First time post, where did I do wrong?

Zack_Fair_ · 2014-03-24T00:49:49+00:00

not an easy one .... hmm

it would be explained perfectly if you can confirm that she was pretty drunk. when girls get too drunk and get a text from a dude they met the night before they are mad prone to "buyer's remorse" , because they are not sure they liked you because of you or because of the alcohol. or they are ashamed they let themselves go too much because they were drunk and you are now getting the " I'm not a slut" treatment.

if she was very sober ( remember, some people can fake it really well while being drunk off their ass ) it's harder to speculate what's gotten in to her because from your story it seems like you had all the right moves and she reacted well to them.

you might want to ask yourself some questions to respond honestly to to yourself like ;
were you drunk ?
did you come over too eager once she started showing you IOI's ?
did she react as good to you as you think / it looked like she did ?
might you have scared her off because she saw you talking to all the other girls and concluded you are a player ?

that said , sometimes this shit just happens for no reason or a reason beyond your comprehension.

maybe she has a boyfriend, maybe she gave you the wrong number, maybe she'll still call, maybe she just wanted to flirt and nothing more. women do not operate logically, so sometimes you'll just not understand .

also I feel obligated to tell you that you fucked up a possible K-close. never ever ask for a kiss or even worse ask for permission . I don't know what chapter of The Game you are on, but funnily enough it will be adressed soon.

there you go, an unintentionally gargantuan reply, but hey consider it a welcoming present ;) please feel free to stick and post around

ThePUA_Baddie · 2014-03-24T03:13:16+00:00

To be honest I think you pretty much had that shit on lock down but you fumbled. I think she was definitely waiting for you to kick things up while you two were alone by going for the make out. She probably was expecting you to bring her back to your place before the bar closed too. She was probably super horny during the interaction and was expecting to get laid that night. But when you didn't escalate and push things along she probably got disappointed towards the very end when she realized that you're just another chode who isn't going to lay her that night. This may explain why you only were able to graze her cheek at the very end and she hasn't be answering your texts or calls. Basically that was an in the moment situation and you had to seize the opportunity but you didn't.

ackshunpact · 2014-03-24T00:36:48+00:00

Waited too long to kiss.

Asked her if you could kiss instead of just going in for it.

Just guessing but probably didn't escalate enough.

bl1y · 2014-03-24T12:00:59+00:00

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HappyJerk · 2014-03-24T04:19:05+00:00

After the girls that I was talking to left, I approached the group that the girl was with and asked the group which places I should see in the city and told them it's just been a few hours since I arrived the city which is true.

First of all, you look like a slut. Even if the girl was "interested" in you, she will remember you as the guy who is trying to get with every girl. Not a good look. Usually you should focus on one girl.

I put my hand on her back again and asked what her name was.

You asked her name at the END of the conversation? Bad bad bad. You know what everybody's favorite word is? Their name. You always have to ask a girl's name right at the beginning of the interaction. Then use it often. In fact, I've noticed texts are more successful when I use the girl's name.

It generally sounds like you didn't escalate the interaction. You did "kino" but kino is worthless if you don't verbally escalate and tell her what you are interested in. If you don't tell her that you want to date her then she has no way of knowing you want to date her so you look like a creep who is just touching you. You need to set the frame and let her know what is going.

She said her name and I followed by saying "Would you give a goodbye-kiss?".

Why did you say that? Did she look like she wanted to kiss you? Then you shouldn't have said that.

I sent a text message saying if she wants to hang out together.

You never ask. You offer at ime and a place. Texting 101.

Title	First time post, where did I do wrong?
Author	gargensis
Upvotes	0
Comments	9
Date	March 23, 2014 11:35 PM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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