she wants to be exclusive with every date within exclusivity is someone she’s seeing if she wants to marry. You wanna be evaluating her as well but typically since guys would have sex with her right away I wrote it in the way most women date today.

The guys all the girls want even when they say they don’t are the guys who have several women they are dating and sleeping with.all the women are cool fun and hot so they are all fun and he likes them all a lot and isn’t trying to lock a girl into a relationship. He doesn’t rub it in the girls face but she can tell by his actions and behaviors that he’s high value and in high demand.

Women date across and up not down in value so they want to feel like they won a prize. She won’t feel special if she’s the only attractive girl the guy can get even if he treats her like a queen. They all want the captain of the football team type or lead of the art department or lead of the music department. There’s different types of these guys based on interest but they all want the in demand guy from these departments.

Best thing you can do is adopt and display the behaviors of these kinds of guys then you’ll get options with the girls cuz all the girls you date will want you. Then you just become that guy with women. Even if you want just one girl this is the best approach to get her in my opinion. Especially if she’s high value and has a lot of guys want her. She doesn’t want them though she wants the guys she feels are above her or all the other girls want.

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Date	June 14, 2020 5:20 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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