So, I've been in a weird slump recently. I had a hot streak of about 2 weeks where I was getting constant makeouts and got 3 f-closes, 2 of them being SNLs.

At some point, I started going out with this ego that I needed to at least get a makeout and when I didn't I started feeling down. I realized I was becoming too dependent on the outcomes every time I opened. Whenever I would get blown out (because I was coming off as needy) it would hit me harder than usual because I had this idea of who I was becoming, and the evidence infield was totally proving that to not be the case.

Anyways, last Friday I was supposed to meet a few friends but decided against it due to weather conditions and decided to hang out at a local bar until it was time to meet a FWB later on in the night. As I walk in, this cute HB7 walks in with me and there are only 2 bar stools left so we end up sitting next to each other.

Of course this is a great situation and I open immediately, but I made the decision to open everyone that was in my proximity. I opened a mixed set to the left of her, and another girl to my right. Within minutes I was sort of the life of the party and the glue that was tied everyone together.

However, eventually I kept on initiating conversation with the girl who walked in with me. I kept using push/pull with her, and I noticed she was a little shy so I kept the conversation going without putting too much pressure since I figured she'd get too scared. But I continued and started escalating.

Eventually, I noticed her body language change. She started facing me and hitting me whenever I would make a joke. This is where it gets interesting, my FWB texts me that she's down the block in front of my apt, so I had to leave. I quickly grab the girl's number and say I had to leave, so she walks to the front of the bar with me. I hug her to say goodbye, but as we pull back I go in for the makeout. We start making out heavily for a good 2 minutes, before I pull away and say I'll text you later.

I then run to my apt where I find my FWB waiting for me. Fast forward to a day later, and the girl and I made plans to hang out. We grab some quick food, and head to a place I like. As we're heading back I just start walking towards my apt without saying a word, I took the lead, she followed.

We get to my apt, I start playing music and within seconds our clothes are off. It was really fun but I learned something.

Lessons: 1. Walking into that bar was just by chance and I did not have the intention to go "game". I was just being social. 2. I'm starting to like that frame when I go out. If I go out with the intention to "game", I lose steam quickly. If I go out to have fun, I let go of the outcome dependency and focus on being social. 3. However, when I find myself in a set that hooks, I go into auto-pilot and start the process naturally.