I'm not too familiar with day-game and cold approaches in this setting, so this was a bit of a new experience for me. I was at Starbucks earlier today doing work when a super cute girl sat beside me. She was talking on her phone in Russian, and she had an accent herself. I thought to myself "damn, I'll be pissed if I miss this opportunity". She is probably 19-20 years old, and a student at the college here.

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When she hung up on the phone, she pulled out her books and got settled. I turned to her before she buried herself in to reading to strike up a conversation. The conversation went as follows:

Me: "Hi, were you just talking in Russian there?"

her: *smile* "yes"

Me: *smile back* "Oh cool, are you from Russia?"

Her: "no, I'm from Ukraine"

Me: "Nice! did you come here for school?"

Her: "yes, I go to xyz school"

Me: "French school?" (With her accent, the name of school sounded like she was saying "french")

Her: "yes" (Short response, but she's smiling throughout it all)

Me: "I didn't know there was a french school here"

Her: "no no! xyz college"

Me "ohhhh! xyz college"

Her: *blush* "sorry...."

me: "no no that was more my fault" *playful and very light bump with my elbow to her arm*

I asked her what she was taking and she told me she was in marketing/advertising. I just so happened to be working on a proposal for one of my new clients which involves virtual reality escape rooms. I told her I was in something similar and she asked me what I did.

me: "I am doing some marketing for virtual reality escape rooms, do you know what those are?"

her: "no, i don't think so"

I explained to her, and she did know what they were once I broke it down. She started telling me about her experience with VR and stuff like that, and escape rooms. It was a pretty cool convo, but the atmosphere was so loud and coupled with her accent, it was hard to understand fully. I was keeping the convo going but it was sort of difficult to be smooth about it. Once the conversation felt like it was dying down, I did the following:

me: "I'm puanerrd by the way, nice to meet you" *handshake*

her: "I'm girl, nice to meet you to" *soft handshake*

me: "that's a nice name, do you know what it means?"

her: "yes I do"

Me: "I don't really like the meaning of my name"

her: "Why don't you like your name?"

Me: "I do like my name! I just think the meaning is really cheesy"

Her: *laughs* "oh, what does it mean"

Me: "It means beautiful" *laughing...*

Her: "that's a good meaning though!"

Me: "yeah I know, but it's so corny. Whats your name mean?"

Her "my name means fire."

Me: "Wow, see? that's really cool haha. Could be your nickname" (lame thing to say....)

her: *laughing* "yeah i like it. I don't want to be called fire tho "

Me: "haha, I know."

The convo felt like it was dying again because I couldn't think of anything clever to say to save myself here. I switched conversation to her being here in Canada. I asked her if she liked the country, and she said she wants to travel it more before she comes to a conclusion. But right now she has to focus on studying. I went the flow and asked her if she was studying for a midterm, and she mentioned it was just a quiz. Had a little back and forth about quizzes and how I had to them every week. Sounded like she wanted to get to it, so I figured I should respect that. But here is how I attempted a number close

Me: "can I ask you for your number. i wanna shoot you a message and we can link up sometime" (I was so nervous. I lost eye contact at the last half of that sentence, and used a bunch of short filled words like "uh, um". Not overly, but still there)

Her: "I'll give you my facebook" (so an obvious failure on my part)

I give her my phone with FB open and she sends herself a friend request. I know that she was just being nice, and the likely hood of her actually accepting it is very low. (still hasn't done that at the time of this writing and it was about an hour ago).

Me: "it was awesome meeting you, i'll shoot you a message!"

Her: "it was nice meeting you to!"

Then I left and that sums it up. I know that I didn't succeed here, but it was my first real attempt at a day-game cold approach so I will call it a win. Question for you guys:

I could have improved the confidence level of the way I asked her for her number for sure. But how would you have phrased the question asking for her number?

I didn't do much "kino" (a slight bump with the elbow and a handshake). I didn't feel it was appropriate to do much more. Could I have done more?

Whenever I felt a conversation was dying, I would quickly switch topics. Is that a good strategy to keep conversations going?

Even though I could have done better, she wasn't "weirded" out so much that she felt the need to leave or sit elsewhere. She would have just turned back to her work. I just felt wayy to awkward to be sitting there after that convo and the attempt at the number close. Do you guys think I should have kept sitting there and worked on my own thing beside her? (with this being the case, I would keep talking to her over the course of sitting there, maybe not full blown convos, but something). Or do you think me leaving was likely the better choice?

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