I'm looking to know what you guys say/do specifically to move to a f-close. I'm talking after you established a sexual frame with a women, and you are grinding and making-out on the dance floor. Last night I realized this is a problem area. I am getting decent at kino and recognizing when to go for the kiss but lost at where to go after that.

I'll briefly give you my story. I was out at the club in a different city and my buddy brought a group of 5 girls or so, mostly HB5s but one HB7 that I was immediately drawn to, over to our booth. I started chatting her up, doing things like grabbing her shoulder as we joked around, grabbing her around the waist and pulling her into me as we talked, and touching her hair and neck as I commented on her earrings. She tells me she's from out of town and single so I figure it's on.

I usually wear these huge thick framed glasses because some girls seem to love them. She asks if she can put them on. I got an idea from an earlier thread on here about telling a girl she is irresistible. So when she puts them on I tell her that she has this crazy hot librarian look and when I take them back I tell her that she better not put them on again or I won't be held responsible for what I do to her. So we go out onto the dance floor and she puts them on and then we start grinding. After I take them back I look into her eyes I go in for the make-out. I use the same sort of irresistible theme when she starts grinding her ass into me.

For the next hour or so I drag her from the booth where I'm kinoing her/making out, to the dance floor where we grind/make out, to her friends where we talk/joke around. Later, she asks where we are staying that night. That's a huge indicator to me. So when we're out on the dance floor again, it's getting near close and I think I need to escalate this, but this is where I play it wrong.

I say something along the lines, obviously after a really hot make out, "Hey, do you want to get out of here and go back to my hotel?". She says "I do, but I don't know how its going to work logistically. Aren't a bunch of you staying in the same room?" She has 5 other girls in her room. I tell her yes but we have a bro-code that if you have a girl you get the hotel room (bad thing to say?-this is where I feel I messed up). She seems sort of hesitant. Then I sort of lay off and say I don't want to pressure her and it's up to her (again, bad thing to say?). I really want to but if she's not comfortable that's okay by me. Later on she asks how drunk I am and whether I would remember if we went home. I wasn't that drunk and I say of course I would remember. That was some sort of shit test. Anyway, I think maybe I was too direct, and I'm looking for your feedback and guidance.

We still made out danced until close and I got her number. But I feel like I was so close and just played it wrong at the end. A couple ideas about what I could of done differently (again looking for your feedback/guidance): 1) I could have just said I have my own room, let my buddies know, grabbed her hand, and pulled her out, see whether she goes along with it or resists. 2) I could have just gotten her out of the club on her own with some other excuse, promise to get her back to her friends at the end of the night, and then escalate hard before suggesting going to my room. 3) I could have just issued an ultimatum along the lines of "I need to go home and I'd really like to go home with you, so are you with me or not."