I planned to do stuff with friends on Friday, basically doing the occasional approach while mostly just hanging out. Turns out they had some friends from out of town including a cute blonde girl (calling her Blondie again, no relation to previous Blondie). Now Blondie is easily a 9. My friends know about my pick up career, so they warn me to stay away because she has a boyfriend - and they like him. I sighed, probably for the best.

They decided to go to this really crappy chick bar. I avoid going there for several reasons, one of them is the bathroom attendants. It makes BR pulls kind of interesting (I actually do remember trying once long ago, but I totally failed before I even got to the bathroom). Anyway, the night starts bit rough, I teased Blondie a bit too hard I suppose, and she took it the wrong way (can't remember what was said exactly, she didn't get overtly mad, just turned off). I decide to start being nice, and we start talking about school and work etc. I just start vibing nicely with her. It's around this time that some guys started to hit on her but in a bad, creepy way. I whisper "Pretend you're with me" and put my arm around her and turn her away from some drunk douchey guy. I try to divert her attention by playing a game. I tell her to pick any girl not obviously with a boyfriend, and I'll go hit on her. She loves the idea of this game, and then she asks me if I sleep around. I kind of roll my eyes in an "I can't deny it" way, which I soon realize leads to her flirting with me. Sexual tension points, +1.

I keep my hand around her for a good five minutes until the guys leave (oh the looks they gave). Not 30 minutes later, more poor attempts at pick up ensue, so I repeat the process. Another 30 minutes later, she whispers "While you were in the bathroom, another guy tried, put your hand around me quick!" and I comply. Then I look around and realize we are surrounded by groups of girls. There isn't even a guy on this entire level outside of our group. Uh oh. Sexual tension points, +2.

I talk to one of my friends briefly, and he says he didn't see any guy near her. And he also pleas with me to stay away from her because he can see us flirting (I'm genuinely trying not to). Okay, time to step it up a notch. Now every time me and Blondie get isolated, I try really hard to pull someone else into the conversation. Eventually, we all go out onto the dance floor. My friends, a couple, immediately start grinding, while I'm just looking around pretending to judge the dance floor to approach another girl (I already knew there was nothing there I liked). Blondie begins to grind on me, and I'm pretending not to notice while stepping away from time to time. Christ. Sexual tension points, +3.

We eventually head back to the bar area. A friend pulls Blondie from the group to sternly and in no unclear terms inform her to "stay the fuck away" from me. She comes back, and the flirting recommences. After a while, my friends gave up and gave me the green light to go for it, so I figured fuck it. I was sober since I was planning on driving everyone home, but my friend also told me that they wanted to get a cab regardless. They started handing me drinks - strong, strong drinks. Due to my new found freedom and new found drunkenness, I stop paying attention to my drinking levels and start focusing on Blondie. (In retrospect, they may have been intentionally trying to sabotage me by getting me drunk and buying my drinks. I just thought of that possibility, and I will follow up with them, rofl.)

Here's where I want tips from you guys. I don't usually hit on girls in these types of situations. You're going to read what I did, but I'd like it if you guys would stop reading here and tell me what you would have done. At your disposal is the following: a club with multiple levels, a big dance floor, bars, friends who live near by who are okay with me pulling there. Your constraints: the friends I'm there with are really close and I wouldn't want to do something that would risk that friendship. They did however give me the green light.

Anyway, I start talking to Blondie about stuff, and two minutes later, Blondie gets into a shouting match with another girl there over some stupid bullshit. We all spend the next 30 minutes trying to calm them down. The other girl disappears (no one really cared) and after about 10 minutes of that, I say "Wanna dance?" and lead Blondie to the dance floor by the hand. Before I even fully turn around to face her, she starts grinding into my crotch. I start getting into it, and I think here my drunkenness may have caused me to push too hard. I immediately put my hand on her waist and moved it down to her ass. She was cool with this for about 30 seconds, but she turns around and says, with a big smile on her face, "No, you can't be bad right now, okay?" I don't even open my mouth the whole time on the dance floor, I just give her my "I'm thinking very dirty thoughts" look with a grin as I nod. She turns back around and starts grinding, and I recommence heavy kino operations. Again, she's cool with this for about a minute before stopping me, repeating her mini speech, and then starting to grind again. I think she was trying to reconcile the fact that she does want to do something with me with the fact that she's being judged by her friends along with her guilt of her boyfriend. No idea what else I could have done here except for more slowly escalate the kino. This cycle of me pushing too hard (I really should have calibrated, but I didn't even think to - pretty drunk at this point, but I didn't even realize how badly) followed by her pushing away then grinding again repeated a few times. We eventually go back to the dance floor.

Now this is where things start to get black. I was really drunk, and I finally realized how bad it was. I stopped drinking at that point, but it was way too late. I went from sober to completely drunk in record time. At this point, I'm fighting just to keep it together, and I completely lose focus of Blondie. The night blacks out at that point.

On the dance floor, in retrospect, I do remember considering kissing her and even pulling her to a booth upstairs for super secret BJ time if the groping went well. Oh well, I woke up in the morning and realized I had her number (I vaguely remember getting it - she pushed it on me, I definitely didn't ask, and I don't remember when I got it). It's highly unlikely that I'll see her again any time soon.

I also got another girl's number while playing that "pick a girl for me to hit on" game, but that was mostly just for show. As I left, I remember her saying "seriously, text me", and I cringed after my response "I will". Dumb fuck up there. I texted her the next night "In XXXX again. Come join us. Bring friends." Again, I hate text game. I don't do anything fancy and try my hardest to avoid day 2s, but I was not in a situation conducive to risky BR pulls (BR attendant + friends watching expecting 100% success). This girl has not responded to my single text message - she didn't show up. Probably going to let that number rot.

The next night was supposed to be my "ZOMG NONSTOP PICKUP LETS GO", but the extreme hang over left me really tired. I still went out to support my wing who is still pretty new to the whole thing. He still talks way too much about game in between sets instead of focusing on getting into sets and working them (we can't be out at night every day of the week, so he should try to focus on doing as many solid sets and experimenting when he first start out). He reminds me of myself when I first started out. He does straight Mystery Method with some lines/routines taken from Mehow. I explained to him my more MMA style (stole a little bit where ever I can, though a lot of influence from 60yearsofchallenge), and he just doesn't understand it. I tell him to stick with his style because that's what I did. I got really good at the first half of MM and vibing with people. I didn't get laid doing it, but I sure as shit became a social extrovert doing it. I kinda laugh when he high fives me for being able to vibe in social situations, holding a girls attention for more than 5 minutes. I remember being the same exact way - way too impressed by that simple stuff. He's a good guy, and hopefully, he will stick to doing pick up for the long run.

One more question more for people who teach pick up to others, correcting at night between sets - bad or good? I try to give him tips here and there, but at the same time, build him up. I always, regardless of how he's really doing, tell him he's doing great and to keep it up but don't peck etc. Do you guys keep it balanced or do you keep it 100% positive until the night's over? I feel like if I tell him to do too much at once, it will just get in his head and fuck him up.

Lessons learned: try to get the green light earlier if possible, and also, seriously watch the drinking. That was just fucking stupid.

Thanks for reading guys, I'll be with you again real soon.

Also, you can read my previous posts in the archival subreddit I made: http://www.reddit.com/r/NephronPUAdiary/