Preface: Long, and I’m still a beginner.

Danced with girl I liked from last week. Friendly but didn’t seem to be interested in me at all. Gave her several compliments in her style and dancing skill to express interest.

Met a pair of girls and I liked one of them. They actually turned out to be a PhD student and her professor. The professor was very attractive but had an accent and was a little difficult to speak to her. They both seemed to be pretty young and may have been playing a joke. Conversation didn’t flow as smoothly as I wanted to.

Then I saw this really attractive girl with big boobs drinking by the bar who I’ll call White because she was wearing all white. I asked her to dance and she said that she didn’t know how, I told her it’s OK and that I’d teach her.

Right away I felt that there was something with this girl. We did the usual small talk thing though she seemed to be far more physically comfortable with me than other girls normally are and every time we said something to each other we’d go into a close hug, White pressing her massive breasts against me. Most girls would twist their body and then lean over, not her though, it was all boobs, all the time. I told her she was cute as a way to let her know I was into her, she smiled and said thanks. We ended up dancing through two songs which isn’t that common for Salsa. On the way to walking back to the bar I said, “That will be $20 for the private lesson” and White responded with a smile, “Oh but I didn’t sign a contract, too bad.”

We then went our separate ways for a time. I danced with other girls then I needed a breather found a seat. I saw White dance with another guy and I noticed that she wasn’t getting nearly as close to him as she did with me.

The music changed to Bachata, which is a more sensual dance than salsa. I went up to White, “OK, it’s time to learn Bachata come on. Just so you know Bachata is dirty dancing.” She said, something like “Oh that’s the one I want to do, let’s go.” Unfortunately, when it comes to Bachata I’m a completely amateur so I could only teach her the absolute basics but she didn’t mind at all. Now the proper way to dance Bachata is in a very close embrace but it’s not normally danced that way between strangers, especially with people who don’t really know what they are doing. But nope White did not care at all. She was fully pressed against me, and we were pretty much crotch grinding the entire time. That was the first time I have ever danced Bachata that way. Got a little excited, she didn’t seem to mind and I’m sure she noticed. There were several times were I felt like kissing her but I’m still wary about initiating a kiss with a new girl. Now that I think about it, I should have tried putting my hand on her ass to see how comfortable she was with more sexual touching. If she let me grab her ass I’m sure I could have kissed her.

After that dance we went our separate ways. A little after that I saw White and a tall meathead looking dude seem to be exchanging phone numbers. Then the nights dance performance started. Once that was over I saw meathead holding another girl who I think was White’s friend. Looking around I couldn’t find White, I looked outside and there she was, having a smoke. I don’t smoke but I’d be able to put up with it so I sat down next to her. Right away she asked if the smoke bothered me, and I told her no, that my coworkers smoke all the time on break, and I just deal with it. She said that it’s a social thing in France. I asked her where she’s been, she told me the countries and I asked how America compares and she said that it was boring here and that Americans are too uptight and anxious about everything. She went off on a tangent for a while. While talking we also jumped around to the topic of her having trouble dancing and she doesn’t like to follow and she likes to be dominant. Then how she wants to be able to travel when she wants but doesn’t the guy to sit at home, honestly the conversation got a little confusing at this point. It was starting to get really late and she said something like “I need to go get my friend and take off, I want to see you again.” I replied, “Alright give me your number” and she didn’t say yes. Lol wut? So naturally I’m puzzled so I told her to come back next week and I’ll dance with her again and she said she might come if her friend wants to. Girl you just told me you wanted to see me again!

This was my best night out I’ve had in a long time. Still not as good as I would have liked, but I got further than I normally do.

Final thoughts:

Felt that I should have gone for a kiss, but that I’m not ready to bridge that gap. I had two drinks but still in my head.

I need to work on my small talk skills. There were a few other girls that I liked but conversation didn’t flow that smoothly due to me.

Still not sure if girls are picking up that I’m interested in them.