So I got back from vacation, where I spent 3 weeks in Southeast Asia. I sort of had this epiphany while there and it has stuck with me since then.

Let me start by explaining what I was doing wrong and noticed it quickly. When I put pressure on myself to go into "game" mode, I usually don't do well. I'm over-energetic and come off as needy. I'm aware of it, but I'm learning how to tame it and be grounded at all times. My best sets are when I'm grounded and not giving away too much value. I had a bunch of makeouts, and a couple of f-closes, and some missed opportunities. These are my fav two reports that resonated with me the most.

K-Close an HB8

I was at a big outdoor party while away, and I see this 4 set crossing over this very tiny 5 ft bridge between "dance areas". I see them and hold my hand out to help them, of course they all grab my hand. The last girl (HB8) grabs my hand but I don't let go, I lightly pull her towards me and say, "You know, I was nervous for you." She laughs and responds with a British accent, "well that makes two of us then." I introduce myself and we start talking for a while.

I move her to another spot where we can sit, and after a few minutes I go for the makeout. She moves her head away and I continue talking like nothing happened. I keep my cool, and after another few minutes I tell her, "I kinda have a little crush on you right now." She responds with, "Well that's obvious or we wouldn't be talking." I smile while keeping strong eye contact, and go in for the makeout again. This time, she doesn't turn away and we start kissing.

I never broke my frame, continued escalating and showing intent (even verbally at one point) and acted as if I was entitled to her. I almost got the pull, but her friends were staying on a different part of the island and they didn't want to come back to where we were, and we made plans to meet up the next night.

F-Close an HB9

On my last night, my friend and I decided to go out to one of the clubs in Bangkok. While we're there, we notice that there are a nice mix of local girls and foreigners. By this point in the trip, I was so accustomed to being approached by "working girls" that I almost started to expect it everytime I saw a Thai girl.

This attitude was sort of beneficial, because once again I was acting entitled (assumed false attraction) and non-needy (like I could walk away at any moment). My friend points out these 2 hot local girls (HB9's) who are standing nearby. So in my mind, I see them and immediately label them as working girls. So I call out to them, and wave them over. I start talking to both of them, just joking and seeing what kind of vibe they gave off.

Right away, I noticed that they are really shy and they're just friends out to have some fun, NOT working girls. My frame never changed, I kept the fun alive and we kept dancing and partying despite the language barrier. I kept going for the makeout with my girl, but she kept denying me. I was confused, but nonetheless I continued on as if nothing was happening. Once things start winding down, they say they know an afterhours spot. We walk there and find out it's not open, so I suggest to have a drink close to our hotel.

We start walking and we continue the fun even in the streets, just making the girls laugh and feel comfortable. We get to our hotel, and we say we have drinks in our room (we didn't). We get up there, and my friend says he wants to shower so he grabs his girl and takes her to the bathroom and I go under the covers in my bed. F-Close.

The most important thing I took away was this feeling of entitlement. I'm perfectly capable and enough to be with hot girls that I would have considered out of my league. With that confidence shining through, and the non-neediness behavior I was able to hook 2 gorgeous girls by being fun and by holding my frame.

Also, travel. Applying the things I've learned in pick-up in other countries is fascinating, both to locals and foreigners.