I just came out of a long term relationship (~8 years) and had a hard time even thinking about approaching girls for the longest time. Well, after spending a week or two at seddit browsing and reading through the material, I finally got a chance to go out this weekend and try out some of the techniques. We went out for a friend’s birthday in London Ontario, and made sure to dress up nicely – nice dress shoes/shirt, jeans, blazers, etc.

I’ve always had trouble getting things initiated but not that night using all the techniques I’ve been reading about. The big thing that I felt was like a secret weapon was this kino business. Coupled with early approach these two things made no woman unapproachable. Example, as soon as I walk in - and hadn’t had a chance to take in the atmosphere - this smoking hot girl, (HB9 maybe? definitely one of the hottest girls in the place and taller than me even) is walking by with a shirt that says something like “F*** me I’m famous” so as she’s walking past I just stick my arm out grabbing her midsection and say “excuse me, you’re famous?” and she’s already got a huge smile on her face. She stops dead of course and we start talking about the shirt. I’m touching it (and her) as much as possible stretching it out slightly and pretending to read it over, and she had some shit to say about it. We talked for a good while before I played the “I have to get back to my friends card”. Anyway I wasn’t looking to close on anything that night just to test out the techniques but holy shit was it amazing. What a huge game booster that was. The rest of the night I was like a kid at a candy store. Another hot asian, maybe HB7 or 8 was sitting with her friend looking kind of bored so as soon as I saw them I opened them up about why they’re so bored with the casual hand on back/arm yadda yadda again big smiles. It helped that the club music was somewhat loud so I had an excuse to get in close early on. She had some tattoos all over so it was easy to point/feel and ask all about them. I asked what other ones she had and she pulls her hair back over her shoulder revealing her open back to me and two wings which of course feeling those got her to shoot out tons more IOIs before her friends that I guess she was waiting for pulled her out. I could have pursued but honestly with the quality of girls that night I wasn’t even going to bother.

There were a few others that night I chatted up and got friendly with, some tried to deflect with the “this is my boyfriend” line but that didn’t deter me and I held the line. In fact I went out of my way to get to know the so-called boyfriends as if they were old buddies, building rapport which impressed a lot of the girls (and guys) enough to give me the go ahead to get in with the girls since it turns out half of them weren’t boyfriends at all. I also used the touch technique on the guys although much subdued – a hand on the shoulder after a compliment about some cool story, a casual arm touch as I’m regaling my own, everyone was super friendly to this. So another key thing I took away from that night was the stick it out unless they outright tell you to fuck off, which none were even close to doing. They were smiling and flirty the whole night through.

I started opening long before I even met up with my friends, chatting up anyone and everyone I could, so I was ready to go. This seemed to help everything go smoothly. Now alcohol was involved so that must have made it easier but initially I know I was completely sober opening that HB9. On the alcohol point actually is another technique I tried out which worked well. I chatted up with and got to know one of the bartenders, superficially of course but names/pleasantries were exchanged, as well as casual conversation about the location, best times to be there, the town, etc. For the rest of the night when I needed a drink I would go to her, bringing over and introducing friends and HBs alike, which got plenty of smiles from not only the cute bartender but the people I brought along. This is a technique I am not letting go.

One thing that has me doubting just how effective the techniques are was the quantity of girls to guys; the ratio was definitely in my favor that night by around 3:1.

What are some better methods of getting in when more guys are around? I guess I need to do some more experimenting with this. This has me pumped though and my confidence is through the roof.

EDIT: Spaced it out a little more to make it easier to read, sorry for the wall of text I didn't realize how much I had written.