So it was Day 20 of my 100 day challenge. I had just gotten back from my Cali Vacation. You can read about my time there in my previous Field Reports, Day 19 being the best one. http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/2mibdw/day_19_san_francisco_game_round_2_long_part_1/
I'm working on Rapid Escalation and being able to take the woman I want home, that same night or within the next week or 2.
Rapid Escalation Video: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V3Z4Nq0OrrM
After coming home and spending about 2 weeks relaxing, getting my stuff together in the blizzard I finally went bar hopping in my town.
It was a bit of a dead night, most likely due to the weather.
We walk into 1 bar called Clydz. It's a relatively low-energy bar, but everyone seemed to be in couples, a few single girls at the bar. I felt really intimidated, especially because in the video, Liam is talking to 1 girl, not opening groups of people as is typical in the real world.
So, me and a buddy of mine went to another bar where I have more social status, and more familiarity. We arrived to Harvest Moon and the fly honeys were rolling in.
I was experiencing AA as usual, and I knew my low energy game sucks. So I just pulled out the Rapid Escalation homework on my phone and tried doing a bunch of the things.
I realized I could potentially go up to every girl, and try to kiss them. If I did that, i felt like I ran the risk of being slapped or punched in the face by their potential boyfriend. I find it a bit difficult going up to a complete stranger, who may even be married, and within 15 seconds try kissing her... Maybe I'll get it someday.
What I did try was speaking slowly, making pauses in between my sentences for dramatic effect, using kino immediately and throughout the conversation, pulling the trigger and going for the number or w/e, and building and holding sexual tension no matter how tense it actually gets including just staring at her with a smirk till she breaks the tension.
I approached a set of 3 standing at a table with their drinks. There was one really cute hb8/9, definately the hottest girl at the bar at the time.
I walked over to their table, and put my left hand, firmly on my target's shoulder. It really grabbed all their attention. I left my hand there on her shoulder as they all turned to me. They turned to me in a slight shock or like a "Yes? What do you want?" type of look, as I am a stranger entering their bubble.
I said as slowly as I could, "Hey, my name is, Alexander..." I took maybe .5-1 second pause here, or attempted to (it probably sounded like .2 seconds to them). The I put my other hand out to her and said, "What is yours?"
I did this in the most chill way possible, even though my fucking legs were shaking. This has happened to me only once before. Idk why my legs shake, guess I'm chicken shit.
I did my best to ignore my body's physical nervous reaction and to just go with it.
She gave me her name, "Nandi".
I took a slight pause here, almost as if to acknowledge what she just said.
"Nandi?"
"Yes."
Another pause.
"That's a very interesting name. Where are you from?" (Typical interview questions again...)
"I'm actually from West Africa."
Another pause.
"West Africa? Wow. What are you doing here?"
"I'm going to school here."
She tells me what she's studying. I tell her I'm from Russia. Then we start playing this game I like to play where we teach each other how to speak the other's language.
All throughout the conversation, I would make sure to try to not ignore her friends. I would occasionally look at them, address them, ask them the same interview questions, respond with some value, and then go right back to focusing on this hot lil bitty.
When teaching her Russian, I would purposely make the phrase to translate be, "You are so beautiful". When I said it in her language, I would lift up her hand, and as gracefully as I could, kiss it and say in her language, "You are so beautiful."
She would laugh, but let me do these little games. When she would try speaking it in Russian, I would tease her for it, and the pull her in with my arm and call her a big dork.
I'd say, that none of them gave me weird looks. If anything, they actually treated me like a normal human being. I actually am for the first time starting to feel like one haha. The fact that I can drop this, "party time all the time" bit, and just chill the fuck out and still pick up girls without being creepy or getting those, "you're creepy" looks, is pretty rewarding.
I had kinoed her a lot, rubbing her back and my arm around her.
One time, while she was talking to me and her friends about w/e, I just said to myself, "fuck it.... I wanna fuck you."
So I just stared at her, almost ignoring what she just said, but being chill about it. And I stared, with a little smirk on my face. I didn't know exactly what Liam was talking about when he said, "make the i wanna fuck you face." or the "i know u like to be fucked" face, until I was there and in the moment.
So I just made a slight smirk, stared, didn't flinch despite the rise of tension, and forecfully made myself say in my head, "I wanna fuck you." And I made a slight smirk.
She looked back at me, feeling tense of course. She looked quickly left and right, almost trying to escape my gaze, and burst into a small chuckle and said, "what!?"
I just replied with some sorta facial reaction that felt like, "I just phased her, and I told her I wanted to fuck her"...
I didn't see it going anywhere, and I couldn't escalate with her without isolating her... There wasn't any music playing, or anything really going on in the environment. I also wasn't being "super fun party guy who we should follow around" and I couldn't really see them bouncing with me to another bar or anything. It felt a lot like, "time to chill, talk, and vibe."
Seeing as it wasn't going anywhere, I soon said, "alright, well I'm gonna go check up on my buddy" and I left.
I came to my buddy, and he told me to wait like 15 minutes, go back, start up some conversation again, and after a few minutes, go for her number, and before the interaction is over, plan the date.
So I did this, and well, it's a bit cringeworthy, just warning you.
I get in there, and almost immediately go for the number.
"hey, yea my buddy is okay."
"Oh good, I'm glad."
"Yea, so, we're actually getting out of here. I'd really like to see you again. How can we make that happen?"
"Hm... I'm not sure how we could make this happen again."
"Well, why don't you give me your number and we'll figure it out."
She says, "okay."
She starts putting her number into my phone. For some reason, she couldn't add her name to the number, and thus couldn't save it.
She goes "Oh well, I guess I'll just see you around."
This felt to me like she was either giving up on me because it wasn't working quick enough, or because I didn't sound confident enough... A girl that's interested enough to see me again, I don't think would act like this.
I say, "ah, it's alright. I'll just call you right now and add you later from my recent calls list. So, where are we going out?"
"Oh, I have no idea where we can go out."
"How about Thursday night."
"Oh, I think I'm busy that night."
"Ok. Hm... How about Friday night."
"I don't think I'm gonna be free then either."
I just really felt like, she isn't giving me any free pass here. Just felt a bit defeated here... Not defeated in Overall Seduction, but defeated with this specific girl... I don't even think she gave me the right number.
I left saying, "Haha, alright, take it easy."
I haven't texted or called or anything since I got it on Saturday, because I do suspect that it's a fake/flake.
I will without a doubt text her just for the hellavit, but not expecting anything but dead air.
Any suggestions on what to text and/or what I did wrong?
We went to another bar that had a band playing.
I danced around with a couple of girls. Both had boyfriends. One of the girls I danced with, I kinoed the fuck out of her, kissed her on the cheek while we were dancing and got her really excited... Then her boyfriend came, and she suddenly got really embarassed, and sorta jumped to his side. He looked at her and then me, almost like, "wtf is going on here." I just played it cool, and walked away. I realize, I almost made a girl cheat on her boyfriend... wow.
I went away from the band, and a girl had approached me. She was at the bar with some AMOG that was trying to get her, but wasn't doing a great job at it. She had taken interest in me when I was stroking my beard. She wanted to stroke it as well, and I gladly let her. We talked a little, teased each other about what we were wearing, playing little games like switching each other's hats, and other cute stuff...
She soon left for a ciggerete outside and never came back.
I was happy that I didn't jump back into "Party Guy" again... Glad to see I'm starting to chill out.
Things I did Well
Things I did poorly
Didn't approach enough women (was too afraid of potential boyfriends, AMOGs and getting hit on the head with a club for stepping up)
Got in my head when getting the number
Spoke faster than I wanted
Created Demons in my head
Didn't engage in conversation before getting the number
Things I need to improve on
Speaking Slower
Making pauses in between my words
Pausing before responding
Approaching more women, chilled out
Staying with Sexual Tension rather than flinching and retreating
Pulling the trigger without being nervous.
there doesn't seem to be anything here