Today was a rather interesting day. I knew I wanted to approach but I can't get into the mood to approach right when I get up. I do a few things to pump me up to approach. If you have trouble approaching maybe these things will help you.

Pregame rituals

  • Cold showers; yes they suck at first but I find they draw a lot of parallels to approaching. At first you dread it and maybe even fear it but all you have to do is embrace the discomfort and go for it. The first drop of cold water shocks you and then the next one comes. Your muscles contract hard and its all over. You're still uncomfortable but you can deal.

  • Listening or watching PUA infield videos. I watch Justin Wayne and his lay reports. They get me excited to approach

  • Pump up music; After watching some PUA videos I listen to some really high energy music or music that puts you into the mood to be bad ass.

  • Creating a plan; I find when I create a plan for the day I approach more and have less anxiety. It doesn't have to be super detailed just make sure you have one.

My plan

Work on becoming seduction archetype "The Rake" (Art of Seduction by Robert Greene goes into more detail) to become a rake I have to get into a persons mind and live in her emotions.

Into the field

My first few approaches I was anxious and self conscious. Whenever I felt this way I imagined myself as a fly on the wall observing my interactions and movement then realizing that what I'm anxious about isn't a big deal.

I had 2 interactions worth writing about, the first was with this HB8 that was married. I strictly focused on getting into her brain. I did a decent job at it she opened a lot about herself. I found when I was starting to get back into my mind I imagined living in her body and seeing things through her mind. Every time I did this I was back into her brain. I feel like I need to banter more when I talk to people I suck at banter.

The second interaction was better I bantered with her and she was interested for while until I told her I was 19 and she was 28 looked 18 though. I got into her brain pretty well and sort of figured her out. I did this through listening very closely to what she said, understanding her patterns and watching her body language for clues to her mental state. If she mentioned something she liked her body language and complexion would slightly change.

One thing ive earned from reading Casanova's memoirs is that he was very attentive to details of a person. He noticed every freckle on your face, how you walked and even how your feet don't fit your body type. I find when I try to pay this sort of attention I can uncover a lot about a person. Especially what they are thinking.

Realization

Having 2 worthwhile interactions and neither of them were girls my age I think I need to tweak my game to max the # of girls I come into contact with. I can't be doing only day game. I need to work on some online game and enter into the realms of night game. I'm anxious about night game because I never do it, I'll learn though.

I used to be severely biased towards night game girls but having gone out once and met girls in a club/bar I've realized that a lot of them are pretty fun and not the sluts I imagined. Refrain from limiting yourself with the type of girl you want to see or should I say try every girl once you don't know what you like until you've tasted all of the flavors.