First a little background. 16 months ago I was obese, had crippling social-anxiety, smoked a pack a day and just generally hated life. I quit smoking, went through therapy, and started taking care of myself. I'm still overweight, but I've lost 70lbs total. I went from unfuckable to fairly attractive despite my weight.

I graduated college and after a long job search I finally moved into my new place about two months ago. In that time I rarely went out (still working on the social anxiety) tried unsuccessfully to develop friends and went on a few semi-akward OKC dates.

Finally last night I decide to go do Karaoke. I love singing and the Warriors/Nuggets game was on. Two things that I knew I could have fun doing, even if i went to the bar and 'everyone thought i was loser for going there alone and nobody talked to me' (that's the social-anxiety talking :3). I did not go out with the intention of getting laid, but I did want to try and strike up a conversation with at least one girl and try to flirt some if I could.

It was so much fun and SO MANY WOMEN HIT ON ME!

Here's a rundown of how the night went:

  • Go to the bar. Find a spot. Sit down. Get a drink. Game is just starting, baller.
  • Achievement Number 1: HB4 walks in an sits at the bar. Knowing that I will just get anxious about talking to her I immediately say "Hi!" when she sits down. She says Hi politely in return. I notice that she's watching the game so I talk to her about it a little bit. I had a conversation with a girl! Boom. (Note: I talked about something I was interested in, which made the whole thing much easier).
  • I put my name in for Karaoke, sit down and watch the game. Chit chat a tiny bit with HB4, bartender, and those around me.
  • Sing "I Heard it through the Grapevine" by Marvin Gaye. I rock the shit out of it and the place goes nuts. I'm a really good singer so this is a pretty common occurrence for me, at least recently. Somewhere in the past year I went from "Yeah he's aight" to "Holy fucking shit where did that come from?". OHB5 (Overweight HB5, i.e. cute but fat :3) touches me on the arm and compliments me.
  • Achievement Number 2: Sit back down at the bar and HB4 buys me a drink!. First time a girl has ever done that! WOO! We were sitting with a chair between us so I moved over. I touch her when I say thanks, initiating keno.
  • HB4's male friend shows up. I assume he's in the friend zone and wants to bang her, so any approach by me is going to be seen as encroachment on his territory. I make friends with him, but realize that HB4 probably won't lead anywhere.
  • Failure Point 1: I basically stand around and sometimes chat with HB4 and her friend for the next 30 min to and hour. I'm having fun, but I didn't need to hang around with them for that long. I'm a buddhist and I try to preach non-attachment. I wasn't attached to HB4, but rather the comfortable nature of that situation. It would have been more work to go find another person to talk with, but it would have been the better/smarter thing to do. Next time.
  • Talk with this incredible singer, call him J. Have fun with him over course of the night. The way karaoke is situated everyone can see him and me interacting in the middle of the bar and having fun. Looking back this probably helped create some attraction, but I was just doing it because it was fun and I thought this dude was cool.
  • Sing song #2: A Change is Gonna Come by Sam Cooke. Kill it again.
  • Generally having a blast by this point. Promise to do a duet with HB4 that never comes about because she's gets pretty drunk and leaves with her friend. No biggie. Talk with a bunch of people and watch Steph Curry do his thing.
  • Achievement Number 3: OHB5 from earlier approaches me directly. First time a girl has ever done that! WOO!
  • ...and Failure Point 2: Compliments me again on my singing, said the second song "Gave me a semi". I laugh. She obviously wants to bang me and all I really had to do was flirt a little bit and offer to go back to my place/offer her a ride home in the morning (she said her friends were leaving and had no ride home). What I did was be like "uhhh. ok. sucks to be you" (not literally). I was pretty drunk at this point and for the most part fell flat on my face because I a) knew all I had to do was say "Hey lets go back to my place" and chickened out from saying it due to lack of confidence and b) had no other conversation path other than "lets go back to my place". For future work in the field, I gotta sieze opportunities when they appear. Anywho...
  • I sing Mulan "I'll make a man out of you.". Serious, impressive songs first, fun songs last. :3. I forget the melody halfway through. I see HB6 and HB7 sitting by the bar and put the mic in front of them in the rockstar "Now you sing!" action until I can pick up the melody again.
  • Achievement Point 4: Song ends, everyone loves it (especially the chicks. Girls love disney songs. :3) and I go over to HB6/7 to thank them for the assistance. I quickly initiate keno with HB6 (who was really an HB8 because she could sing really well which totally does it for me), and we talk about disney songs. We talk about singing a duet of "A Whole New World" and we're holding hands. But I'm ready to head home so I tell her to come back next sunday and we'll do it. I probably could have played that into something more but I wasn't that interested at the time. I mostly wanted to get home and play videogames. :3
  • During this a HB5 walks up and hugs me and tells me "thank you for singing that song!". Another girl flirting with me!

Conclusion: 5 different girls who I would bang hit on me. 5! THATS SO MANY. THIS DOESNT HAPPEN TO ME. I didn't get laid, but I achieved what I set out to and so much more. So happy I didn't chicken out and decided to go out last night. SO much fun!

ADVICE REQUEST: So the biggest theme from last night was girls would compliment me on my singing. I'm white guy that can sing like a 60s/70s black soul singer and it's my biggest point of value/attraction. But I have no clue how to use it to my advantage in seduction! Any advice? How do I convert compliments about my singing into more attraction?

Basically answer this prompt. Her, touching me on the arm: "Wow that was so good! You can really sing!" Me: (WHAT DO I SAY AND DO HERE?)