Hi guys, I decided to write my first FR because I not only had a successful weekend where I finally got over my one-itis, but also had a revelation about the importance of always assuming attraction.

Ok, so the story begins when I'm visiting a friend at college in NYC on my spring break and I meet a friend of a friend (HB7) at this after-party and we hit it off, lots of flirting, kino, etc. Unfortunately, our friend groups split up and I had nowhere to take her to isolate her until the next day when it was too late to hook up. We stayed in contact, but we were not able to hang out before I went back to Chicago.

Fast forward a few months, I knew I was visiting Jersey again for spring break and since it was obvious that we both really wanted to hook up that night we first met, I naturally suggested that we hang out next time I come visit. She loved the idea and I knew that I had definitely secured a hookup for when I got home (due to the dirty texting, drunk texting and various other IOI's).

Here's where things started to get confusing - she had talked about how awesome our reunion and our first kiss would be, but when I actually went to pick her up, she goes for an awkward hug, very little eye contact, seems almost cold/indifferent to me, but I brush it off, still give her a kiss and then take her back to my place. We hang out in my basement for a while, watch some comedy on my laptop while layin on my bed, but I still felt like I couldn't cross any kino boundaries. Finally, my sister and her boyfriend get back home and suggest we play some beer pong.

We play pong and hangout for a while, i'm having a great time, but she seems to be absolutely glued to her phone and not enjoying herself. Over the hour or so that we played, she gets increasingly involved with this conversation (which turned out to be her over protective parents basically yelling at her). So at this point, I start thinking, "I've made a huge mistake, her energy levels are extremely low, and she probably was just drunk when we met and isnt attracted to me anymore now that we're actually just hanging out."

So my sister and her BF leave, and we're finally isolated, hanging out on my bed again but still just talking, when her dad calls her and starts yelling at her for lying, asking when she's gonna come home, if we've been drinking. So she asks me if I'm ok to drive. Finally she stops talking to her parents, explaining that "they always do this". So instead of offering to drive her home, i just say, "give me like 10 minutes, I'm really comfortable right now" and then proceed to get under the covers. She slowly, but surely follows and gets under the covers and we finally start making out, so I turn the light off and we're in complete darkness now. Clothes start coming off and I start fingering her, after a while I get up to go find a condom, but while I'm up she reaches for her phone and says that she needs to go home right now and starts getting dressed..... fuck. On the way home, she tells me that was the only time we could hang out while I'm home. I got pissed to myself that I had a naked girl in my bed and just assumed I would have another chance to see her and didnt finish the job.

After I drop her off later, we're texting about how the night went and here's where things started making sense:

HB - I wanted you more than ever, I'm really pissed i didnt get you.

Me - I honestly didnt think we were gonna even hook up at all, because you seemed so depressed most of the night.

HB - I wanted you the whole night, that's why I was semi touchy feely

(whereas I thought there was so little kino, she was being cold and distant)

Me - I really just want to drive back over there haha... you're just so within reach...

HB - It's so upsetting, I feel like i barely got to see you.

Me - How about this, tomorrow morning you accidentally stop by my place "on your way back to school". Just give me like...... 15 minutes

HB - hahah oh 15 minutes huh?

Me - haha yup. 5 minute for parking/logistics, then 10 minutes of ecstasy, then we both go our separate ways til we meet again. just do it, it'll be fantastic

HB - mmmm idk, it's tempting, however i'm not a booty call... even though I want you... so idk.

I dont respond and just go to sleep. The next morning I dont text her asking if she's still coming over, she texts me and asks "are you good with cars? because i was wondering if you could check my transmission fluid". I have no idea what i'm doing with cars, but I figured she's just looking for any excuse to come see me because she can't admit it's for sex, so I say, yes I can help you out.

The night before, I assumed she wasn't attracted to me even though in hindsight she explained that she absolutely was and wanted me to fuck her. That morning when she visited, even though she was acting just as "cold" or distant from me, I was so 100% sure she was attracted to me, I didnt care. I just led her right to my bed and I finally hit that, and it was awesome.

Conclusion - It was at this point it hit me that not all girls are amazing at sending clear signals, even if they think they are. Even though she really liked me, I wasn't assuming attraction the first night we were together and it made me feel like I was pressuring her into doing something she didnt want to do, so we both later regretted not having sex. When I assumed attraction, we both got what we wanted, but I had to be very confident and dominant and it payed off.

tl;dr - Girl sends very cold kino and body language signals the whole night which leads me to believe she wasn't actually as attracted to me as I thought she was, which made me very hesitant to escalate and took away my confidence. The next morning, after talking about how unfortunate it was that we didnt have sexytime the night before, I saw her and I assumed attraction and was able to flawlessly lead her to sexy time leaving us both satisfied.