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So I went to our happy hour spot after texting the HB9 18 y/o bartender a few hours earlier - Transcript from previous post below.

  • Me: Hey Bootylicious ; ) Something came up... I'll have to cancel on tomorrow.
  • Her: That's fineeeee I gotta get my nails did anyway
  • Me: Feel like I dodged a bullet.... Wouldn't want the mangled hands on me ; P
  • Her: Lol yeah they are looking rough
  • Me: I hope they don't affect our happy hour... I guess you'll owe me one. You're lucky I'm so nice.
  • Her: hahah we owe eachother! Considering your ditching

So I felt like this built a little more attraction. Considering i originally felt like she as going to flake on me. Anyway. I get to the place - it's packed, no seats at the bar. I grab a drink from the first bartender that comes up to me she is a HB8 bridging on a 9, I notice that my target is playing a little hard to get by acting like she doesn't see me.

I notice that my HB9 starts going around and hugging people she has seen before while trying to ignore me. This is where I did the right thing, I didn't care because I was actually more interested in the conversations I was having with people. When she walked behind me I bumped her so she got off balance and said this with a troll face "What, can't say hello? Such a brat..." and then went back to my conversation with some random guy I talking to. I feel like I could have done something better than just bumping her and calling her out. However, I know I played it right by not letting her ignoring me bother me

I tell my coworker that we should sit outside it's freezing but it's also quieter and we needed to talk some business. Go out there for maybe 20 minutes getting really into our conversation. We needed refill our beverages. So I go back up to the bar and the same HB8 bartender comes up to me first, i get a drink and when she is adding it to my tab my I notice my HB9 standing next to the register say something to the HB8 and looking at me with odd look on her face - kind of "I don't understand you" or "Why are you not paying me more attention". Since it is close to where I was standing, I tilt my head and say "What? Did you want to get my drink?" [mistake] I should have said, "You're going to have to step up your game" with a snooze you lose type of shrug grin so that she knows i'm teasing her.

So a little time goes by and i'm talking with my coworker standing perpendicular to the bar and my head facing away. I see the HB9 in my peripheral, she is standing waiting for me, but I just continue my conversation and pretend to not notice she is there - mostly because I was really interesting in what we were talking about. So she waits maybe 10 seconds and then shouts "icantmakethisshitup!!" I turned and said hello ecstatically and recalled she said her nails were looking rough, I decided to make obvious looking at her hand and gave some neg about them [mistake] I should have asked her for her hand inspected closely and made a similar comment instead of just observing.

We went our separate ways and a coworker and I sat at a table nearby table - first time we have not sat at the bar, it was packed. So we are talking to the table next to us and they are commenting on how we are talking to these women (It's a breastaurant and most of the women are at least a HB7, there are a seldom 6's mostly 8's and few 9's). I see another bartender HB8 that I had an inside joke to share with her, so I called her over, and gave her the paper (it's a long story) she absolutely loved it - i kino'ed a little bit and she was overly enthused definitely DHV. I didn't try and see if the HB9 was watching this but I assume she probably saw some of it.

Next another girl is walking around serving (she is sometimes a bartender upper HB8), we had been talking with about a business opportunity she is passionate about. Last time we had talked about it, so we followed up on some of our ideas. So we talk to her for maybe 10 mins at our table. I'm interested in conversation so I'm not looking around to see if the HB9 is looking.

So after that it is almost time for us to leave. I go TAB out at the bar and head back to my table. I am hoping to catch the HB9 and have her come say goodbye to me without me going to her. I wait maybe 5 minutes while we finish the last of our drinks. I see her talking to a person, I give that thousand yard stare just to build tension that you get when someone is looking at you. We meet eyes, I smile and with just my fingers motion her to come over. She drops what ever she was talking about with the customer, and walks over. I stand up and tell her we're are heading out and give her a hug and a kiss on the cheek. She says "Why didn't you guys sit at the bar???" I just gave her some shit about her not saving us seats like she said she would - she never said that [mistake] I feel like i should said "If I sat at the bar you would just be trying to get me drunk in order to seduce me" with a teasing grin. So after telling her about how she didn't save the seats she exclaimed "icantmakethishitup! Stop giving me shit!" I laughed and said "awww we do it because we love you" (coworker was standing near so i used we, could have said I) and then gave her another quick hug. We left after that.

Things I did well

  • Not caring that she was trying to ignore me.
  • DHV by talking to and making the servers/bartenders laugh and be open to us.
  • Being interested in the people around me.
  • Talking to everyone
  • Just being happy.

Things I did poorly

  • Not escalating correctly when i spoke with her