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| 1 | The 15 Golden Rules For SeductionYes you should, not everybody does. | /r/seduction | 10/07/16 03:40 PM |
| 2 | The 15 Golden Rules For SeductionThis seems spiteful. Why be friend with someone you don't like? | /r/seduction | 09/07/16 10:19 PM |
| 0 | The 15 Golden Rules For Seduction0. ASK FOR FUCKING CONSENT. | /r/seduction | 09/07/16 10:18 PM |
| 5 | Setting up polygamist relationship from beginning? In an apartment setting, for example.If you don't know how to communicate openly with all of them you aren't ready for a polyamorous relationship. Don't fuck the people you live with. Don't fuck people you do business with. Sorry to kill your dream but its in your best interest. | /r/seduction | 09/07/16 10:15 PM |
| -1 | Inner game / My alpha perspectiveThis shit should be stickied. /slowclap | /r/seduction | 09/07/16 10:14 PM |
| 1 | How did you perfect your technique?I perfected my seduction when I stopped caring what my 'body count' was. ;) | /r/seduction | 09/07/16 10:11 PM |
| 1 | Would you say clean shaven/stubble or beard?Jealous of your hair. No opinion on the facial hair. | /r/seduction | 09/07/16 10:04 PM |
| 2 | Should I ask my close friend if he'd be ok with me dating his ex?Done it. It fucked with our relationship. Took 2 years to heal. Be careful. | /r/seduction | 09/07/16 10:02 PM |
| 3 | Asked out a 10Good on you for being vulnerable and going after what you want. Mark of a man. | /r/seduction | 09/07/16 10:01 PM |
| 12 | Beginner Tip: Talking to a woman. Comment on what you see.Love this one! One of the best tips I ever learned in pickup. I also have a.... LEVEL 2. For Advanced pickup artists only!! Instead of commenting on something outside yourself, comment on something internal. Comment on your current emotional state. How are you feeling right there in that moment. Anxious? Sad? Excited? Horny? Express that. This allows the girl to see you. And seeing each other is where connection starts. It also requires a fuckton of vulnerability. Use when you are ready. | /r/seduction | 09/07/16 09:58 PM |
| 1 | Would Seddit be interested in an AMA from a 29 year old, 6 year vet?So he's cockblocking you. Got it. Why do you imagine he would want to do that? | /r/seduction | 09/07/16 09:50 PM |
| 1 | Would Seddit be interested in an AMA from a 29 year old, 6 year vet?If you can't stand in a bar by yourself you should be in counseling for social anxiety disorder doing exposure therapy, not chasing women. I say this as someone who had social anxiety disorder. | /r/seduction | 09/07/16 09:46 PM |
| 1 | Would Seddit be interested in an AMA from a 29 year old, 6 year vet?Heh, I don't approach women at all. Not really. I talk to women I'm attracted to and build connection with them, but I don't "approach" in the way pick up uses the term. Used to, a lot. Not anymore. I do have opinions on this and I want to you to know what I'm saying is in service of helping you work on your self (and because you asked). I judge your need to chase after women as a need for validation. I'm imaginging that you feel if women aren't sleeping with you aren't _____ enough. Not sexy en… | /r/seduction | 09/07/16 09:42 PM |
| 1 | Would Seddit be interested in an AMA from a 29 year old, 6 year vet?I like your opener. Honest and direct. So the thing with being honest and direct is that if you stop being honest and direct, you show a lack of integrity. The next step is to express whatever you are feeling in that moment. I can't give an example because it totally depends on the tonality what he said (is he being playful or is he telling you to fuck off?). This is hitting on something that I don't like in pickup nowadays. The idea of "maintaining frame". Yes, you want to communicate a masculi… | /r/seduction | 08/07/16 09:37 PM |
| 1 | Soliciting some unorthodox advice...The reason I ask is because if you can locate the specific need, you will then be able to ask for that thing. All a girlfriend is, technically, is an agreement not to sleep with other people. That doesn't seem to me like what your primary need is here. Is it intimacy? do you want a life partner? emotional support? regular sex? a partner in crime? These are all things that you can have without a committed relationship. But to have them you must to know what your core want is. Also, figure out wha… | /r/seduction | 08/07/16 09:10 PM |
| 1 | Would Seddit be interested in an AMA from a 29 year old, 6 year vet?To get zen on you, mastery is being content with any outcome. | /r/seduction | 08/07/16 09:02 PM |
| 1 | Would Seddit be interested in an AMA from a 29 year old, 6 year vet?Like, he's intimating you? And what do you mean they are always suspicious? | /r/seduction | 08/07/16 07:00 PM |
| 1 | Would Seddit be interested in an AMA from a 29 year old, 6 year vet?I don't put a time constraint on connection. When it feels right I kiss her. I'm curious what the need you have is. What do you feel like you're not getting if it takes longer than two hours to kiss a girl? | /r/seduction | 08/07/16 06:58 PM |
| 1 | Would Seddit be interested in an AMA from a 29 year old, 6 year vet?Austin, TX. Easier. So. many. hot girls. On the flipside there is a much bigger pressure to be in swim-suit shape since its sunny and warm like 10 months out of the year. When I was in ohio it was easier to draw as an out-of-shape guy. Logistics is the actual where are you going to sleep with this girl? Do you have a nice place that's clean? How far away from the place you meet the girl are you? How are you going to get from that place to your place? It's way easier to get girls back to your pla… | /r/seduction | 08/07/16 06:57 PM |
| 2 | Would Seddit be interested in an AMA from a 29 year old, 6 year vet?It's a feeling, a literal energy made from testosterone. The best I can describe it is "I need something, so I'm going to get it". I like telling this story: One time I was eating some ribs. Really great ribs from the BBQ food truck across the street from my apartment. I started eating them mindfully, fully aware that this was an animal, something that had lived and died. Its possible that it suffered a lot during its life so I could eat tasty bbq. I was also mindful that my body was exhausted f… | /r/seduction | 08/07/16 06:54 PM |
| 1 | Would Seddit be interested in an AMA from a 29 year old, 6 year vet?I use the same approach for every situation. "Hi everybody, I'm ___ . I want to meet ya'll because ___." If I have no interests in talking to the group and only want to talk to a single girl, I ask her directly if she would like to talk with me. Genuine and direct. I'm curious what the motivation behind your question is. What is different to you about an approach when there is another masculine member in the group? Do you see the man as competition? | /r/seduction | 08/07/16 06:14 PM |
| 1 | Advice on how to get over a break up?Seems to me like you're running away from the pain. Pains like NAH PAY ATTENTION TO ME. Be with it. Embrace it. Explore it. Why does it hurt? Where does the hurt come from? What can you learn from it? | /r/seduction | 08/07/16 04:23 PM |
| 2 | Soliciting some unorthodox advice...My curiosity for you is why do you want to be in a monogamous relationship? What's so important about that to you? What is the need you have that isn't being fulfilled? I think i can help you if you can answer those things. | /r/seduction | 08/07/16 04:16 PM |
| 1 | Getting Women with Honesty and RespectHave a good life. I hope you begin to understand your suffering. | /r/seduction | 31/10/15 09:05 PM |
| 1 | Getting Women with Honesty and RespectLol, I knew that was going to be your response. I wrote it out anyway because It made me happy to think about. You can't let go. You're afraid of what letting go means. Letting go is the only way to be truly happy. | /r/seduction | 31/10/15 08:34 PM |
| 1 | Getting Women with Honesty and RespectHa, I'm no pickup guru. I'm just a happy guy trying to spread happiness. There's far more to life than sex. In fact the biggest lesson I learned from my years in pickup is that trying to get laid only ends in suffering. It all works better if you just take what life gives you. Case in point, my love. We'll call her Micky (Not her real name of course, just my nickname for her). Warned this is long, you asked for it. ;D For my birthday a few months ago I went to do Karaoke at my favorite Karaoke b… | /r/seduction | 31/10/15 08:18 AM |
| 1 | Basic Guide on ConversationTalk to someone more interesting. | /r/seduction | 31/10/15 04:29 AM |
| 2 | Day 5 of approaching (fighting self-pity, and mental mind games)I'm just being friendly - why is everyone so glued to their phones and not just being friendly back, but again I tried to get rid of that thought and just find it funny. Ahahahahaha. Welcome to life! Most people are just as nervous/anxious as you are man. Don't beat your self up. There's nothing to be upset about. | /r/seduction | 31/10/15 03:47 AM |
| 1 | How does a lesbian get back on the horse?In that sense, so are all men. | /r/seduction | 31/10/15 03:45 AM |
| 2 | What was the most recent revelation or tweak you had to your game?I stopped trying to get laid. Much happier now. If it comes it comes, if it doesn't it doesn't. Outcome independence. It's the key to a happy life folks. | /r/seduction | 31/10/15 03:43 AM |
| 1 | Getting Women with Honesty and RespectThat's how I met my current lover. Why would I be in this forum giving advice if I hadn't? If you like, I can give you a detailed rundown of my four years in pickup. Every girl, every approach. My whole story. None of it will help you be happy though. That comes from understanding your self. | /r/seduction | 31/10/15 03:31 AM |
| 1 | Getting Women with Honesty and Respect90% of human communication is non-verbal. Seems to me you're afraid if you be yourself, girls won't like you and you won't get laid. What would it mean to you if you didn't get laid? Would that mean you weren't "Worth" much? If so, are you really sure that's reality? Or is that just what modern society has told you a "Man" is? | /r/seduction | 30/10/15 10:57 PM |
| 1 | Getting Women with Honesty and RespectIt's not about worth at all. It's about compatibility. If she likes me and i like her we hang out, if she doesn't like me or I don't like her we move on. Besides, how the hell are you ever going to know if a girl actually likes you if you're pretending to be something you're not? | /r/seduction | 29/10/15 06:23 PM |
| 1 | Getting Women with Honesty and Respect1) Why wouldn't I tell people everything about me? I want to be their friend/lover. People need to know the real me in order to connect with me, yes? 2) You can just say "I'm gonna go" with no explanation. There's no reason to lie. 3) Why do you think that honesty is boring? Honesty is exciting. When you're authentic and you find someone who likes you for you, the conversations are never boring because you're both excited to be talking whatever it is you're talking about. But of course you have … | /r/seduction | 29/10/15 03:54 PM |
| 2 | Do women even WANT men to cold approach them?I mean you can. But that won't work. You have to tie vulnerability with authenticity. Be in the moment and go where the conversation takes you. If you think of a way to share yourself, do so. That helps build connection. Just don't force it, it will only come off as needy and unattractive. You have to detach yourself form the outcome. Be totally in the moment. | /r/seduction | 29/10/15 08:59 AM |
| 0 | How do I hit on a girl in an environment that is strongly opposed to that?Buddhism is a path to the truth of reality. The truth is the same, no matter if you come at it cosmologically, psychologically, or spiritually. To quote NDT, "We're all made of star stuff". To truly alleviate suffering, you must know your self. Knowing why he desires the things he desires is critical to his own happiness. | /r/seduction | 29/10/15 08:50 AM |
| 3 | Do women even WANT men to cold approach them?So conversation works like this... You talk about topic X. You think of Y that relates to X and you talk about that. You think of Z that relates to Y and you talk about that. Ad infinitum. If you run out of things to say either a). Talk about something else that relates to X, Y, or Z (take a different conversation branch) or start an entirely new conversation. "Do you like this thing?" etc. The honesty/vulnerability thing you just... do it. I mean you don't start out with "My dad was really dist… | /r/seduction | 29/10/15 08:43 AM |
| 0 | How do I hit on a girl in an environment that is strongly opposed to that?I went through three years of pickup and got laid all the time. Approached thousands of girls, read all the books, etc. It made me miserable. I had no female friends and I developed a complete lack of trust of the female gender. This is where pickup leads to. After figuring out who I am (and that I'm ok as I am) now I'm happy, I love myself and I have wonderful relationships with men and women who love me for me. I have sex too, but it's not something that controls my life. I'm here to help peop… | /r/seduction | 29/10/15 08:37 AM |
| 2 | Do women even WANT men to cold approach them?Get to what? Finding women who like the shit you like? Be vulnerable, be honest. Some women will like it, some won't. Only keep the ones around that like it. | /r/seduction | 29/10/15 08:36 AM |
| -1 | How do I hit on a girl in an environment that is strongly opposed to that?Craving is the root of suffering. I'm trying to help you be happy, not get laid. Take it or leave it. | /r/seduction | 29/10/15 08:35 AM |
| 2 | Why are girls naturally attracted to my friend?There's not anywhere near close to enough information in this post to tell you why. I'll say this: Don't change your self for women. Change your self for yourself. | /r/seduction | 29/10/15 03:44 AM |
| 2 | Do women even WANT men to cold approach them?But most times i just ask if theyre from the area, what they do etc. Don't follow a script. You're boring them. Be vulnerable, talk about what you want to talk about. The goal should be to find women who like the shit you like. | /r/seduction | 29/10/15 03:34 AM |
| -8 | How do I hit on a girl in an environment that is strongly opposed to that?I am trying to help. Let's put it this way. If you had all the affection you desired, you would not pursue these girls. Why would you? You have all you need. The beauty of existence is that you have all you need right here, right now and you always will, forever into infinity. You just need to be aware of it. In otherwords, have /r/mindfulness. | /r/seduction | 29/10/15 03:32 AM |
| 2 | Any tips for going out solo? Is it even viable?Yeah it works. You will have to answer "Are you here by yourself?" constantly. That's ok. Just answer honestly with vulnerability. | /r/seduction | 29/10/15 03:11 AM |
| 0 | Is it normal to suddenly lose interest in a girl that you really liked?No, it's not. Buuuut, I don't think you liked her all that much in the first place. Totally normal to lose interest in a girl who's "meh" to you. | /r/seduction | 29/10/15 03:09 AM |
| -2 | How do I hit on a girl in an environment that is strongly opposed to that?Why do you need affection so badly that you have to flirt in environments where its explicitly forbidden? | /r/seduction | 29/10/15 03:08 AM |
| 1 | 24 years old and going on my first date ever. What are some things I should know?Have fun. Be vulnerable. | /r/seduction | 29/10/15 03:06 AM |
| 1 | How should I approach this girl at my school?"Hi" | /r/seduction | 28/10/15 04:02 PM |
| 1 | Picking up a Victoria secret model...I think you're fine on your own. Just trust yourself and be vulnerable. | /r/seduction | 28/10/15 04:01 PM |
| 1 | Getting Women with Honesty and RespectSome of you may be so disillusioned that you can't tell the difference between lying to people and lying to yourself. The irony abounds. Why are you so desperate to get laid/have fun/gain attention that you have to lie and manipulate people? There's literally zero reason to lie to another person unless you want something from them. Why is your life so bad that you have to manipulate others to feel ok? | /r/seduction | 28/10/15 03:56 PM |
| 2 | How To Grab A Girls Attention And Hold ItGood shit. All about being vulnerable and authentic. | /r/seduction | 28/10/15 06:23 AM |
| 1 | Getting Women with Honesty and RespectExcept this is the truth. How can anyone ever love you for you if you're not yourself? | /r/seduction | 28/10/15 06:20 AM |
| 1 | My friends and I are going to stop dating in November and focus on ourselves, has anyone ever done this?It's called a "Red Shirt Year". I've done it before. It's a nice mindset change. Honestly my bet it that you'll be happier when you stop focusing on women so much. They're great, but there's a lot more to life. | /r/seduction | 28/10/15 06:17 AM |
| 1 | Sexy bartender has a "half-boyfriend"Sounds to me like you got it covered. Be yourself. | /r/seduction | 28/10/15 06:14 AM |
| 1 | Having trouble with hot, reserved girlsMaybe she's just not into you. That's ok. | /r/seduction | 28/10/15 06:13 AM |
| 1 | How to have better Day 2's?I think you're focusing too much on the outcome and not having fun. | /r/seduction | 28/10/15 06:11 AM |
| 4 | How to talk to girl who doesn't like texting? where to go?My question is why are you hanging out with someone that you don't have anything in common with? | /r/seduction | 28/10/15 06:10 AM |
| 1 | Furrowed Eyebrows: seduction technique?I think you can fall into a trap where you become tied to getting that response and start to over-exaggerate. Honestly, do you want to have to worry about your facial expressions all the time? That doesn't seem like fun. I'd rather just be mindful of the conversation at hand. | /r/seduction | 28/10/15 06:08 AM |
| 1 | If you don't want to do cold approach or online dating, how else can you meet hot girls?Hookups : Bars/Clubs Relationships: Don't search for girls. Do the stuff you like to do and meet girls through events/classes/communities/groups/friends. | /r/seduction | 28/10/15 06:05 AM |
| 2 | I asked a girl on a date and she implied I was old fashioned. Is she right?Yeah i've run into this as well. "Date" seems to be a bit out of style language wise. I tend to ask if they want to do something specific together (drinks, bike ride, play music, w/e) and let my body language show my intentions. | /r/seduction | 28/10/15 06:03 AM |
| 1 | Tested Depression CuresYeah trips are intense experiences. Even more important to do them in a safe place than molly. Molly just makes you completely vulnerable. Trips change your reality. Both useful in their own way. | /r/seduction | 27/10/15 02:00 AM |
| 1 | Getting numbers should not be a goal.Why do you keep your emotions bottled? I'd suggest knowing your emotions inside and you. Really finding out why you feel those things. Once you know it's easier to let them go. | /r/seduction | 27/10/15 01:57 AM |
| 1 | Tested Depression CuresHaha of course, just don't depend on molly for your emotional connections. You still have to learn to be vulnerable like you are on molly in real life. | /r/seduction | 26/10/15 05:11 PM |
| 1 | I could really, really use a bone here. Seddit, help a lost mansoul out.Relationships, Sex and Love are INDEPENDENT from one other. You can combine them into one thing, and you can have each one separate from the rest. The fear of "oneitis" is so fucking dumb. It's love you fools! You care for these women! Why are you so obsessed with getting your dick wet that you can't see that? Look at yourself. You hung out with this girl and had a wonderful loving relationship with her for 6 months, then just because she won't commit to you totally shut her out? Are you kidding… | /r/seduction | 26/10/15 04:52 PM |
| 3 | Tested Depression CuresDepression is complete social isolation. The cure to depression is to make real, vulnerable connections with other human beings. If you have trouble doing this, I highly recommend trying /r/MDMA with a community you feel safe in and friends you trust. Small music festivals (<5,000 people preferably) are perfect for this. Exercise, learning, work, etc will give you a head rush, but until you actually make real connections with people the depression will return. | /r/seduction | 26/10/15 04:41 PM |
| 1 | What to text a woman after first getting her number online?Ding Ding Ding. Just be yourself man. Say what comes to mind. Just don't text out of fear. Never text out of fear. Text in spite of fear. | /r/seduction | 26/10/15 04:38 PM |
| 1 | I can't get a girlfriendBeing sexy has absolutely nothing to do with physical attractiveness. Sexuality is about being open and vulnerable with your body and letting the world know "Yes, I am a sexual object". You know that middle-aged balding fat hairy gay man that gets half naked at music festivals and dances around? Pure sexuality. Your issue is that you think you are ugly. It has nothing to do with your physical attractiveness. You are deluding yourself. Most important lesson of your life: You are ok as you. You do… | /r/seduction | 26/10/15 04:36 PM |
| 3 | Being my best selfYou are your best self. You always have been. Let go of the idea that you have to be something 'more', that you have to be your 'best' to be worthy of love. You are ok as you are. The issue is your fear of others seeing you as you are in the moment. Be vulnerable, be authentic. Know your fear inside and out and when it arises acknowledge and appreciate it, then act in spite of it. | /r/seduction | 26/10/15 04:31 PM |
| 5 | My guide to building confidence for those who have noneConfidence is not the absence of fear. Confidence is acting in spite of it. | /r/seduction | 26/10/15 04:28 PM |
| 1 | Getting numbers should not be a goal.You care. You're doing it for the alleviation of your suffering. If you only treat the symptoms, you'll suffer forever. | /r/seduction | 26/10/15 04:26 PM |
| 1 | Getting numbers should not be a goal.Why do you need catharsis in the first place? You're treating the symptoms, not the cause. | /r/seduction | 25/10/15 05:39 AM |
| 1 | Getting numbers should not be a goal.Why are you equating sex with killing? | /r/seduction | 21/10/15 03:29 PM |
| 3 | The "Just Friends" Lemma.Let's make something clear guys. You are allowed to be friends with women who are really hot and don't want to bang you. This is not an attack on your masculinity. Do not let women control your self-worth. Once that is out of the way, just respond honestly. Do you want to be friends? Then be cool with it. Maybe she'll change her mind in the future, cool! but until that happens you're just friends. Do you just want to bang her and aren't interested in being friends? Politely communicate you're no… | /r/seduction | 20/10/15 11:10 PM |
| 2 | How do you move forward when you don't have any evenings free?"I just got off work, what are you up to?" | /r/seduction | 20/10/15 11:07 PM |
| 2 | Is there a secret message?You don't trust women, because you don't really think that you're attractive. Don't let your feelings about yourself get in the way. Tell yourself right now "I promise to trust women for the rest of my life. I know that this will get me hurt sometimes. That is ok. I promise because I know that trust is necessary in relationships." Now follow through with that. Whenever you think "Did she really mean that? Say to yourself: Yes. I promised to trust women, so I'm going to trust what she says." Yes … | /r/seduction | 20/10/15 11:06 PM |
| 1 | How do I expand my social circle?Two parts here. First capitalism. You're right. You're just not making the connection that isolation is a result of consumerism because it's all cause and effect. It's a lot of different factors coming together. There is no rich elite class lording down over us all. We all play by the same rules within a system, and that system is called capitalism. This is why it's called the capitalist machine. Nobody controls it, nobody operates it. It just runs. (Side note: Always pay attention to language. … | /r/seduction | 20/10/15 10:04 PM |
| 2 | Approaching shy girls when you yourself are female incompetent?little much? | /r/seduction | 20/10/15 04:28 PM |
| 1 | Old member here. Pickup helped me get regular ONS, but I want more: How to transition to Relationships or FWB?Do you want emotional connection or do you want to satisfy your own pleasures? Which is more important to you? They aren't mutually exclusive, but you have to prioritize. | /r/seduction | 20/10/15 10:44 AM |
| 3 | How to get past first base with my girlfriend?How to physically escalate / "foreplay". Touch her Touch her somewhere slightly more intimate. Repeat ad infinditum If you feel like you might be crossing a boundary say: "Do you like it when I do this?" as you make your move. If she says no, backtrack. Go back to what you were doing before. If she says stop, stop. If she says yes keep doing that. Go back to the above. Here's a general physical progression of kissing to sex. This is not a guide, this is a list of the possible things you can do f… | /r/seduction | 20/10/15 06:47 AM |
| 1 | First lay field report (finally did it, feel like a God)I can give you some advice (see below), but I honestly can't solve your issue because I don't know why you do that. To change your mindset is literally to think differently about the world and you can only do that if you have a different understanding of your self and what you are. Thats why I asked OP to answer all those questions about him self. YOU have to understand why you have those issues in order to solve them. Meditate, literally be aware of your emotions. Know your emotions inside and … | /r/seduction | 20/10/15 06:22 AM |
| 1 | First lay field report (finally did it, feel like a God)See my reply to OP above. Know your self. A zen master once said "To study buddhism is to know the self". I'd recommend looking into it. | /r/seduction | 20/10/15 05:41 AM |
| 1 | First lay field report (finally did it, feel like a God)As long as you treat sex this way you will never have deep emotional connections. The players aren't real because its a game to you. Once you get to really know these girls, what makes them tick, 'the game' changes into something else entirely. It becomes real and you realize you hate pretending. You hate thinking you have to be something you're not to be loved. | /r/seduction | 20/10/15 05:38 AM |
| 7 | Approaching shy girls when you yourself are female incompetent?Be yourself. Ironically, the most cliche piece of advice is really the core of dating. Be vulnerable and authentic. Be genuine. Be you. Do this and you will find people who you like and who like you for who you are and you'll have pretty great relationships. Now all that fear? That anxiety? That's not you. Fear is the mind killer. Fear is the little voice in your head that says STOP STOP STOP STOP STOP STOP STOP STOP STOP STOP STOP STOP STOP. To stop is to not be. To stop is to stop existing. To… | /r/seduction | 20/10/15 04:00 AM |
| 1 | Thanks guys, thanks a lot.Nothing wrong with an office bang as long as you are emotionally ready for it. Are you emotionally ready to bang someone and then them be in your life everyday and not be able to have that any time you want? Do your cravings normally take control of you? Do you stomp them down and repress them? Or do you have a good, healthy relationship with them and allow them their air to breathe when appropriate? Third one is the attitude you gotta have. Most people aren't. That's totally ok. Meditation can … | /r/seduction | 20/10/15 03:37 AM |
| 1 | Old member here. Pickup helped me get regular ONS, but I want more: How to transition to Relationships or FWB?I definitely am vulnerable and share myself after the sex There's your answer. Do it before. | /r/seduction | 20/10/15 03:31 AM |
| 12 | I have oneitis -- and I fear it won't go away until I hookup with this girl.STOP FOCUSING ON SEX. You really like this girl dude! That's cool! She really likes you too! That's awesome! STOP FOCUSING ON SEX. Dude stop thinking about friendzone and oneitis and all this bullshit. It doesn't mean jack shit. Think about your feelings. How do you feel about this girl? Do you like her? Do you want to be around her? Do you want to share things with her and do things with her? Yeah? Then do those things! Sex is a byproduct, not the goal. Just continue to hang out with her man. F… | /r/seduction | 19/10/15 04:14 PM |
| 3 | I failed my attempt to get my first kiss , she don't want to kiss me and will never do she have saidYou didn't fail at all! Going for the kiss is not a failure. Caving into your fear and not going for the kiss is failing. Sounds like you're really young. Lemme drop some knowledge. You can't buy a girls affection. Drop that shit right now. It will only haunt you later in life. In fact, know that you have absolutely zero control over whether a girl is into you or not. The only thing you have control over is your actions. You were vulnerable and went for a kiss. This is good! She didn't want to k… | /r/seduction | 19/10/15 04:05 PM |
| 2 | Old member here. Pickup helped me get regular ONS, but I want more: How to transition to Relationships or FWB?Sex is about physical intimacy. Relationships are about emotional intimacy. You can't use sex to get a relationship. Sex can be the spark, but unless you're able to share yourself and make a deep personal connection with another human, your relationships will flame out pretty quickly. Work on being vulnerable and sharing yourself. Especially those parts of you that you don't want to share. | /r/seduction | 19/10/15 03:58 PM |
| 4 | [FR] she started talking about a guy she liked on a date.That shit is gonna be a self-fufilling prophecy dude. While you're doing your waiting two weeks thing she's gonna be asked out and you'll miss your chance. And then'll you'll say "Oh she really wasn't interested in me anyway". It's a way to protect yourself from rejection. Well guess what, she is into you. Dude the girl is talking and flirting with you. She likes you. Like, jesus. Look girls do weird shit. Stop reading so much into it. If you want to kiss her kiss her. If you don't don't. Do it … | /r/seduction | 19/10/15 03:56 PM |
| 3 | What is your trick to be always aware?Meditation is the practice of awareness. | /r/seduction | 19/10/15 03:52 PM |
| 2 | What is your trick to be always aware?Meditation | /r/seduction | 19/10/15 06:06 AM |
| 13 | How do I expand my social circle?Stop trying to join groups of friends. Honestly get rid of the entire idea of a "Social circle". Focus on knowing individual people, men and women. Know them deeply and intimately. Share your secrets with them. Be vulnerable Also, just meet more people. Meet as many as you can. It's just like girls because well... it's the same damn thing. Girls just adds sex. Both friends and girlfriends are about emotional vulnerability and intimacy. Of course, modern male society says that being emotionally v… | /r/seduction | 19/10/15 03:59 AM |
| 1 | I liked everything about her and treated her with utmost respect, didn't know it would end this soon. All i said was i missed her pretty smile after we met.Buddha figured it all out 2,500 years ago. Everything today is just a derivative. | /r/seduction | 19/10/15 03:48 AM |
| 1 | I liked everything about her and treated her with utmost respect, didn't know it would end this soon. All i said was i missed her pretty smile after we met.Thanks. Seriously, look into Buddhism. If you can understand who you are the rest comes easily. To know buddhism is to know the self To know the self is to forget the self. | /r/seduction | 19/10/15 02:58 AM |
| 9 | I liked everything about her and treated her with utmost respect, didn't know it would end this soon. All i said was i missed her pretty smile after we met.I do not like the fact that I have so much control over your emotions. Jesus if this ain't the heart of it all. There are two ways to take this and one leads to the dark side. Let's start there first: You now know that girls don't like it when they can control your emotions. They want to be with someone who is emotionally independent. Knowing you feel this way towards these girls you decide to shut down, be a stoic, never feel. This is the path to the dark side. You end up repressing you feeling… | /r/seduction | 18/10/15 04:22 PM |
| 15 | Confidence Boost + Increase your possibilities!my mom can expect a lot more flowers in the foreseeable future! Don't. You're craving attention. Next time you buy flowers you're just going to listen really closely for all the girls talking about you... and there probably won't be any. Not because of you, but just because thats how the universe works. Appreciate the attention when it is there, be grateful for it. Then, let it go. Do not go chasing it. You won't get that high again. | /r/seduction | 18/10/15 04:11 PM |
| 14 | How to Have Casual Sex and Threesomes With Lots of GirlsMany women are looking for the guy who they can let it all out with. It's a lot of fun when you become that guy. This is the catch. You actually have to be that guy. You can't fake it. It must be who you are. If you are not comfortable with your sexuality, she will not be comfortable with her sexuality. In order for her to let her fears go, you must let all your sexual fears go. Everyone you meet is willing to be vulnerable with you, you just have to be vulnerable first. Mates, work out your emo… | /r/seduction | 18/10/15 04:06 PM |
| 1 | Getting numbers should not be a goal.Personally, I just accept whatever girls come in and out of my life. I don't go searching for them. It's ok that girls you're randomly chatting with won't be around again. There are billions of other women on this planet for you to meet. I do that because its easier on my psyche to just accept what comes and not chase. But it has the added benefit of seeming higher status and making me more attractive as well. In my experience the best trick to a happier sex life is to stop trying to get laid. L… | /r/seduction | 18/10/15 04:03 PM |
| 1 | The Bending Theory"I have to pretend be someone I'm not in order to get laid" is what you're telling me. In my experience, that's a shitty way to live your life. I have women in my life that crave my D because of the things I do naturally. You don't need sex mate. It's not that important. Love is. | /r/seduction | 18/10/15 04:00 PM |
| 1 | Have a bit of AA, need some help figuring out how not to be hesitant or make the right "choice"You may want to try practicing conversation with people first. Conversations are like a tree. They start at one place (the trunk) and then they sprout all sorts of different branches. So you can start the NFL and end up talking about Politics (NFL > Redksins > D.C. > Politics) or Jessica Alba (NFL > Cowboys > Cowboys cheerleaders > Hot Chicks > Jessica Alba) or thousands of different things. When you run out of things to say, rewind the conversation and take a different route (branch). When you … | /r/seduction | 18/10/15 02:42 AM |
| 1 | Thoughts on text gameGood that you're recognizing your own cravings for attention. Being aware of your intentions, no matter what you are doing, is a very helpful skill in life. | /r/seduction | 18/10/15 02:30 AM |
| 1 | Have a bit of AA, need some help figuring out how not to be hesitant or make the right "choice"There is always a possibility that a girl will reject you when you talk to her. This is a fact of dating. The key to all of this, to all of human connection, is being courageous and talking to her anyway. Be vulnerable. I highly recommend Daring Greatly, Brene Brown's book on vulnerability and shame. | /r/seduction | 18/10/15 02:28 AM |
| 0 | When is it appropriate to follow up with a girl & when is it best to wait?If she never texted you back to confirm that means no. Doesn't mean she's not interested at all, but it means that monday is a no. | /r/seduction | 18/10/15 02:25 AM |
| 6 | Balding problemsIf you choose to worship beauty, you will always be ugly. Let it go. | /r/seduction | 18/10/15 02:22 AM |
| 4 | How can I make sex and all that leads up to sex about her? (Hope this belongs here)Connect emotionally. Escalate Physically. | /r/seduction | 18/10/15 02:20 AM |
| 2 | Getting numbers should not be a goal.just when you've said enough to be memorable but not too much that you're no longer a mystery...make up some BS reason to leave and get her number. This is terrible advice. You like this girl! Why are you making up a reason to go? Just hang out dude jesus. Stop trying to manipulate girls into liking you. It's impossible to do. Just be yourself and have fun. damn. | /r/seduction | 18/10/15 02:18 AM |
| 6 | Should I say something about my face when it blushes or ignore it until they say something? Today I got called out and literally ran out the mallIt's all in your head man. I'd suggest practicing /r/meditation to help with the mind stuff. Meditation is literally just paying attention. Try to watch your thoughts, notice them and then let them go. So instead of "I'm nervous oh god im blushing OH GOD OH GOD OH GOD" its just "I feel nervous. oh." and then you move on. If you want to truly understand your self, look into /r/buddhism. | /r/seduction | 18/10/15 02:16 AM |
| 1 | How to deal with the voice in your head that says that no one could be interested in you?You're ok with yourself and consider yourself SO HIDEOUS that no girl would EVER be interested in you. You sure you're ok with yourself? | /r/seduction | 18/10/15 02:13 AM |
| 7 | First lay field report (finally did it, feel like a God)Good, now question those answers. Keep asking the whys. Why do I feel this way. What is going on inside myself that is pushing this behavior. Connect the dots. Is there a better way, a better set of beliefs I could be holding. ...the only way to get more is through my own effort. . Ive been too focused on getting laid to truly just let myself go and enjoy the time I have with her. Im always thinking about the next step in the interaction, what I should do, what I should say, etc. I see a connect… | /r/seduction | 18/10/15 02:11 AM |
| 0 | serious question: how often do girls lie that they "have boyfriends" in your experiences?You keep on thinkin you got it all figured out. I'll be over here gazing at the stars. | /r/seduction | 18/10/15 02:07 AM |
| 1 | Avoiding The Bad MindestLook into buddhism. Practice mindfulness. Be aware of what those thoughts really are in actuality. The Thinking Mind/Observing Mind is something that Mark has pulled from buddhism, but there is SO much more to it than that. To study buddhism is to study the self. To study the self is to forget the self To forget the self is to be one with others. - Zen master Dogen | /r/seduction | 17/10/15 10:21 PM |
| 8 | First lay field report (finally did it, feel like a God)I'm gonna push you here. Why are you always thinking about the end goal? What is so important about sex to you? Why are you prioritizing it over everything else? What is it about sex that makes you crave it so much more than every other way of connecting with women? Why can't you just jerk off and be satisfied? What are you missing? Once you know what is missing, ask yourself do you really need sex to fill that hole? Where and how else can you get what you need? Can you still get it from women w… | /r/seduction | 17/10/15 10:12 PM |
| 2 | [FR] The Power of VulnerabilityRead the book! Daring Greatly. Its wonderful. | /r/seduction | 17/10/15 10:07 PM |
| 2 | Why can't I convert numbers into dates?No, its not about making her like you at all. It's about being who you are and see if she is a match. You can never make a girl like you. You don't have that kind of control, you can only let her decide for herself if she likes you. Why are you getting her number? So you can hang out with her right? Then hang out. Right there. Talk, see if you like the same things. Talk about your family. Share yourself, find out more about her. If you find something you both love, that's an easy date that will … | /r/seduction | 17/10/15 10:03 PM |
| 17 | First lay field report (finally did it, feel like a God)Hokay theres a lot here. You're mindset is off man, that's why you're having issues. Sex is a by-product, not the goal. The goal is human connection. If you treat sex as the goal you'll very rarely get laid. Your text game was not the issue, it was because you didn't make a connection. You struggled with day game and success in night game because you knew all the tricks to build sexual tension, but aren't paying attention to the relationship between you two. I mean man she resisted a LOT. That t… | /r/seduction | 17/10/15 09:47 PM |
| 3 | Do you only use texting to set up dates?Do you want to text her, yes or no? Thats the only thing that matters. Be vulnerable. | /r/seduction | 17/10/15 09:36 PM |
| 1 | I'm 20, with the face of a 12 year old. How do I go about getting women to take me seriously?By taking yourself seriously. Your issue has nothing to do with how you look. It's that you are ashamed of it. You have to learn to be vulnerable to be who you are and share that with the world. Go look in the mirror and tell your self that you have a baby face and thats ok. That you are totally worth of love with that gorgeous baby face of yours. That those braces have jack shit to do with your self worth. I know this is some stuart smalley shit man but all of this bullshit about thinking shes … | /r/seduction | 17/10/15 09:35 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Made a girl fall in love with me. (and it's time for y'all to learn my perfect neg)Bravo. Just... Bravo. | /r/seduction | 17/10/15 09:29 PM |
| 1 | serious question: how often do girls lie that they "have boyfriends" in your experiences?It's not a white lie, it's an insult. Why would I want to be with a girl who thinks I can't handle rejection? | /r/seduction | 17/10/15 09:25 PM |
| 16 | Are hot girls different?Don't put them on the scale at all. That's putting pussy on a pedestal. It's 1s and 0s. You're either attracted to them or your not. | /r/seduction | 17/10/15 09:24 PM |
| 2 | Why can't I convert numbers into dates?Dude they've known you for 5 minutes. Of course they flake they barely know you. Numbers don't mean shit in the dating world. What matters is how much of a connection she feels with you. If the connection is strong she will almost never flake. If the connection is weak she will almost always flake. Dating Sex and Love are emotional things man. Numbers are just logistics. (As for your texts, whenever you ask a girl out you are responsible for planning. Have a date/time in mind before you ask her … | /r/seduction | 17/10/15 09:21 PM |
| 1 | How do I find guys... like you guys?What do you mean "like you guys?" We all different. I think the answer to your question is to know who you are, know your boundaries and know what you want. Once you know those things (and share them with the world honestly!) you'll naturally find the guys that match you. | /r/seduction | 17/10/15 09:07 PM |
| 3 | Getting played or nahNah dude everybody wants to fall in love. She may not want commitment, but everyone body wants to fall in love. And most everybody wants to get laid. Idk dude just make a move. Escalate. Tell her about some real shit. Go for a kiss. Everything that is going on your mind is probably delusions (Just how humans are). The only way to know for sure if she likes you or not is to make a move. | /r/seduction | 17/10/15 09:00 PM |
| 1 | Do you prefer approaching alone or with a friend?Its easier with a friend because you have a home base. But honestly man I think you want to get to the point where you don't approach at all. I spent 3 years approaching girl after girl after girl. I learned a ton, I learned how to be vulnerable and authentic. I figured out my game. I figured out myself, who I was. But after I figured all that out approaching just became about satisfying my own desires. I was just taking from these women without giving. And you can call me a pussy or a chump but… | /r/seduction | 17/10/15 08:51 PM |
| 3 | What's something cute/clever to say for the first time to my gf after not seeing her for months?The best thing you can say is something that is vulnerable and authentic. We cannot come up with anything that will work as well as something that you come up with because we are not you. Anything we give you would be fake. | /r/seduction | 17/10/15 08:36 PM |
| 2 | Some quick tips and stuff that I learned in the last 2 years of gaming girls and studying seductionSex is an indicator of the quality of your life. Is it? I see sex as a by-product, not an end goal. | /r/seduction | 17/10/15 08:31 PM |
| 1 | Some quick tips and stuff that I learned in the last 2 years of gaming girls and studying seductionSex is very important but having a lot of sex won't make you happy for too long. This is most important one for this sub. Girls wont make you happy. Only you can make you happy. | /r/seduction | 17/10/15 06:08 PM |
| 2 | serious question: how often do girls lie that they "have boyfriends" in your experiences?Totally a possibility. But why would you want to be with a girl who lies to your face? | /r/seduction | 17/10/15 06:03 PM |
| 0 | Girls thanking me for approaching them.They are the same thing. | /r/seduction | 17/10/15 05:04 PM |
| 1 | What happened?Do stuff you like and join clubs related to those things that will have girls in them. Its honestly harder in HS because you don't have much freedom. But seriously don't stress it. You're about to hit college where there are girls EVERYWHERE. Take it from someone 10+ years your senior. You have PLENTY of time to hook up with women. Work on yourself. Seriously. Figure out who you are and what you really like. If you can figure that out now you will have such a massive fucking advantage over every… | /r/seduction | 17/10/15 05:02 PM |
| 1 | Help me build **CONFIDENCE!**Confidence is simply this: The seeming lack of fear. You can either not have fear, or you can see your fear and decide to act against it. This is called being vulnerable. If there is one thing I could teach every single man in this sub it would be how to be vulnerable. It is the single most important thing not only in seduction, but in love and friendship. Because vulnerability is at the heart of human connection. If you have no idea what I'm talking about read Daring Greatly by Brene Brown. (Yo… | /r/seduction | 17/10/15 04:51 PM |
| 1 | Going home with girls, but it's not leading to sex.Yeah i should ahve used a better word than anxiety. I should have said it creates so much sexual tension that she can't handle it anymore and she says "Fuck it lets fuck". I disagree. I think the issue was he wasn't upfront about his intentions in the first place. If you tell a girl upfront that you just wanna have sex, nothing more, she can respect that and make her own decision. Nothing wrong with ONS as long as both parties are on the same page. | /r/seduction | 17/10/15 04:37 PM |
| 2 | What happened?My friend, this will happen to you SO MANY TIMES over your life. It's just a part of the dating world. When it happens move on. Stop trying to initiate a meet up. Wait until you run into her again in real life and escalate there. If she starts to flirt with you again THEN ask her to meet up. There are literally billions of reasons a girl could do this to you. It likely has nothing to do with you. It could, but does it matter? No. Move on. If she swings back around into your life take advantage, … | /r/seduction | 17/10/15 04:34 PM |
| 4 | serious question: how often do girls lie that they "have boyfriends" in your experiences?Doesn't matter. The message is the medium. What is she saying to you? "I cannot/will not hook up with you". Take that at face value. | /r/seduction | 17/10/15 04:30 PM |
| 2 | Listing out your core qualitiesGood on you for trying to become a better person mate. | /r/seduction | 17/10/15 04:28 PM |
| 1 | Think i need to neg harder, not sure though, need assurance and guidance.EJECT. EJECT EJECT EJECT. Why do you want to be in a relationship based around manipulation? That sounds fucking awful. Wouldn't you rather be around someone that loves you for you and who you don't have to game all the time? | /r/seduction | 17/10/15 04:27 PM |
| 5 | How to deal with the voice in your head that says that no one could be interested in you?More Therapy. If you're like "Nah fuck therapists I'm done with that" I have books for you: Daring Greatly by Brene Brown The Self Illusion by Bruce Hood True Love by Thich Nhat Hanh Models by Mark Manson (the classic). Read that shit. They will teach you (in order) How to connect with people, what you are, what love is, and how to be attractive. You are ok as you are mate. There is no simple answer to your question. You have a lot of shit to work out. But know that through all of this, you are … | /r/seduction | 17/10/15 04:25 PM |
| 2 | The Bending TheoryYou're getting it, but you're not. Shit tests only work on guys who are pretending to be something they are not. If you're vulnerable and authentic from the get go, how could you ever fail a shit test? If you know your boundaries, how could you ever be manipulated? If a woman tells you your lifestyle pisses her off, you say "Nice to meet you" and walk the fuck away. You don't demand respect. You don't hold frame. You just walk away. You don't need her. I had serious trust and validation issues f… | /r/seduction | 17/10/15 04:14 PM |
| 2 | I accidentally turned down a good opportunity tonight and need help avoiding this in the futureUh you know the answer. You should have talked to her. The pool thing doesnt matter. You could have done 1,000,000,000 different things as long as you kept the conversation going. In her head you just weren't interested in her. If a random girl comes up to you in a bar she is trying to flirt with you. Always. That is what bars are for. | /r/seduction | 17/10/15 04:13 PM |
| 3 | 21 Male. I really need a lot of guidance. Please show me the way. Score? made out once when drunk. Done. nothing else.Sex is the natural occurrence of two people who are intimate. Intimacy is the gradual process of getting closer to another physically and emotionally. To have phyiscal intimacy, escalate physically. Shake her hand when you meet her. Give her a high five. Hold her hand. Hug her. Put your hand on her back, on her thigh. Put your arm around her waist. Whisper in her ear. Hold her close. Kiss her. Kiss her neck. Touch your belly to hers. Play with her boobs... etc. To have emotional intimacy (JUST A… | /r/seduction | 17/10/15 04:02 PM |
| 3 | Getting played or nahHave you shown any sexual intention towards her at all? Have you tried to kiss her? Put your hand on her thigh? Talked about having sex with her? Flirted with her? Held her hand? Have you made any sort of move? Cause it sounds like she just thinks you guys are friends because that's how you've acted. | /r/seduction | 17/10/15 03:56 PM |
| 11 | Going home with girls, but it's not leading to sex.Trust me, she wants to fuck you. The issue is she's not comfortable around you. There are thousands of reasons for this but at the end of the day she doesn't feel safe. She probably thinks that you're just using her for sex and then next weekend you're gonna go hook up with someone else... Which is exactly what you're doing. Girls aren't dumb. My solution would be next time you want to have a ONS, don't "Invite her home" straight up ask her "Do you want to have sex?". Don't play coy. Don't game … | /r/seduction | 17/10/15 03:52 PM |
| 3 | Going home with girls, but it's not leading to sex.I don't like that counter. It works, but it works because you create such a high anxiety situation that it turns her on more and she goes "Fuck it lets fuck". The problem is that aftermath where she realizes she just fucked some guy that probably just used her for sex and she feels like a slut. That leads to you getting a reputation as a player in her social circle and good luck getting any of those girls to trust you. | /r/seduction | 17/10/15 03:47 PM |
| 0 | Girls thanking me for approaching them.Son I've been through the depths of hell and back. It serves the same function. | /r/seduction | 17/10/15 03:42 PM |
| 3 | Can too much education be a turn off?Couldn't of said it better myself. But I'm a narcissist so I'm gonna try. OP you're looking at this all wrong man. Why the hell would you sleep with a girl turned off by your intelligence? Wouldn't it be better to be with a girl who thought your intelligence was really fucking sexy and how you spoke made her want to put your dick in her mouth? Because that kind of love is real brother. You just gotta find it. | /r/seduction | 17/10/15 02:20 AM |
| 1 | How to seduce your female friendsSry this sub rustles my jimmies somtimes. I see where you're at. My bad. | /r/seduction | 17/10/15 02:15 AM |
| 2 | Girls thanking me for approaching them.You're a normal girl. You just spent all goddamn day at your mother's house fixing her shit because she keeps breaking it and you're late for your classes and you didn't have time to do your hair right and you think you look ugly... and all of a sudden this attractive guy comes up and gives you a compliment. Wouldn't you say thank you? | /r/seduction | 17/10/15 02:13 AM |
| 1 | Girls thanking me for approaching them.Or maybe, JUST MABYE. She's human and compliments make people feel good. I know, crazy fucking thought. | /r/seduction | 17/10/15 02:09 AM |
| 5 | Going solo tonight, give me some advice!I've never tried it, but I bet if you have the balls saying something along the lines of "Yeah I'm here alone. I'm looking to get laid" it will probably work. Look girls know why you're there. You're drinking alone and flirting with them. Of course you're trying to get laid. Being honest about it may just short-circuit the whole thing. "Yeah I'm here alone. Looking for someone to come home with me." "Come home with you? For what?" "Well to fuck, duh." "Oh yeah? Wanna fuck me?" "Yeah that'd be fu… | /r/seduction | 17/10/15 02:04 AM |
| 6 | What hobbies to get and what things to do to meet maximum number of women?Women don't care about your hobbies. They care you are genuinely interested in things. Key word, genuinely. If you are doing it just to get laid they will feel that and all your hard work will be for nothing. So when we say you should get hobbies for your own we mean it because that is the best way to get girls. There is no shortcut. Beside, girls won't solve your problems. A hobby could give you a purpose. | /r/seduction | 17/10/15 02:00 AM |
| 1 | Hey Seddit. Broke up with first love. I am Jack's broken heart. What happens now?Just as light cannot exist without dark, we cannot know love if we don't know isolation. Without pain, there is no joy. Do not run away from your pain. Accept it. Know it. Understand it. Learn from it. Then when your next love comes, and oh it will come, it will come with the thunder of a thousand trumpets, embrace it and cherish it for all that it is. And then it will be time to let it go and start the process over again. Death and Rebirth. Death and Rebirth. That's just life. | /r/seduction | 17/10/15 01:55 AM |
| 1 | How to greet her at my place?Lol you got it in the bag man. Just make a move. | /r/seduction | 17/10/15 01:53 AM |
| 3 | Girls looking at me?Those girls weren't talking about you. You are not the center of the universe. You are a wonderful and important part, but not it's center. The feeling of being watched is in your head. Nobody's paying attention to you. So do what you want! Be free! Nobody cares! Work on your vulnerabilty. If you're too shy to go up and talk to a girl one on one, maybe go practice by talking to a guy one-on-one. Go have a conversation. Your social anxiety is just fear playing the same note over and over and over… | /r/seduction | 17/10/15 01:52 AM |
| 6 | How to seduce your female friendsMan you're missing out on a shitton of great friendships because you are so determined to get laid. Whats so bad about being friends with a girl? There are BILLIONS of women on this earth. You need to get laid so bad that if a girl won't fuck you you won't be friends with her? Cmon now. | /r/seduction | 17/10/15 01:44 AM |
| 1 | How to seduce your female friendsAsk yourself why you think there is a difference between a stranger and your friend. What is it about how you perceive your relationships that makes you ask this question? As for actual advice, yeah dude its possible. Honestly any girl you think is hot and is emotionally available is a possibility for sex. But if you don't know how to flirt and be intimate with a woman already, you'll probably fuck it up and ruin the friendship. Maintain the friendship, hit on other girls, come back to the frien… | /r/seduction | 17/10/15 01:41 AM |
| 1 | How to be cool when you're tired?You're allowed to be tired. That is an emotion you are allowed to feel. You are not obligated to be happy all the time. You're doing nothing wrong. You are ok as you are. | /r/seduction | 17/10/15 01:31 AM |
| 1 | How do you meet and f-close at the club? Is it possible or what is the normal course of actions?Just ask if she wants to take you back to her place. | /r/seduction | 04/01/15 10:42 PM |
| 1 | Having hobbies that aren't attractive to womenThe only issue with having unattractive hobbies is that it lowers the number of opportunities you have. Playing music gives you infinitely more opportunities to meet women than programming. But, it will not affect to the quality of the women you meet or the likelihood of closing. | /r/seduction | 03/01/15 02:55 PM |
| 0 | Women just confuse and annoy meIf it's taking you months to get with a girl you're doing something wrong. Act faster. | /r/seduction | 03/01/15 02:48 PM |
| 1 | How does one respond to cockblocks?He's being a Dick. Laugh him off and ignore him. By backing off you showed that you cared more about what she thought of you than what you thought of yourself. You were possibly scared that she would think you were trying to get in her pants. But you did want to get in her pants and acted incongruently with your intentions. All of these show insecurity and a lack of con Try to be more comfortable with her sexuality that next time this happens you hold her tighter and say "yeah i am". Or "I will … | /r/seduction | 03/01/15 02:41 PM |
| 1 | How do you meet and f-close at the club? Is it possible or what is the normal course of actions?Ask her "do you want to go back to my place?" And if she says yes you go back to your place and have sex. You're overthinking it. If you don't have a good place to go back to say "do you want to take me home with you?" But this is way lower success rate because she may not have a place either. Not having a place is a logistical problem that you should fix if pulling women at clubs is a real goal for you. | /r/seduction | 03/01/15 02:39 PM |
| 1 | What should I do?Do things that are fun. Solo bar game can be tough. Join a social sports league. Do karaoke. Etc. you will build your social circle and meet girls at the same time. | /r/seduction | 03/01/15 02:35 PM |
| 2 | [FR] First few times asking for a number very early.There line is funny and it works, but you're missing something huge here. If a girl ever says "I have a boyfriend" just move on. It doesn't matter if it's true or not. What she is saying is "I'm not available". Why would you chase after someone who has told you point blank they are unavailable? It's a ton of wasted effort for little reward. Just move on. | /r/seduction | 03/01/15 02:34 PM |
| 1 | Not sure who to start withAsk her out. You will likely fail. Move on. By avoiding asking her out you are putting her on a pedestal. You are far more invested in her than she is in you. This is very unattractive behavior. If you want a chance to succeed, you must be open and honest with her. "I have a crush on you and would like to take you on a date". By putting it all out there and giving off a "I know you can reject me and I'm ok with that" vibe, it shows that even though your over investment is unattractive you care m… | /r/seduction | 03/01/15 02:28 PM |
| 0 | does she like or is she just being nice?Two things: 1) You're caring more about what she thinks of you than what you think of yourself. This is un confident behavior. Maybe she is being nice. What matters is what you what. Do you want to go on a date with her? Then ask her out. If she's just being nice you'll figure It out at somepoint. Which brings me to... 2) Fuck yes or no. If you're getting middling responses, struggling to set up a date, she's flakey and she doesn't seem that interested in you drop her number and move on. There a… | /r/seduction | 03/01/15 02:20 PM |
| 2 | Tips for building up "mystique" or intrigue?You don't become mysterious by talking to girls. You become mysterious by doing things. If you work 9-5 and go to the same bars every week that's pretty boring. If you're a professional skydiver who also owns a small microbrewery, that's intriguing and will give off the mysterious vibe. She'll wonder "if he's into all this cool stuff I wonder what else he into..." Etc. You have to actually love and enjoy these things though. If you try to fake it girls will know and you will fail fast. | /r/seduction | 03/01/15 02:16 PM |
| 1 | Tips for building up "mystique" or intrigue?This is true, but I feel like this is bound to back fire. If she doesn't know you now, eventually she will. If she wakes up and realizes you're not the man she thought you were you're in trouble. | /r/seduction | 03/01/15 02:12 PM |
| 3 | Going out alone for high schoolers?There are hundreds of places to meet girls. Sports groups. Church. Dance classes. Find something you are interested in that a bunch of girls your age do and go do it. | /r/seduction | 03/01/15 02:09 PM |
| 1 | How do you pass the "I'm not that easy" shit test? Im so stumped and could not find anything online.You're looking at this wrong. What she's actually telling you is that she isn't comfortable enough with you for you to kiss her. So, figure out why she isn't comfortable with you and fix it. Always look for the intention/emotion behind the words. | /r/seduction | 03/01/15 02:07 PM |
| 1 | 25/M yr, virgin, traumatized as a kid,where to start?If you've been in therapy for ten years and haven't seen results maybe it's time for a new therapist. | /r/seduction | 03/01/15 02:04 PM |
| 1 | Your 2015 confidence boostConfidence is caring more about what you think than what others do. | /r/seduction | 03/01/15 02:00 PM |
| 2 | Your 2015 confidence boostYou don't have to be the "best man in the world" and striving to be so is a dangerous, never ending journey. I think it's healthier to accept that we are flawed, accept those flaws, and then find the people who will love us not just in spite of, but because of those flaws. There's a big difference between "best" and "best match". | /r/seduction | 03/01/15 12:45 AM |
| 2 | Reasons I will never have a girlfriendI've been there brother. I was obese, no social skills and could barely talk to women at all. But you can improve if you want to. You can not only have a girlfriend, but fantastic relationships with women in general. But you have to want to. I'm not a pro so I can't give you advice, but I can direct you to the best I've had. Read Mark Manson's "Models" to start. Its the best resource there is. | /r/seduction | 03/01/15 12:39 AM |
| 1 | "I'm gonna go now"Sleeping with girls who have boyfriends does nothing other than validate yourself. Stop being so focused on getting laid. Start focusing on having great relationships with women. Trying to hook up with emotionally unavailable women never works out. | /r/seduction | 02/01/15 10:08 PM |
| 3 | I experienced what it's like to be a very attractive male. Or as I like to call it- My tinder experiment with a red pill twist.Read Daring Greatly by Brene Brown. All about how to grow emotional courage. I'd also recommend Mark Manson's models for a simillarly modeled approach that's centered on women, but Daring Greatly is a pre-req to Models. | /r/TheRedPill | 21/06/14 02:59 AM |
| 10 | I experienced what it's like to be a very attractive male. Or as I like to call it- My tinder experiment with a red pill twist.Is she post-wall and do you have a solid stable income? If so, that's why it worked. | /r/TheRedPill | 21/06/14 02:57 AM |
| 1 | She's going to get away with whatever she wants. Accept it. Stop caring.Wasn't talking down. Trying to offer advice to a brother who is going down a dangerous path. Relationships aren't fulfilling because of the sex. You can get sex from a hooker. Relationships are fulfilling because of the connection you make with another person. | /r/TheRedPill | 17/06/14 06:56 PM |
| 5 | She's going to get away with whatever she wants. Accept it. Stop caring.I am always open and honest with the women in my life. I rarely walk up to women and say things like "I want to fuck you" because that is overt communication. That's not how women communicate. They communicate with emotions and sub-communication. When I approach a women I am clear with my intentions. She knows that I am there to get in her pants. I know she knows. There is no need to say so overtly. She respects this. You should examine why you believe why you can't be honest with women. If it's… | /r/TheRedPill | 17/06/14 06:33 PM |
| 2 | She's going to get away with whatever she wants. Accept it. Stop caring.They are also of much higher risk to do crazy shit in the name of getting married / having children. Dread game only increases that risk. It works if you are an economically unviable mate (or much younger than they are), but if you have any kind of success it's very risky. You attract what you are. If you are manipulative, so will be your lovers. | /r/TheRedPill | 17/06/14 04:45 PM |
| 13 | She's going to get away with whatever she wants. Accept it. Stop caring.Depends on what you mean by game. What there needs to be more of is how to establish a consistent, attractive frame. Pickup techniques/routines have no place in TRP. Edit: I also loathe talk like 'getting the upper hand'. That's the absolute worst mindset to have. If you play games with women, you will only attract women who play games. This will lead to disastrous relationships time and time again. If you are open and honest with yourself and your intentions, you will attract open and honest wo… | /r/TheRedPill | 17/06/14 04:41 PM |
| 7 | She's going to get away with whatever she wants. Accept it. Stop caring.But why would you? It's not worth your time. Go find someone you legitimately enjoy instead of playing a game with an older woman. Unless you get off on manipulating people. That's just your thing then. | /r/TheRedPill | 17/06/14 02:37 AM |
| 7 | She's going to get away with whatever she wants. Accept it. Stop caring.Beta shaming has been around for thousands of years. You can't have a social hierarchy without the bottom wrung being shamed. If the beta improves, the requirements to be alpha will be that much higher. It will always be the top 20% | /r/TheRedPill | 17/06/14 02:36 AM |
| 81 | She's going to get away with whatever she wants. Accept it. Stop caring.Thank you. There's is far too much focus on women in this sub. The focus should be on what we can do about it. Yes. Life is unfair. We are the disposable gender. GET OVER IT. Go do something productive with your time instead of complaining. edit: concern trolling blah blah I know. Point stands. Do something with your life. | /r/TheRedPill | 17/06/14 02:32 AM |
| 1 | Internet, social networks, smartphones are A TICKING BOMB and largely created the 'disposable male'No. Post modernism is the idea that we can't know for certain what morals are right and wrong. Everything is subjective. It was a revolt against the black/white ideals of the modernist 50s (50s-ish) The word you are looking for is nihilist. What I am is a Buddhist. There's no meaning, but that's doesn't make life any less wonderful or amazing. Life just is. | /r/TheRedPill | 13/06/14 07:47 PM |
| 0 | Internet, social networks, smartphones are A TICKING BOMB and largely created the 'disposable male'Nobody starts with inherent value. That would require that life had meaning. | /r/TheRedPill | 13/06/14 05:28 PM |
| -1 | Internet, social networks, smartphones are A TICKING BOMB and largely created the 'disposable male'Were disposable because they only need our semen. Men have been disposable since the beginning of our species. | /r/TheRedPill | 13/06/14 03:53 AM |
| 1 | Only be kind to people who appreciate kindness.You're bundling all relationships into the same pile and that's a flawed idea. Male/Male and Male/Female friendships DO work on the same underlying principles. Male/Male and Male/Female sexual relationships DO work on the same basic underlying principles of attraction and seduction. Also, you also realize your "TL;DR: Don't be kind to women" is exactly why this sub gets a bad misogynist rap right? I get what you are saying dude but, cmon. Think before you type. | /r/TheRedPill | 07/06/14 02:57 PM |
| 1 | Where to start if you can't even get hugs from friends?You have to focus on you. you have to validate yourself. You have to think you are awesome. If you don't like something about your image, personality or lifestyle change it. work on talking about yourself with your friends. Tell your female friends that you've never kissed a girl. Share that with them. This will help build deeper emotional connections. Affection is a physical manifestation of emotional connection. To build emotional connections you have to be vulnerable and share yourself with o… | /r/seduction | 28/05/14 04:35 PM |
| 1 | Does anyone else deal w "wanting to be their favorite"Hmm ok. It's is a jealous emotion? I know when I'm out with a lady friend I get jealous when guys hit on her. It's based in a fear that she will choose them over me. It's a feeling of vulnerability that I have to 'lean into'. I either succumb to those feelings of emotion and become over protective (unattractive) or I decide that I am going to trust my lady friend and accept that yes, she could go home with the other guy. That is a risk that I have to take in order to be with her (or any woman). … | /r/seduction | 28/05/14 02:38 PM |
| 1 | Does anyone else deal w "wanting to be their favorite"You have a strong desire to please others. The need to be seen as a favorite is a symptom of that desire. It's the feedback. If you don't get the feedback you don't know where to stand. You have this desire to please because you feel if you dont try to please others they will not like you. This is because deep down you feel like you are unworthy of love and belonging (ie you feel shame) and pleasing others is your way to 'prove' yourself. Am I close? If so, the way to fix this is to work on wort… | /r/seduction | 28/05/14 02:11 PM |
| 8 | What's the seddit consensus on mirroring?Use it as an IOI. Mimicking is a natural part of our subconscious actions. If she's mimicking you (mirroring or touching her face after you touch yours or walking in step, etc) that means she feels connected to you somewhat subconsciously. Purposefully trying to mirror is trying to hard. | /r/seduction | 28/05/14 02:03 PM |
| 2 | How to Enthrall WomenI never got into rsd. Don't have an opinion. | /r/seduction | 28/05/14 01:59 PM |
| 1 | How to Enthrall WomenMost men aren't physically capable of being that vulnerable. They are stricken with Fear when the moment presents itself. Combined with a direct approach and correct intentions, you are perceived as a being more courageous and confident than every other man she has met recently. That's why it works. Edit: It certainly can look like a cry for attention. That's why intentions are so critical. A women will be able to tell if you are sharing yourself because you want to relate to her or because you … | /r/seduction | 27/05/14 05:17 PM |
| 1 | How to Enthrall WomenNo, but your getting stuck on the content. women don't care about content, they care about emotions. I haven't used the example because I haven't experienced that. I have told women that I harbor a lot of shame around women because I grew up as an obese child. That's about as deep as I can get. As I said in the fundamentals, your ability to connect emotionally is proportional to your emotional health. If you have massive baggage vulnerability won't help. That example I gave would work great if y… | /r/seduction | 27/05/14 05:07 PM |
| 2 | How to Enthrall WomenYes. Models and Daring Greatly by Brene Brown are the foundations of my approach. Mark Manson is one of the few out there that really 'get it'. I've also done a lot of research into human psychology, gender relations and gender ideals ('what does if mean to be a man?'). Buddhism played a big part in my transformation as well. | /r/seduction | 27/05/14 01:32 PM |
| 4 | How to Enthrall WomenIt's not about what you say. It's about the sub-communication. Women are covert. In this example it's "I'm imperfect. I have some serious flaws. But I am brave enough to share those flaws with the right person and I think you are one of those people". That's what makes women weak in the knees. You are being brave for them. Edit: the sub-communication of the first version is: 'My emotions are out of control and I need help. Please help me.' It's like asking a girl you just met to be your therapis… | /r/seduction | 27/05/14 01:25 PM |
| 1 | How to Enthrall WomenTease. Opps. | /r/seduction | 27/05/14 06:25 AM |
| 8 | How to Enthrall WomenSure, i'll make a new post on it in a few days. It's actually a mnemonic device i came up with awhile ago. As for now, its literally what it says. Tease women (be playful), touch women (be sexual), tell them what to do (be dominant). Everything in pick up comes back to those three Ts at their core. | /r/seduction | 27/05/14 05:44 AM |
| 9 | How to Enthrall WomenAs long as you are emotionally healthy, you can share it right away. One of the great ironies about vulnerability is that women want to see it only if you are in control of it. Here's a fictional metric-fuck-ton amount of baggage: "My father was an alcoholic. He would come home drunk and beat my mother and me. I have massive anger issues because of that and I've hurt people I care about. I don't know what to do." Women will be repulsed by this. This should only be said to close friends, family, … | /r/seduction | 27/05/14 05:34 AM |
| 12 | How to Enthrall WomenIt's an issue with the nature of the sub. You come here to learn about seduction. Once you've learned what you need you move on and don't visit the sub anymore. If you decide to give back, it's usually on a bigger stage (blog/ebook). So you don't get much content like this. I'll try to do this more regularly. I've learned a lot in the past year. | /r/seduction | 27/05/14 04:50 AM |
| 1 | I was at a party tonight and saw a cute girl dancing by herselfYou did something. Be proud of that. Many men couldn't get the courage to make a move at all. | /r/seduction | 26/05/14 11:21 PM |
| 3 | Men are the romantic sexYour description of 'men' and women in relationship is spot on. However the 'man' you describe is not a man, he's a boy. A man: Sets boundaries Puts himself first Self-Validaties Is Courageous Is Honorable. Then 'men' you describe sound nothing like that. But he’ll put up with anything for his woman, and put up with anything from his woman. He’ll fight for her, he’ll change for her, he’ll work for her, he’ll do anything she wants, because he loves her and wants her to be happy needs her to valid… | /r/TheRedPill | 23/05/14 04:52 AM |
| 3 | McAlphaDick pulls my girl so I respond by pulling another one. She comes back like nothing happened.One, let go of the anger. Maintain frame. Two, use the opportunity to set boundaries. Tell her that her actions are unacceptable. If she does it again, deliberately crossing boundaries you have set, next her. I disagree with drrrr as there's no reason to next a girl who may think that's acceptable behavior. Especially if this is a new relationship and this is how she's acted with BFs in the past. You have to teach them .If she knows is unacceptable and does it anyway, she doesn't respect you and… | /r/TheRedPill | 02/04/14 03:48 PM |
| 5 | As a beta, should I fuck fatties, single moms, post-wall women, divorced women, and ugly 4-6 butterface women to keep the ole penis in action?This is the best way to do it. IMO. Just never settle. Only accept someone who is up to your standards. Then constantly raise your standards. | /r/TheRedPill | 24/03/14 03:56 PM |
| 4 | As a beta, should I fuck fatties, single moms, post-wall women, divorced women, and ugly 4-6 butterface women to keep the ole penis in action?I was in the same spot. Some advice: There are plenty of single, childless, post wall women who are sexy smart and fun and will fuck you. However... If you get too close you will get burned. They will dump you after they have used you for sex. Post-Wall women have had their share of alphas and are looking for providers. You cannot provide. DO NOT GET ATTACHED Spin lotsa plates, have fun, don't fall in love. There are lots of amazing post-wall women out there. Don't bother with single moms though… | /r/TheRedPill | 24/03/14 03:53 PM |
| 2 | How to Black KnightI think you are the one who needs to look up the definition of suffering. My use is correct. | /r/TheRedPill | 30/01/14 11:37 PM |
| 3 | How to Black KnightHas nothing to do with societies expectation of you. If you continue on the path of self-improvement you will come to a point where amusement or advancement at the expense of others will no longer satisfy you. There are deep seated reasons for that and you'll have to find your personal philosophy / spirituality that answers them. Start looking inward for answers, instead of outward for validation (you are trying to get reactions out of women. It's an adverse form of female attention seeking) Bei… | /r/TheRedPill | 28/01/14 07:56 PM |
| 5 | How to Black KnightTaking enjoyment in other people's suffering is pathetic, no matter their gender. Be a better man. | /r/TheRedPill | 28/01/14 06:23 PM |
| 4 | You're in your mid-twenties, interested in LTRs only, inexorably disgusted by crass/alcoholic/entitled sluts, can only feel attracted to ladies (as opposed to "Wo-Men"). How do you deal?Seems like too much work. I'd rather just filter for religious girls. | /r/TheRedPill | 26/01/14 05:10 AM |
| 8 | You're in your mid-twenties, interested in LTRs only, inexorably disgusted by crass/alcoholic/entitled sluts, can only feel attracted to ladies (as opposed to "Wo-Men"). How do you deal?Church seems the right way to go here. | /r/TheRedPill | 26/01/14 05:03 AM |
| 3 | A quick note on "Amused Mastery"Fuck it is essentially Buddhism with modern language. Hearing it from a 21st century Brit make the ideas stick better than a 2500 year old indian. | /r/TheRedPill | 26/01/14 05:01 AM |
| 1 | Advice for a former omega guyEverywhere. | /r/TheRedPill | 25/01/14 07:58 PM |
| 0 | Why contempt towards women is baseless - Vox quote that every reader should internalize.There's a lot of things in TRP that can be applied to humanity. The hamster being the most prominent. It's called cognitive dissonance. Everyone does it to varying degrees. | /r/TheRedPill | 25/01/14 03:52 PM |
| 1 | Quite possibly the best article I've read on the fundamentals of red pill philosophy. As a new member this blew me away and I finally understand the workings of this place.Hunger games. Nice guy wins. Of course she's been through hell by the time she chooses him, and in the end she doesn't have much of a choice. | /r/TheRedPill | 24/01/14 06:42 PM |
| 1 | Want to know how not to act? Want a good laugh? Check this outI understand your point, but masking ones loneliness by constantly escaping into Videigames is not being happy alone. It's escapism. You have to base you happiness on yourself. | /r/TheRedPill | 24/01/14 03:20 PM |
| 8 | How can women be better?The men of the sosuave PuA forum. Pook was a contributor largely known for advocating self improvement. I highly recommend reading the book of Pook. http://bookofpook.neocities.org/. Start with "If life seems hard and unhappy, read this!", "Be a Man!" & "Toward Manhood!" | /r/TheRedPill | 24/01/14 03:24 AM |
| 32 | How can women be better?Agreed. This sub can focus too much on women's faults sometimes and not enough on our own or how we can be better. Less anti-feminism, more masculism | /r/TheRedPill | 24/01/14 01:44 AM |
| 72 | How can women be better?The fault is not in the women but in ourselves that we have failed to be men -Pook | /r/TheRedPill | 24/01/14 01:08 AM |
| 3 | A dearth of research using female animals in neuroscience and medicine facilitates the persistence of the myth that gender is a social construct.Solid post. Hate to burst the OPs bubble, but sexuality and gender are both innate and learned. It is biological and cultural. | /r/TheRedPill | 24/01/14 01:06 AM |
| 1 | Manly men and womanly womenThanks | /r/TheRedPill | 23/01/14 11:17 PM |
| 1 | Manly men and womanly womenFeminism is a push towards androgyny. | /r/TheRedPill | 23/01/14 11:16 PM |
| 0 | Manly men and womanly womenNo, but I'd shy away from it anyway. It's a manifesto, and as such it's not exactly objective. Id suggest "against democracy and equality: the European new right" by tomislav sunic. It's a better introduction to the ideas brewing in Europe. | /r/TheRedPill | 23/01/14 11:10 PM |
| 0 | Manly men and womanly womenMost men want what you want. But as women are the gatekeepers to sex, their priorities take precedent. | /r/TheRedPill | 23/01/14 11:02 PM |
| 1 | Manly men and womanly womenCan you link me any books on sexuality relating to the ride of a consumer society? | /r/TheRedPill | 23/01/14 11:00 PM |
| 1 | Short FR: don't be the doting foolLove your FRs man. Keep me coming. | /r/TheRedPill | 23/01/14 10:51 PM |
| 2 | No More Mr. Nice Guy and NoFap?There are two options you have in life 1) Follow your dreams 2) Follow other peoples dreams. Decide, then Do. (Credit to Pook) | /r/TheRedPill | 23/01/14 09:42 PM |
| 3 | Want to know how not to act? Want a good laugh? Check this outNope. What happens is that you base your happiness in your partner. When you are not around your partner you dive into depression / anxiety. It comes out as neediness and jealousy. These behaviors only drive your partner away, so that the relationship inevitably ends. You must base your happiness in yourself. Loneliness is not a result of being alone, but not enjoying your time alone. I speak from personal experience. I was an omega loser. I lived the fantasy. I was friendzoned, orbited for thre… | /r/TheRedPill | 23/01/14 09:23 PM |
| 10 | Post-wall woman in r/okcupid tries to scold men that they should stop excluding older women like her in favor of younger ones, then she admits she did the same in her 20s.I loved Sherman. I thought it was hilarious. | /r/TheRedPill | 22/01/14 06:38 PM |
| 2 | Why the Manosphere Will Become the 4th Branch of GovernmentYes and no. The Manosphere won't become the 4th branch, or anywhere close to it. That's just the author being egotistical. But, the internet as a whole certainly fills that void that the media is fulfilling. The Manosphere and TRP are apart of that, but they are not the whole thing. | /r/TheRedPill | 22/01/14 02:46 PM |
| 1 | I'm an obese red piller, 350 pounds.As someone whose lost 80lbs and used to be obese, drop everything else and make your priority losing the weight. No woman will ever be able to replicate the feeling you get from looking in the mirror and not hating yourself. Read Alan Carrs Easyweigh to lose weight to help you break the mental chains, then choose a food plan that works for you. He recommends raw/vegan but I like Paleo. Steak is too tasty to give up. :#. Can also do keto or just cut out sugar. Whatever. | /r/TheRedPill | 21/01/14 05:48 PM |
| 4 | I'm an obese red piller, 350 pounds.80lbs lost on Paleo. Never counted a calorie. I'm never hungry and I don't binge eat or stress about my diet. What you eat is more important than how you much you eat. | /r/TheRedPill | 21/01/14 05:42 PM |
| 3 | Tumblr SJWs on what happens when a man "hits the wall".$900,000? Holy shit. | /r/TheRedPill | 21/01/14 12:40 AM |
| 4 | What is the rationale behind spreading Red Pill Wisdom?Men can do great things when they put their minds to it. But in today's society they have been pacified. By women. By Videogames. Porn. Sports. By lots of things. By spreading red pill I want to unlock the potential of those men I unplug to make the world a better place. I also believe that for society is pretty fucked up. I believe that if we are going to have any realistic chance at promoting real change in government we need a large ideological shift in the populace. This is not accomplished … | /r/TheRedPill | 16/01/14 05:06 PM |
| 6 | Think you (or your friends) captured a unicorn? Think again.I think the thing that will keep this sub relatively safe is the TRP Endorsed tag. It's active leadership that most subs don't have. | /r/TheRedPill | 16/01/14 04:30 PM |
| 2 | Ultimate Beta Movie --- HerFantastic fantastic movie. There are a bunch of things that TRP should eat up. So much of the movie was about male and female gender roles being swapped, or rather men becoming feminine and women becoming masculine. Look at the dress of the characters (Amy is always rakish and plain, while most of the men wear Highwaisted pants), the careers of the characters (Videogame programmer vs love letter writer), their roles in the relationships (Amy being the breadwinder while Charles is the homemaker) … | /r/TheRedPill | 15/01/14 05:37 AM |
| 1 | Ultimate Beta Movie --- HerThat's pretty much it. | /r/TheRedPill | 15/01/14 05:22 AM |
| 2 | Ultimate Beta Movie --- HerIt's a very well written movie. The ending is a little weak (I wouldn't be surprised if it was added after a test screening), but overall the best movie I've seen since Gravity. | /r/TheRedPill | 15/01/14 05:17 AM |
| 1 | Sleep with sluts, but do NOT get into a LTR with a slut (?).Men grow with each woman they sleep with. They learn and become more experienced with women and are thereby better at understanding women and being in relationships. This makes them more valuable. Women's value decreases the more men they sleep with. Men's value increases. | /r/TheRedPill | 15/01/14 05:10 AM |
| 3 | Ultimate Beta Movie --- HerAbout to go see it tonight. Really excited. TRP + Sci-Fi? Perfect! | /r/TheRedPill | 14/01/14 04:23 PM |
| 12 | Apathy?Thanks Buddha ;D | /r/TheRedPill | 14/01/14 01:53 AM |
| 8 | Monday Field Report postI made out with and got the number of an HB7 last night. I've never done that before. I was limited to 5s and 6s for most of my life. Quick backstory. I was obese and an omega. Lost 80lbs I'm now merely an overweight beta most of the time. But when I'm at Karaoke, I'm an alpha. I have an incredible voice (I can do fantastic Freddy Mercury impersonation) and not surprisingly, my SMV is at it's peak right after I finish singing. Also unsurprisingly, I pretty much can only pull at karaoke. I try ot… | /r/TheRedPill | 13/01/14 09:46 PM |
| 6 | Satire project for school. Need help making fun of feminism.This has train wreck written all over it. Pick something easier. | /r/TheRedPill | 13/01/14 07:55 PM |
| 1 | Making the transition from BP to RPGo big, but don't just blurt out "lets sleep together". Show her that you want to put it in, don't tell her. | /r/TheRedPill | 12/01/14 05:25 PM |
| 1 | What are TRP Major/Careers?Whatever your passion is. Figure out what you want out of life. Figure you what your grand quest is. What is the problem you want to solve? Want to cure cancer? Global Warming? Fuck, maybe you just want to be the richest goddamn motherfucker on the planet. Fine. Figure that out and then choose a career based on that. A career won't get you laid, but a dream will help you maintain LTR. In the captain / first mate dynamic, you have to steer the ship towards something. Edit: this isnt easy to do an… | /r/TheRedPill | 12/01/14 04:35 PM |
| 1 | Divorce aint so badI'm on the "spin plates until career is set" path, so no worries. | /r/TheRedPill | 10/01/14 02:58 PM |
| 5 | Divorce aint so badIt's more the "I know where I want to go and can't wait to get there" than "I don't like being 26" | /r/TheRedPill | 10/01/14 05:30 AM |
| 1 | Divorce aint so badJust started. Graduated in a business related field, realized I didn't want to do anything in a sales related field, went back for a phd to be a counselor. I like to help people. Specializing in masculinity and want to start a private practice / non-profit that focuses on adult men. (Basically spread TRP). I'll graduate around age 32. If I start the non profit right after I graduate I'll have a stable career with a fair cash flow (~50-80k but I'll have the status that I run my own org) when I hi… | /r/TheRedPill | 10/01/14 05:27 AM |
| 5 | Divorce aint so badSo I should man up huh? | /r/TheRedPill | 10/01/14 03:46 AM |
| 3 | Divorce aint so badWhen I'm making near minimum wage? | /r/TheRedPill | 10/01/14 01:45 AM |
| 3 | Divorce aint so badIt's for a psych doctorate. It's required for my career. | /r/TheRedPill | 10/01/14 12:34 AM |
| 16 | Divorce aint so badTakes time to get a PhD brother. | /r/TheRedPill | 09/01/14 10:17 PM |
| 17 | Divorce aint so badI can't wait till I'm 35+ and actually have a solid career. I'm working on it (26), but damn. Being a young poor guy in a city is tough. :# | /r/TheRedPill | 09/01/14 08:17 PM |
| 4 | Men – if you're not a feminist, it's fine, except you're wrong and I hate you for even trying.Most RPers should agree with this article and it's definition of feminism. She's defining feminism as the belief that women are at a disadvantage in society and therefore women/people should do something about it. If you ask most people, feminism is the fight for gender equality, not the fight against women's inequality. It's a good article. I agree that we should define feminism this way. It's much easier to be anti feminist when you're not fighting against the concept of equality which is so d… | /r/TheRedPill | 09/01/14 07:15 PM |
| 2 | Does anybody else get "depressed" reading TRP once in a while?What I get depressed about is that the kind of love I want women are incapable of giving. It's a sad reality. | /r/TheRedPill | 08/01/14 06:48 PM |
| 1 | Does anybody else get "depressed" reading TRP once in a while?There are 7 billion people on this earth. There is a 1/3500000000 chance you will ever be the best. Even if you are, someone will replace you instantaneously. Learn to be the best you can me. Striving for more is a fools game. | /r/TheRedPill | 08/01/14 06:43 PM |
| 1 | Thank you TRP! Spreading this message seems extremely difficult without coming off like a rogue.There's plenty of circle jerking on trp. Make a snide comment about feminism in any thread and watch the upvotes pour in. | /r/TheRedPill | 08/01/14 05:23 PM |
| 2 | Thank you TRP! Spreading this message seems extremely difficult without coming off like a rogue.You have to frame it correctly. Don't call it sexism, call it gender differences. Game ; courtship. Negging ; teasing. Dominance ; leadership. If you control the language you control the debate. If women don't respond well to your RP talk, use different semantics next time. Edit: using proper language is critical in framing discussions with women. There's a big comment in the comic post (search all-time of TRP I'm on my phone atm) that talks about how you should communicate difficulties in your … | /r/TheRedPill | 08/01/14 05:18 PM |
| 2 | Thank you TRP! Spreading this message seems extremely difficult without coming off like a rogue.When the community talks about frame, this is what they mean. | /r/TheRedPill | 08/01/14 05:13 PM |
| 1 | Thank you TRP! Spreading this message seems extremely difficult without coming off like a rogue.So you're saying I don't have to lose my fat gut and just adopt a better attitude?!? | /r/TheRedPill | 08/01/14 05:11 PM |
| 1 | "What is Masculinity?"I think it's a start to a good discussion, but you're not going to find any great answers here as none of us really know what masculinity is. There's no real way for us to confirm or rebuke you. I dislike the subjective nature of it. Getting what you want is so open ended gaff it could encompass all of human behavior. I like the definition based on ability instead of behavior. It's an interesting take. Good post. | /r/TheRedPill | 08/01/14 03:22 PM |
| 2 | A Red Pill truth in a comic stripThis is fantastic. Thank you. | /r/TheRedPill | 06/01/14 10:43 PM |
| 3 | "Anytime you feel the need to ask if a woman likes you, all you have to do is ask her to do something that isn’t convenient for her. If she is not willing to do it, she doesn’t like you."The 3 "T"s. That's the simplest version of how to seduce a woman I've ever seen. Bravo. Really good teaching tool. | /r/TheRedPill | 06/01/14 10:23 PM |
| 2 | "Anytime you feel the need to ask if a woman likes you, all you have to do is ask her to do something that isn’t convenient for her. If she is not willing to do it, she doesn’t like you."There's some great stuff in here. When you feel anxiety over your actions, you will seek to lower the anxiety by creating a fantasy world in which your anxiety can’t exist, and then you come to believe the fantasy is reality | /r/TheRedPill | 06/01/14 10:12 PM |
| 1 | The Dunning-Kruger EffectHuh? What he linked to was just a visualization. | /r/TheRedPill | 06/01/14 09:34 PM |
| 2 | Alpha careersDon't tell them you're a geologist then, tell them what you do. | /r/TheRedPill | 06/01/14 05:53 PM |
| 11 | Alpha careersAll-Pro NFL/MLB/NHL/NBA athlete would be the most alpha. Make millions of dollars by dominating a competitive sport is damn alpha. Throw in the social status from being a celebrity as well. | /r/TheRedPill | 06/01/14 02:08 AM |
| 0 | No fat chicks.Eh. I like big bootys. Ideally big booty / slim waist, but if forced to choose between big booty and tummy vs slim waist and no butt, I'll take the curvy chick any day. My mom was also obese, so what I find desirable is partly a Freudian reflection of that relationship. Edit: LIKE KIM KARDASHIAN DAYUM THAT GIRL GOT BOOTY. | /r/TheRedPill | 05/01/14 09:09 PM |
| 3 | Video Games, Porn/Masturbation, and Watching Sports: The Downfall of the Modern ManFind more goals. It's about the journey mate, not the destination. | /r/TheRedPill | 05/01/14 05:50 PM |
| 2 | My stepping stone to swallowing TheRedPillOh I've already gotten to work. :) | /r/TheRedPill | 05/01/14 01:31 PM |
| 2 | My stepping stone to swallowing TheRedPillGod I want nothing more than this moment with my ex. It's shallow but idgaf. | /r/TheRedPill | 04/01/14 11:54 PM |
| 1 | Nice guys = SlutsYep. They both ooze neediness, with different results. | /r/TheRedPill | 04/01/14 11:32 PM |
| 10 | Video Games, Porn/Masturbation, and Watching Sports: The Downfall of the Modern ManBecause you have goals dreams and ambitions. Women are a plus in life. Not an end goal. | /r/TheRedPill | 04/01/14 11:27 PM |
| 7 | Video Games, Porn/Masturbation, and Watching Sports: The Downfall of the Modern ManYou have to find something that motivates you enough to get out of bed in the morning. This is hard. It requires a lot of self reflections. | /r/TheRedPill | 04/01/14 11:24 PM |
| 2 | The Dunning-Kruger EffectCan you give me a one sentence summary of the Dark Enlightenment? | /r/TheRedPill | 04/01/14 11:09 PM |
| 6 | Help me understand why women are incapable of love. Yes, I've read the suggested reading.Saving this for future conversations. Great comment. | /r/TheRedPill | 03/01/14 09:35 PM |
| 4 | Improving HAVING sexShit. I have some work to do. Edit: Slide your thumb into her pussy (thumb nail facing upwards), while the rest of your palm is under her cupping her ass. Get your thumb in a couple of inches, push down (make sure you have trimmed nails), and you should feel a rough/ridged area. Wait wait wait. Thats going for the G-Spot. I thought the G-Spot was on top? I'm very confused. | /r/TheRedPill | 02/01/14 11:01 PM |
| 3 | The basics explained, and our direction for 2014.http://dalrock.wordpress.com/ RP from a Married Christian. Boom. | /r/TheRedPill | 02/01/14 10:53 PM |
| 1 | Beta, frustrated and willing to tryIt's better to regret a failure than to regret not trying at all. | /r/TheRedPill | 01/01/14 08:22 PM |
| -1 | Briffault's Law in ActionNo. Whats your real question? | /r/TheRedPill | 01/01/14 07:59 PM |
| 2 | Read Nietzsche.Related: https://twitter.com/NietzscheQuotes For all your daily Nietzsche Needs. | /r/TheRedPill | 01/01/14 12:26 AM |
| 1 | 10 Reasons Why You Should Live Without ApologyActually, working out and practicing gratitude are two of the best ways to conquer depression. (And yes, I mean real depression, not "I feel shitty" depression). There not the the only way, or the best way (therapy), but they will certainly help. | /r/TheRedPill | 31/12/13 11:58 PM |
| 2 | 10 Reasons Why You Should Live Without ApologyEh. The whole "Depression is because of bad brain chemistry!" is largely bullshit. Psychiatrists aren't necessarily pushing the drugs on people, but if you get a client who comes in and says "Hey I'm depressed I want zoloft" then there going to give it to you because $$$$$$. Depression (in many cases) is the snowball effect of low-self esteem. I can't be the person I want to be > I can't succedd at this > I can't go to the interview because I'll fail > I can't send in my resume > I can't look fo… | /r/TheRedPill | 31/12/13 11:52 PM |
| 2 | 10 Reasons Why You Should Live Without ApologyGood shit, but can we please not have a break every other fucking line. dear god it's making me go up a fucking wall. | /r/TheRedPill | 31/12/13 11:47 PM |
| 1 | Why am I listening to you guys?You're young and have no experience with women. You have less to deconstruct. You're also young and impressionable. So yeah it's you'r youth, for varying reasons. | /r/TheRedPill | 29/12/13 08:33 AM |
| 5 | 33 year old woman sperm jacks well off 28 year old guy.There is an very outside chance that this is my ex-gf. Age/Job description/timing match. I may have dodged a bullet. Wow. | /r/TheRedPill | 29/12/13 08:11 AM |
| 13 | Men who brag on this subreddit about being a player or being promiscuous haven't burned out yet, and will.That's where I'm at too. Flirting is fun and exciting right now. I get a massive high from pushing my comfort zone. But like any high, you have to keep doing more and more to get that high. I used to get a rush from just approaching a girl, now I really have to do something bold to feel the same. I'm gonna enjoy it while it lasts. | /r/TheRedPill | 29/12/13 03:18 AM |
| -3 | The FR I've been promisingThis is fantastic. Thank you. Will be using as a guidepost. | /r/TheRedPill | 27/12/13 09:15 PM |
| 4 | Not really seeing the point of relationships. Anyone wanna explain what the advantage of them are?If you want kids, marriage has a purpose. But outside of kids, there's 0 reason to get married. | /r/TheRedPill | 27/12/13 09:14 PM |
| 9 | Definitely a repost but it deserves it to cap off the year: Ultra-feminist spends a year and a half as a man and subsequently has all her preconceived notions about men turned upside down. A must read.https://twitter.com/Cavsanada/status/412601169098203138 The reason she couldn't take it any more was because she had to spend every day pretending to be someone she was not when she had an easy way out: just stop the experiment. Very very few people could do what she did (male or female). You're right about pulling the wool over the eyes though. | /r/TheRedPill | 27/12/13 03:08 PM |
| 1 | How do you guys deal with onitius?Fair enough. | /r/TheRedPill | 26/12/13 05:40 AM |
| 4 | How do you guys deal with onitius?Possibly. As far as I've understood it frame is how you act in a certain situation. Your frame around your boss is different than around your girlfriend. When you fail to "maintain" frame you act differently than normal. The idea that you have to act a certain way constantly around your girlfriend to maintain attraction instead just acting how you feel like acting is what I see as toxic in a long term relationship. Essentially, you can only keep up the act for so long before it wears you down. I… | /r/TheRedPill | 26/12/13 02:55 AM |
| 1 | x-post from r/psychology "There is something Absolutely Wrong With What We Do To Boys Before They Grow Into Men."No, real talk. Every man has shit he is going through. Problems he faces. Skeletons in his closet. Scars that still hurt. It takes a shit ton of courage to talk about this to anyone. Even more to tell someone like a gf who could reject you and lose her attraction to you because of it. Male shame is a very real problem in society that very few are willing to shine a light on because it is so drastically anti-masculine. | /r/TheRedPill | 26/12/13 12:58 AM |
| 1 | "Half the people in this world are female, and they all seem to think they have the only pussy!"Why not? How do you earn something that is freely given? Being worthy of love is a decision you make yourself. You either decide that you are or you aren't. This doesn't mean someone has to show you love all the time, or that everyone will love you, or that you can demand love from someone. But when it is shown, you deserve it because you exist. No other reason. All life has value. Edit: how do you earn liberty? Free will? The love of a child? Natural rights? Not everything in this world is earn… | /r/TheRedPill | 26/12/13 12:51 AM |
| 0 | How do you guys deal with onitius?Why can't you actually listen to what she has to say and then call her on her shit if it's actually bullshit? If someone comes to you for support and advice, why is your first reaction to mock them for having human emotions and needing help? Why don't you have any compassion? Because it doesn't get you laid? Come on. | /r/TheRedPill | 25/12/13 10:51 PM |
| 8 | How do you guys deal with onitius?I just... I don't see this as a healthy was of having relationships. I want deep relationships with my girlfriends and friends alike. That's not possible to do if I'm constantly maintaining frame and not letting myself be vulnerable around my friends and lovers. It doesn't build attraction, no, but women are just one part of life. There's passion of work, friendship, gratitude and joy. I think this kind if "you have to maintain frame all the time or you will never maintain LTRs" line of thinking… | /r/TheRedPill | 25/12/13 10:31 PM |
| 4 | How do you guys deal with onitius?She dumped you. It sucks. The only thing you can do is move on. Stop thinking about her. Focus on your life, work, friends and meeting new women. You said you didn't want a girlfriend. Your relationship was based upon that. You then tried to adjust the boundaries of the relationship and she refused. She realized the relationship won't work with that dissonance so she ended it. Remember, she may just not want a BF right now, and as much as she likes you (even loves you) that won't change. You ask… | /r/TheRedPill | 25/12/13 10:26 PM |
| 0 | x-post from r/psychology "There is something Absolutely Wrong With What We Do To Boys Before They Grow Into Men."I have. I have a different definition of masculinity that isn't tied to the perceptions of others. | /r/TheRedPill | 25/12/13 05:01 PM |
| -1 | x-post from r/psychology "There is something Absolutely Wrong With What We Do To Boys Before They Grow Into Men."Being more attractive does not make you more of a man! | /r/TheRedPill | 25/12/13 04:00 PM |
| -5 | x-post from r/psychology "There is something Absolutely Wrong With What We Do To Boys Before They Grow Into Men."You are tying what it means to be a man to your social position. This is the most unmanly thing of all. | /r/TheRedPill | 25/12/13 03:58 PM |
| 3 | LTR Game: Maintaining FrameWhere can I learn more about stoicism? | /r/TheRedPill | 25/12/13 06:56 AM |
| 10 | TRP has given me everything I ever wanted.... I think.Read the book "Daring Greatly" by Brene Brown. It's not RP, but it will help. Look, your problem is that you got into this relationship by not being yourself. Who you think you are and who your girlfriend thinks you are are two different things. This gap is causing your suffering. The way to solve this then is two fold. One, begin to open up to her. Help her understand who you really are. Don't overshare, don't unload everything on her all at once. But share some emotional vulnerability with her… | /r/TheRedPill | 25/12/13 06:50 AM |
| -4 | x-post from r/psychology "There is something Absolutely Wrong With What We Do To Boys Before They Grow Into Men."No. There's too much good content here. It's like a diamond covered in shit. It's worth getting my hands dirty, but I'm not gonna like it. | /r/TheRedPill | 25/12/13 06:14 AM |
| 1 | x-post from r/psychology "There is something Absolutely Wrong With What We Do To Boys Before They Grow Into Men."But I don't really see things changing for me or for any of us. You can change the societal norms sure but you can't change what woman are attracted to This is 100% correct and what we REALLY should be discussing in this comment section. The purpose of trp should be to discuss the polarity between what society tells us and the reality of male life. The video discuess what society is telling men to be. Emotionally dead, violence, seek status and power, etc. But what should we be seeking? Self-val… | /r/TheRedPill | 25/12/13 06:06 AM |
| 0 | x-post from r/psychology "There is something Absolutely Wrong With What We Do To Boys Before They Grow Into Men."Because most men are too ashamed to talk about how much pain and suffering they deal with on a daily basis. They feel as if they let it out they will be seen as "Less than". Which, in the eyes of women, is true. One of the problems of modern masucilinty is that emotional resiliency is one of it's main sticking points. You're supposed to have control of your emotions. You're supposed to be strong emotionally, not just physically. Everyone suffers. It takes true courage to tell others you are. | /r/TheRedPill | 25/12/13 06:04 AM |
| -6 | x-post from r/psychology "There is something Absolutely Wrong With What We Do To Boys Before They Grow Into Men."No, this video is pointing to a very real issue in today's world of male shame. The very thing they are talking about is that men feel that they cannot be themselves, that they must put on some type of act to "prove" themselves to others. Not just women, but their fellow man. This type of "ITS THE FEMINISTS FAULT, BOOO!" attitude is why I loathe redpill. This sub has so much great content but is incredibly misguided at the same time. Being a man is about having confidence, valuing yourself above… | /r/TheRedPill | 25/12/13 06:02 AM |
| 7 | "Half the people in this world are female, and they all seem to think they have the only pussy!"It took me a decade to realize all the harm my faith did to me. The idea of Grace, that you are inherently flawed and unworthy of love but God decides he will love you anyway, is incredibly toxic. Fuck that. I'm worthy of love because I exist. All humans are. It's not even a logic / existence of god problem. If you want to believe in a higher being that's fine. But don't place your own self worth on something outside yourself. You should treat people well because you have compassion for them as … | /r/TheRedPill | 25/12/13 05:21 AM |
| 16 | How do i reach true confidence?Confidence is not knowing you'll succeed Confidence is tolerating uncertainty. It's knowing you might fail and acting anyway. | /r/seduction | 24/12/13 11:50 PM |
| 1 | A question on relationships that I cant seem to find an answer to anywhere else.Great. She's the one right now. I agree with you. Think about how much you've changed since you were 12. You feel like you're a completely different person right? Now take that and triple that difference. That's how much you will change by the time you are 24. Then by the time you are 30 you will change that much again. Then by the time you are 40 you will change that much again. Then by the time you are 50 you will change that much again. Even though she is perfect for you right now, she will n… | /r/TheRedPill | 24/12/13 05:06 PM |
| 3 | I am going to fuck your girlfriendIf a girl doesn't care enough about her relationship to stay faithful, why should I? Because you are of higher value than her. I have a problem with saying "Lol it's not my problem!" Because we're all human, we all share in the same suffering. You are a cause of another humans' suffering. You could easily walk away and that situation would not occur. (Note that I said a cause, not the cause). If you are cool with that, then go for it. I'm all for subjective ethics. We cause suffering for other p… | /r/TheRedPill | 24/12/13 04:44 PM |
| 3 | 12 things that annoy me about this placeThere's a lot of wonderful content on TRP, I agree. It's still covered in misogyny. It's not inherent to the sub, nor inherent to its purpose, but it exists and it turns me off. | /r/seduction | 24/12/13 04:37 PM |
| 8 | 12 things that annoy me about this placeI loathe that sub. It assumes that men are somehow different. The real truth is that we are all narcissistic assholes who will do whatever it takes to maintain pleasure and avoid suffering. It's the human condition. There is a lot of truth there, but it's covered in a think later of hate that makes me pity those who take it seriously. Again, it's not that it's opinion of women is wrong. It's that proposes hate as a solution instead of understanding. The real answer to the problem is compassion a… | /r/seduction | 24/12/13 06:35 AM |
| 1 | I am going to fuck your girlfriendWhy is it only one or the other? Why can't both parties be responsible? | /r/TheRedPill | 24/12/13 06:18 AM |
| 31 | 12 things that annoy me about this placeOnce you stop needing this sub, you stop contributing/asking questions. Most posts in here will be of inexperienced men because of that. It's just the nature of the sub. But, every once in awhile there's a gem. Generally anything that gets 100+ up votes is worth the read. | /r/seduction | 24/12/13 06:03 AM |
| 12 | 12 things that annoy me about this placeI disagree about reading the bare minimum. You should read as much as you can. You should never prioritize reading over real experience however. | /r/seduction | 24/12/13 06:01 AM |
| 1 | TED talk on attractionFantastic talk. Love the polarity between desire and love. | /r/seduction | 23/12/13 03:39 AM |
| 1 | first date in forever tonight, what is obey great first date question you asked or wished you asked.This is gold. Thanks. | /r/seduction | 21/12/13 10:40 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Playing It Cool & Why You Should Go For It.Good on your for sticking to your passions man. It's hard. I'm 26 and started losing my hair when I was young. I decided yesterday to shave it all off. I really dig the shaved head look and I've gotten really good reactions to it. I recommend you give it a shot. It was hard to actually do the first buzz though. It takes some balls! | /r/seduction | 21/12/13 03:30 AM |
| 2 | [FR] Playing It Cool & Why You Should Go For It.Here's a random question. What's something in your life that you are working on? Everyone has their personal challenges, what's yours? Great FR man. Super helpful. Comments are too. Thanks. | /r/seduction | 21/12/13 12:16 AM |
| 2 | Questions? And when you've run out of things to say.Don't ask questions, just talk. Some options: Comment on the decor Talk about what you did last weekend Share a funny story Comment on the bartenders's clothes Make a statement about yourself ("My favorite color is purple") Your favorite sexual position Japanese Anime Porn Whatever The trick her is that you are giving her things to talk about. People are bored by conversation when they don't have anything to say. This works a lot better than rapid-fire questions. Rapid fire questions backfire be… | /r/seduction | 19/12/13 10:52 PM |
| 2 | I'm 19 and in Canada for a few days. Never been to a bar and am really excited. Anything I should know before going to a bar for the first time?Just have fun. ;D | /r/seduction | 14/12/13 11:01 PM |
| 1 | Anyone who's read Models by Mark Manson should watch this TED talk - Brene Brown: The power of vulnerabilityDoes he? I missed that. | /r/seduction | 14/12/13 10:51 PM |
| 1 | How do you dance?Put on music at home that makes you want to move your booty Move said booty Do this everyday until you've developed your own style and moves. The trick is then to be vulnerable doing this in front of others and tolerate the uncertainy of how they will react (aka being confident ;D). That just takes takes balls. Dancing, like pretty much everything else, is about the intention behind the action. If you feel awkward you will be awkward. If you are confident nobody will give a fuck what you dance l… | /r/seduction | 14/12/13 10:48 PM |
| 1 | how do you become less outcome dependant?Ding ding ding. | /r/seduction | 14/12/13 10:46 PM |
| 1 | Adding value or whatever. Another Megapost!I think there's a balance. You still have to prioritize yourself, but you can prioritize yourself by prioritizing others. Ex: If you are in a group of people who aren't having fun, that's not very fun for yourself either. By helping them have fun, you are going to have more fun yourself. The key point in both perspectives is not sacrificing yourself for others. You need to have compassion for yourself as well as others. | /r/seduction | 14/12/13 10:35 PM |
| 1 | Adding value or whatever. Another Megapost!This shares a lot of commonalities with Dale Carnegie's How to Win Friends and Influence People. | /r/seduction | 14/12/13 10:32 PM |
| -4 | Good text openersHi. How are you? It's not hard mate. | /r/seduction | 14/12/13 10:18 PM |
| 3 | Anyone who's read Models by Mark Manson should watch this TED talk - Brene Brown: The power of vulnerabilityREAD HER BOOK 'DARING GREATLY'. This TED talk is essentially the first chapter. Models changed my approach to women. Daring Greatly changed my approach to life. | /r/seduction | 12/12/13 07:52 PM |
| 1 | The virginity paradox.Confidence is not believing you will succeed. Confidence is being tolerating uncertainty. It's not knowing that you will succeed and acting anyway. Confidence has little to do with experience. | /r/seduction | 09/12/13 11:45 PM |
| 1 | I think I've made negative progress..A bunch of things: Gotta learn to face your fears. If you feel discomfort, act. It's important to do this incrementally. Start with a basic fear, something that causes you discomfort but is not a huge mountain. Work your way up from there. Don't use should. Use could. Should places a value judgement on your actions and causes you to feel like you don't measure up. It creates shame. This, in turn, feeds your AA. Loneliness is not a factor of the amount/quality of women/friends in your life. Lonel… | /r/seduction | 09/12/13 11:34 PM |
| 6 | How do you find your total social confidence?1) Meditation 2) Learning to act in spite of any discomfort. | /r/seduction | 09/12/13 11:12 PM |
| 1 | A Paradox About Extroversion and How it's Affected my GameHiding your true self from others is far more unattractive than your true self. Your beliefs about what is an isn't attractive is making your more unattractive than if you were your high energy self. Some people won't like you. That's a way of life. Learn to be vulnerable. Show your true self to the world. You'll be surprised how much people respect it and are attracted to it. | /r/seduction | 07/12/13 11:17 PM |
| 7 | [Serious question] What's the main reason you believe you don't have a girlfriend/boyfriend?Ain't that the truth. | /r/seduction | 07/12/13 11:07 PM |
| 6 | [Serious question] What's the main reason you believe you don't have a girlfriend/boyfriend?Sexual compatability is as important (arguably more important) than any other aspect in a relationship. It's the difference between a friend and a girlfriend. Waiting till marriage is a recipe for disaster. | /r/seduction | 07/12/13 11:04 PM |
| 2 | [Serious question] What's the main reason you believe you don't have a girlfriend/boyfriend?Self Improvement, life satisfaction and general life situation. I'm 26. I am not self-validated enough for an exclusive relationship. I fear that I would become too needy if i were exclusive with one girl. So I keep an abundance mentality by actually having an abundance of women. I'm currently have two FWB, one girl I'm trying to date, and an ex that I want to hook up with again (both for self validation and because she's a phenomenal lay and she was my best friend). Plus all the women I can mee… | /r/seduction | 07/12/13 11:01 PM |
| 8 | Got a number. Call or text?Is she in her 20s? Text. Very very very few millennials call. | /r/seduction | 07/12/13 07:04 PM |
| 2 | How important is a kiss on the first date?Depends on the date. Could be necessary, could be rushed and a bad idea. What's critical is attraction. | /r/seduction | 07/12/13 07:02 AM |
| 1 | Would you still give a guy a chance even if his approach was awkward?You thinking that your looks matter has far more to do with you being rejected than your actual looks. | /r/seduction | 07/12/13 07:00 AM |
| 1 | Would you still give a guy a chance even if his approach was awkward?Your body language screams "I hate myself." Shoulders back, head up. More importantly, love yourself. you're and incredible human being. you just have to believe it. | /r/seduction | 07/12/13 06:59 AM |
| 4 | How to talk to women about sexWhen you can, go for it. Seduction in a nutshell. | /r/seduction | 06/12/13 08:51 PM |
| 3 | i fail to initiate relationships bc i fear eventually letting others downYou're misunderstanding. It goes like this: Meet Get Number Date Have Sex Define relationship. Defining relationship can be anything. Fwb, gf, non exclusive dating. It can even be "I really like you but am not sure if I want to be exclusive yet. Let's date more before I decide". Whatever you want. If a girl assumes it works otherwise (ie sex = commitment) and does not clarify that with you before hooking up with you, that's on her. Not you. | /r/seduction | 05/12/13 02:08 AM |
| 2 | i fail to initiate relationships bc i fear eventually letting others downAlso, I need to remphasize this point. You need to stop caring what other people think of you. You have to value yourself and put yourself first. You will never be an emotionally healthy man if you do not. | /r/seduction | 04/12/13 11:28 PM |
| 1 | i fail to initiate relationships bc i fear eventually letting others downYou are assuming that all girls that go on dates want relationships. This is false. Some do, some don't. If the topic of relationships comes up then yes, I need to be honest with her (and myself) and say that I am not interested in anything exclusive. I should also not insinuate that I want a relationship during the date. If I did these things (said or insinuated that I wanted a relationship when I didn't), then yes that would be wrong and being a "douchebag". However, if she decides to sleep wi… | /r/seduction | 04/12/13 11:16 PM |
| 1 | On being confidentConfidence is not knowing you will be able to achieve something. Confidence is being unsure and doing it anyway. Confidence is learning to tolerate uncertainty. | /r/seduction | 04/12/13 11:09 PM |
| 2 | i fail to initiate relationships bc i fear eventually letting others downIf you sleep with a girl and she is upset that you don't want a relationship it is her fault that she did not make her intentions clear. You don't have to protect women. They can protect themselves. Secondly, you need to realize that people are going to be upset with you. You are going to let people down. This is a part of life. Instead of running from this fact, accept it and move on. Think about it this way, you're already letting all those girls down who you aren't approaching. They want you … | /r/seduction | 04/12/13 11:01 PM |
| 0 | 7 Reasons You're Turning Her OffSpecifically sexual innuendo. Works fine if you know what you're going. | /r/seduction | 04/12/13 08:10 PM |
| 0 | 7 Reasons You're Turning Her OffThis sounds like it was written by a woman. Some of these are flat out wrong. | /r/seduction | 04/12/13 07:32 PM |
| 1 | I'm fucking BACK.Hahaha. Best post in awhile. Great job. | /r/seduction | 04/12/13 07:29 PM |
| 3 | Shame and seduction. An short but amazing article all of you should read.I wrote this. Thanks for the up votes. :) | /r/seduction | 04/12/13 06:59 PM |
| 1 | I have an essay due tomorrow on seduction. Know any good articles?This is something I wrote. It'd be an honor for you to critique it. https://medium.com/better-humans/3bd3ad5b62da | /r/seduction | 03/12/13 04:59 AM |
| 1 | Not ready for pickup in general?It feels like there's a huge part of my life missing without it. This is the core issue. You aren't. I highly suggest Intimate Connections by David Burns. It will give you to the tools you need to solve your problems. Girls won't make you happy. You have to make you happy. | /r/seduction | 03/12/13 12:10 AM |
| 5 | Why did you get into pickup/seduction?I was lonely, needy and craved validation. Oh how far I've come. | /r/seduction | 02/12/13 07:19 PM |
| 1 | What is your personal goal with game?Having multiple incredible high-quality women involved in my life. I want 2 - 4 beautiful, confident, fun women that love being around me and i love being around. I want to fall in love with each of these women and develop really deep emotional connections with them. Eventually to develop the kind of emotional connection I want I will need to commit to a singular woman. However my life is in too much of a state of flux to do so at the moment. I'm not interested in sleeping with a new girl every … | /r/seduction | 02/12/13 07:13 PM |
| 2 | Seeking advice on what to do for a first dateRead models. The part on honest communication will really help you. | /r/seduction | 02/12/13 07:25 AM |
| 32 | Kissless virgin here, how do I stop that from keeping me down?You're saying "I've never kissed a girl so I never will!" When you look at it like that, it seems irrational right? That's because it is. There's no way to know what your future will hold. You may also be saying "I've never kissed a girl. No girls like me! I must be repulsive!" Which is also irrational. It's called personification. I highly recommend intimate connections by David burns for you. It will help you pick out, understand stop your irrational thoughts. This will help you overcome your … | /r/seduction | 02/12/13 07:23 AM |
| 1 | Community college student with no job and no car. FAQ's are awesome but hard to apply to my situation. Advice on improving it?Models will help you a ton, specifically the section on lifestyle. | /r/seduction | 02/12/13 07:08 AM |
| 1 | Just felt like sharinggood for you mate. :) | /r/seduction | 02/12/13 07:07 AM |
| 3 | Treat all girls like they're your friends' cute sis!If this helps you take a girl off a pedestal, great. Keep using it. Eventually you just have to not but them there in the first place, but this works for now. | /r/seduction | 02/12/13 07:05 AM |
| 1 | What book for my brother?AtG is mostly a rehashed version of Models. | /r/seduction | 02/12/13 06:45 AM |
| 2 | What book for my brother?Models | /r/seduction | 02/12/13 06:44 AM |
| 3 | Good places to take women who are of age when you are underageHave dates earlier in the day. 5-8pm and then get her back to your place. Have alcohol available there. She knows you're underage and wont' think less of you for not being able to go to bars. That's what I would do at least. Pretty much all of my game revolves around the bar scene, so I really don't know what i'd do without it. Haha. | /r/seduction | 02/12/13 06:43 AM |
| 1 | Texting ruining attraction or am I overthinking this and need to mellow out?It sucks man. I feel ya. The biggest part of text game is learning to wait. It make take an hour, it may take a few days. Just wait. | /r/seduction | 02/12/13 06:40 AM |
| 1 | How should I react to someone complaining?Great line. Thanks. | /r/seduction | 02/12/13 06:39 AM |
| 24 | Recovering after mistakes?you aren't just seeming needy, you are being needy. That's you're underlying issue here. You want to see her again as soon as possible because you love the way you feel around her. That's great, but you need to let those emotions come and go. Realize that they are temporary and chasing after them will only lead to suffering. Quite literally sitting around and thinking about her all day sucks, right? That's suffering. Remember to stay in the moment. Don't start planning your life around this girl… | /r/seduction | 02/12/13 06:36 AM |
| 1 | Recovering after mistakes?Eh, that only really applies before you've had sex. Afterwards the game changes. | /r/seduction | 02/12/13 06:30 AM |
| 68 | Girls ignoring you on purpose, shit test?Wait. The single biggest part of texting is learning to wait. | /r/seduction | 02/12/13 04:17 AM |
| 12 | Girls ignoring you on purpose, shit test?That's awful advice. | /r/seduction | 02/12/13 04:16 AM |
| 1 | I'm asking a girl out for the first time in my life tomorrow.Wait. You're going to the movies together? Bro. That's already a date | /r/seduction | 02/12/13 04:14 AM |
| 2 | Ending things - need help making the best of a bad situation hereYeah that's a red flag. Still, be vulnerable and communicate. Strategy is the same. | /r/seduction | 01/12/13 11:19 PM |
| 1 | Ending things - need help making the best of a bad situation hereYou fucked up by not setting boundaries in the relationship. You can never assume things. This is a very important step that you must discuss with every girl you sleep with. It will solve a lot of headaches. I'm reading into things and I can't mind read, but I'm assuming she felt betrayed by you. While it was a dick move for her to make out with another guy in front of you, it was just as big a deal to her that you went out on a date with someone else. You both failed to communicate your issues.… | /r/seduction | 01/12/13 11:05 PM |
| 4 | date is a week away...texting questions for you!Keep it short and not very often. Maybe twice in the next 10 days. Maybe just once. Then ~3 days before the date you can send a "Our date is gonna be so much fun!" and start setting up logistics with her. From there you can proceeded as normal. | /r/seduction | 01/12/13 10:57 PM |
| 6 | Guys-only Lulu App about to be released. Time to get our revenge!The girls who use lulu are low-quality women that you don't want to be interacting with anyway. Revenge? Really dude? Cmon. Who gives a fuck? | /r/seduction | 01/12/13 07:50 PM |
| 1 | How to known you have met the right girl. Winning the GameEnd game is to have healthy, satisfying relationships with high-quality women who improve your life. The type of relationship is secondary. | /r/seduction | 01/12/13 07:14 PM |
| 1 | When's the time?Whenever you feel like it. | /r/seduction | 01/12/13 07:00 PM |
| 3 | {CAN OPENER TEXT}I used this text message on a girl today after a K close last night. It worked wonders.This is a perfect example of "It doesn't matter what you say". | /r/seduction | 01/12/13 07:00 PM |
| 2 | She wants to know if my friends will be thereJust be straight. "No, I wanted to get a drink with you". That's what you want right? Decide what you want and go after it. Bullshitting around the issue makes you less attractive and causes all sorts of problems (like you are now running into). | /r/seduction | 01/12/13 06:58 PM |
| 6 | How to known you have met the right girl. Winning the GameI don't like that you call this "winning" the game. Or that you insist that acting like yourself is being an "AFC". This seems like a very naive post. =/ | /r/seduction | 01/12/13 06:56 PM |
| 1 | I'm asking a girl out for the first time in my life tomorrow.This is the first of many. More than you can possibly imagine. Just enjoy yourself. | /r/seduction | 01/12/13 06:52 PM |
| 3 | when is it too early to ask if she is talking to other guys?Whats the point? | /r/seduction | 01/12/13 06:44 PM |
| 1 | How many of you actually do daygame approaches?You also get a better mix of sweet/shy/nerdy girls who you would never see drunk in heels ”woooing” it up at a bar Not true. Shy sweet nerdy girls like to drink too. | /r/seduction | 01/12/13 07:28 AM |
| 1 | I keep downplaying women in my lifeThis is called romantic perfectionism. I recommend reading Intimate Connections by David Burns. There's a section that deals with just this. | /r/seduction | 01/12/13 07:26 AM |
| 2 | How do you know if a girl is attracted or into youAssume she is. If she's not she'll let you know. | /r/seduction | 01/12/13 07:24 AM |
| 7 | Inner Game: What do you do?It's very rare to find just one passion in life. Instead, you find multiple. I break this down in a few areas: Career: What you do to earn a living Creativity: A creative project that you can work on your own time Entertainment: Have preferences and dig into the forms and genres you love. Physical: Some type of exercise / physical activity. Mastery: Something you can work on and get better at. Here are examples from my life: Career: I like my job, but am looking for a new career (nobody's perfec… | /r/seduction | 01/12/13 07:19 AM |
| 3 | Inner Game: What do you do?I know you're joking, but this actually works. Every time before I go out I say self-affirmations to myself in the mirror. The single most powerful one is "I love you". It feels weird, but it's incredible how powerful it is. | /r/seduction | 01/12/13 07:09 AM |
| 5 | How many of you are still gamers?Any guy that sacrifices a hobby because it won't get him girls is going to be unattractive to women. You like what you like. As long as you are playing videogames responsibility as a form of enjoyment, there's nothing wrong with them. I dated a girl over the summer and she hated the fact that I played video games. Absolutely despised them. But she loved that I loved them despite what she thought. The only issue is when you begin to use them as a form of escapism or numbing. When you begin to pla… | /r/seduction | 01/12/13 07:01 AM |
| 1 | Do you sit across from or next to on a first date?Next if you can, but don't force it. Whatever makes sense at the time. | /r/seduction | 01/12/13 06:53 AM |
| 1 | Hi, I've been doing day-game for several months with a lot of success. Now, I'd like to go out to bars/night-clubs but I don't see how I could go just by myself or how to approach in that environment... any advices, tips?Any advice? I've just noticed that as I've improved I get it a lot less. Basically I just own it and imply "I'm out by myself having fun", but there's still a "yeah... no. go away" reaction. | /r/seduction | 01/12/13 06:51 AM |
| 3 | First approach in 5 years, want expert perspective.1) Great job! You were vulnerable. You put yourself out there. This is crucial. The more you allow yourself to be vulnerable the better you will be. 2) You waited wayyyyyyyyyyyyyy to long. If you really wanted to make an impression the FR should have gone like this: Saturday night. A girl I'm attracted to comes into the diner my friend and I are eating at. I excuse myself from my friend and go introduce myself to the girl. 3) Even so, that approach would have failed. Why? Because you are valuing… | /r/seduction | 01/12/13 06:32 AM |
| 1 | 20 years old and the thrill is already gone...[HELP]I have better books for you than models. Models is fantastic, but isn't best suited for you. Read Daring Greatly by Brene Brown and Intimate Connections by David Burns. The former deals with Vulnerability (ala Models, but more indepth) and tells you how to develop deep emotional connections with others, as well as how to break down the walls that prevent us from being vulnerable. The latter is a CBT based book that will help you overcome the walls that stop you from creating connections with oth… | /r/seduction | 01/12/13 06:19 AM |
| 0 | Being a male and a friendly male puts his arm around you over your shoulders.Yeah he's definitely gay. | /r/seduction | 01/12/13 06:15 AM |
| 1 | How to get girls numberAsk. | /r/seduction | 01/12/13 06:14 AM |
| 1 | Hi, I've been doing day-game for several months with a lot of success. Now, I'd like to go out to bars/night-clubs but I don't see how I could go just by myself or how to approach in that environment... any advices, tips?Which part? I was editing my post and the last sentence is different now. :3 | /r/seduction | 01/12/13 06:11 AM |
| 2 | Hi, I've been doing day-game for several months with a lot of success. Now, I'd like to go out to bars/night-clubs but I don't see how I could go just by myself or how to approach in that environment... any advices, tips?I work nights, so I work exclusively in the bar scene. My social circle sucks so I almost always go out alone. I've been going out for a month two or three times a week. I've had ~15 #-closes, 3 K-closes, 1 F-close and have 2 dates next week with really incredible women. I've gotten to the point where I will end up with a receptive # or K close every time I go out. Here's my advice: The most critical part to bar game is that You have to be there for a specific purpose that is something other tha… | /r/seduction | 01/12/13 05:48 AM |
| 4 | Girls in your social circleI don't want to come off as... Stop giving a fuck what other people think of you. Do what you want. This is about self-value and caring about what you think of yourself more than what other people do. If you have a problem with it, then don't do it. If you are ok with sleeping around, then sleep around. More importantly, confidence is being able to tolerate uncertainty. Flirting with those girls make come back to bite you in the ass, but you don't know if it will or not. A confident man will acc… | /r/seduction | 01/12/13 05:28 AM |
| 2 | Is there a contradiction between being whole and wanting sex from women?No. You just don't need it. We are biologically hard-wired to desire sex. We love it. Actually, you generally desire women more. You begin to enjoy the process more and it becomes more a motivation. You see all the possibilities out there, how many women you can flirt with and it gets your sex drive going. I am spending so much time approaching girls because I love doing it. It's fun. I enjoy flirting. I love having sex. It just doesn't validate me as much as I validate my self. (Here's a secret… | /r/seduction | 01/12/13 05:23 AM |
| 1 | [Off topic] Keeping a girlfriend once I've got oneIf you were yourself from the get-go, you wouldn't have this issue. =D. Read Models by Mark Manson. It will tell you why relationships fail and how to keep them strong. TL;DR: 1) Always put yourself first, her second, and everyone else after that. Make sure she isn't the only reason you get up in the morning. Have dreams and goals. Don't be needy. 2) Be vulnerable. Let her in and let her know the real you. | /r/seduction | 01/12/13 05:16 AM |
| 21 | How to get a f*** buddy?The process of seduction is the same no matter what your end goal for the relationship. After you hook up, you decide what you want out of the relationship. If the girl is cool with that, then you continue. If you want different things, you move on and find someone else who matches what you want. I define different relationships as: "Fuck Buddies": You use each other for sex. There is no friendship. You don't hang out. You call each other up, have sex, then leave. (TBH these relationship are pre… | /r/seduction | 01/12/13 05:10 AM |
| 18 | A note on one-itis, outcome independence, and inner gameThe key to outcome independence is knowing that you have the capability of ditching Kate Upton to go home and work on your woodworking project and not feeling a twinge of regret. I LOVE this. Its captures everything about valuing yourself. Stealing it. Great post. It's long and wordy (you'd get 10x the upvotes if you cut down the size to about a third while keeping all the good parts), but the essence of it is spot fracking on. Well done mate. | /r/seduction | 01/12/13 04:33 AM |
| 2 | Help me stop validation seeking once and for all. It's making me make unhealthy decisions.You have to decide that you are the most important person in your life and then act on it. It is a process that you work on day-in-day-out. My favorite book on worthiness (and vulnerability) is Daring Greatly by Brene Brown. I highly recommend it. | /r/seduction | 29/11/13 07:01 PM |
| 1 | Asking a girl out over FacebookTreat it like a normal interaction. If you saw her on the street how would you talk to her? Also, you're over-thinking it. | /r/seduction | 29/11/13 06:56 PM |
| 4 | The girl insisted we meet up instead of me picking her up from her placeThis sounds like a flake waiting to happen. I wouldn't focus on getting laid tonight. Go out and have fun. If things are going well just say that you want to keep hanging out and suggest going back to her place. Tie it in with something you talked about during the date if you can (a movie you haven't seen, or how make great scrambled eggs, whatever) but the second part is not necessary, just helpful. | /r/seduction | 29/11/13 06:49 PM |
| 5 | Dealing with the catch-22 of desperationThere are many people in this world who take vows of celibacy. Priests, Buddhist monks, etc. They live fufilling, joy filled lives. You don't need to get laid. It is not a requirement to be happy. It is a biological impulse that you can either act or not act on. Step one is to fix your beliefs. Realize that this desperation will not go away once you lose your virginity. The fact that you are a virgin amplifies it, but does not create it. You are trying to validate yourself through having sex. Th… | /r/seduction | 29/11/13 06:43 PM |
| 1 | How much attraction is too much attraction? Or How to avoid overgamingYou do them all at the same time. Stop thinking about it as steps in a process. Start thinking about it as components. You're talking about growing up and she says something about how she was a huge nerd as a kid. Glasses, braces. Whole nine yards. You can tease her about it and then share your own experience of being the outcast as a kid. You have just built and broken rapport in one fluid motion. You have developed attraction through teasing and created comfort by sharing yourself through comp… | /r/seduction | 29/11/13 02:17 AM |
| 2 | I can't even look at a girl for 2-3 seconds.Break down the problem into smaller steps. Your problem is a mental barrier of "I can't". Maintaining eye contact is a "big Everest" for you. Climbers don't conquer Everest in one day, they do it a step at a time. Instead of trying to maintain eye contact for 4 seconds, maintain for 1 second. Then 2. Then 3. Then 3.5. Then 4. Then 4.5. Then 5. And so on. Another way. Maintain eye contact with a close friend for longer than you are comfortable. Then a male acquaintance. Then a female friend you d… | /r/seduction | 29/11/13 02:06 AM |
| 1 | From a non talker to a person who is thrown into bars and clubs, my throat feels strained at the end of the day. Is this normal?To an extent id assume. I'm not really sure. This probably isn't the best subreddit for your question. | /r/seduction | 28/11/13 06:37 PM |
| 1 | Is the 'why' worth knowing?Hate to break it to you, but that's not how it works. Most of the time women (and men) will not tell you they are not interested. Even after they have built a connection. They will just... disengage. | /r/seduction | 28/11/13 04:31 PM |
| 2 | Notes from Mark Manson's talk in PortugalThe world doesn't owe me anything, but at the same time I'm worthy of everything. It's a neutral state. It's not a contradiction at all. It's not my will against other's. It's stating my will without fear. There's no conflict there. If there is a negative response I accept and move on. If you don't want to get into the nature of human existence, then fine. I don't believe it is undefinable (we are a collection of energy and mass arrange in such a way that it results in certain dispositions) but … | /r/seduction | 28/11/13 12:30 AM |
| 0 | 25 year old virgin here.You have deep anxiety issues about being physical with women. Therapy would be helpful. If you don't wish to take that step, I suggest Intimate Connections by David R Burns. It will give you the tools to work through these issues. Having sex with a prostitute likely wouldn't solve the issue because it's a different sort of interaction. You'd still have to deal with your insecurities. It's just as likely to hurt as it is to help. | /r/seduction | 28/11/13 12:22 AM |
| 3 | Notes from Mark Manson's talk in PortugalWe exist. Therefore we are worthy of love and belonging. We have been socially conditioned to believe otherwise by a culture of 'never enough'. Our 'true selves' is who we are when we don't attempt to change ourselves for others. Its ourselves at our most vulnerable. It is saying "Yes. I fucking love Brussel sprouts. I don't care if you think they are gross". Or in the realm of seduction, it's saying "I want to fuck you. I don't care if you respond negatively or positively, I'm going to express … | /r/seduction | 28/11/13 12:05 AM |
| 10 | How to build up a social circle after collegeFind shit that you like to do Do that shit Meet other people that do that same shit Do that shit with them | /r/seduction | 27/11/13 11:38 PM |
| 1 | I'm having a hard time getting excited/showing big emotions - advice/insight neededIf something doesn't make you excited, it doesn't make you excited. Maybe you just haven't found something you really dig yet. | /r/seduction | 27/11/13 11:38 PM |
| 5 | Been getting numbers through OkCupid and Tinder but texting always seems like pulling teeth. Any tips?Don't. Texting is 90% logistics. | /r/seduction | 27/11/13 11:36 PM |
| 1 | "There was never again a lover in my life who made me feel what he made me feel."I'm at a loss because I really don't know how to help you. That's frustrating. The best thing I can say is to not be concerned with other people. If you don't focus on trying to make her attracted to you and just be vulnerable you should be alright. I think. -_- | /r/seduction | 27/11/13 11:32 PM |
| 2 | Notes from Mark Manson's talk in PortugalThe flawed underlying assumption in Manson's approach is that "who we are has always been good enough." If that was true, there would be no need to change. This is true. We are all worthy of love and belonging by the nature of our existence. What manson is talking about is our true-selves, shed of ego. We need to change our behavior (be vulnerable) and beliefs (love ourselves) to become more attractive to women, yes, but we do not have to change our true-selves. You're missing the entire point o… | /r/seduction | 27/11/13 11:28 PM |
| 2 | Character Building. The Troll vs the SamuraiThat was fun. | /r/seduction | 27/11/13 07:08 AM |
| 1 | "There was never again a lover in my life who made me feel what he made me feel."AS? And you don't try to make girls feel a certain way. You just go after what you want, and the girls who are attracted to you will love it. Love yourself and be vulnerable. That's my motto. | /r/seduction | 27/11/13 07:05 AM |
| 1 | Lost my virginity last night! Just a couple questions,If you can't get it up, do the following: 1) Realize it's not big deal. Sometimes that shit happens for reasons that are out of your control. (Like alcohol). 2) Focus your attention on her. Caress her body. Play with her pussy. Lick her clit. etc. 3) Once things have calmed down a bit and she's fairly satisfied, cuddle with her. While laying there imagine how you would fuck her if your junk was hard. Do those things. You'll be amazed how fast you will get hard when you stop trying to get hard. A… | /r/seduction | 27/11/13 07:00 AM |
| 5 | "There was never again a lover in my life who made me feel what he made me feel."Yep. I think the important thing to take away from it is that the man embodied everything that is attractive. And not just the physical aspect. He was funny, he cared for her, he showed empathy and desire. His behavior was incredibly attractive. | /r/seduction | 27/11/13 06:52 AM |
| 4 | "There was never again a lover in my life who made me feel what he made me feel."No. You're reading it wrong. Attraction has little to do with intelligence, because attraction is based on feeling, not logic. It's the same reason it doesn't matter what your job is, or how much money you have, or how successful you are. It's about how you make her feel. | /r/seduction | 27/11/13 06:50 AM |
| 1 | Is the 'why' worth knowing?Gotcha. Not very deep. I am just very interested in masculinity and behavior. Considering getting my phd in psych actually. | /r/seduction | 27/11/13 03:32 AM |
| 1 | Is the 'why' worth knowing?Mind if I ask why you want to know? Just curious. | /r/seduction | 27/11/13 02:22 AM |
| 2 | Help me with my oneitisGood luck to you then. | /r/seduction | 26/11/13 09:08 PM |
| 4 | Help me with my oneitisYour limiting belief that you can't meet girls is feeding your oneitis. | /r/seduction | 26/11/13 08:58 PM |
| 3 | Help me with my oneitisGo out more. Do activities outside of school. | /r/seduction | 26/11/13 08:57 PM |
| 2 | Is the 'why' worth knowing?It's the behavior of someone who doesn't like to disappoint others. People avoid conflict all the time. It's not childish, it's a very human flaw that many people have. We're all imperfect. The issue is not that she has a flaw, it's that he feels the need to point it out. | /r/seduction | 26/11/13 08:57 PM |
| 1 | Help me with my oneitisYou run across dozens of girls on a regular basis. You just have to be willing to introduce yourself to them. | /r/seduction | 26/11/13 08:35 PM |
| 1 | Struggling with the need for external validation.One source, yeah. More Brene Brown's Daring Greatly. It applies the same vulnerability concept, but to life. Not just women. Really powerful. | /r/seduction | 26/11/13 08:06 PM |
| 1 | Need help with texting.I feel the same way. There is a general need to maintain the connection. Text game can work, but it is risky and should only be used when necessary. The catch is that text game should almost always be used within the context of setting up a date. For example, if you're buzy its "Hey I want to hang out, but I'm buzy. I'll text you soon to set something up", etc. Text game should only ever be used to maintain attraction, never build it. | /r/seduction | 26/11/13 07:58 PM |
| 1 | Help me with my oneitisGo after other girls. You don't have to stop thinking about her. Accept your feelings for her and the situation she's in. You don't have to reject your feelings for her and trying to do so is likely why she is still the focus of your mind. Understand that there's nothing you can do it about it now. Put her "on the shelf" as it were, and then go after other women. You are 17. High school relationships do not last long. There is a 75% chance that in less than a month she will not have that BF anym… | /r/seduction | 26/11/13 07:54 PM |
| 1 | Is the 'why' worth knowing?26 | /r/seduction | 26/11/13 07:42 PM |
| 3 | How to evoke a physical/sexual response in a womanI'm a pretty good feeler of where people are at in those moments when it comes to physical connection, and so I think that makes me hesitant to be forceful in making physical moves. Like the idea of being really alpha, and just kissing a girl when I want to, makes me uncomfortable because I feel like they'd be shocked/turned off. You know the answer to your own question mate. It's exactly what you don't want it to be. You have to be more physical. You must lead the physical escalation. You must … | /r/seduction | 26/11/13 07:27 PM |
| 11 | Is the 'why' worth knowing?Generally, no. It's not worth it. You can learn from the experience if there was something you did that caused her to flake, but generally its better to not dwell on it and just move on. However, for you, the reason you want to know is because you feel rejected, not because you actually want to get better with women. It seems to me you aren't interested in using this experience to improve. albeit a terribly childish way to deal with someone in my humble opinion. This is why I think that. You are… | /r/seduction | 26/11/13 07:25 PM |
| 16 | Could we make a list of comfort zone challenges?If you are uncomfortable, act. You feel discomfort and vulnerability dozens of times daily. Learn to lean into the discomfort. | /r/seduction | 26/11/13 07:14 PM |
| 1 | How do I change the mind set of "she's out of my league"?Again, it has to do with your own feelings of inadequacy. To defeat those feelings you can practice self love and you can stop worrying about what other people think. I like to think of it as being in the "zone". Whatever is not in your direct experience you shut out of your mind. It's the transition from "I wonder if she'll like me" to "I wonder what she's like". Don't get me wrong. I still struggle with this a ton. I'm still intimidated by beautiful women. It's something I'm working on on a da… | /r/seduction | 26/11/13 07:10 PM |
| 23 | Struggling to talk to girls :(Gonna break this down. I guess I look average but not to ugly. Male attraction is based on behavior more than looks. Women don't care how physically attractive you are (for the most part), they care how attractive you behave. I was considered to be a looser You are labeling yourself. You are not a loser. You may have done loser things but that does not mean you, yourself as a person, are a loser. You are an incredible man worthy of love and belonging. Sometimes they will reply or they won't repl… | /r/seduction | 25/11/13 12:44 AM |
| 1 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 11/22/13How do you decide if you want a girlfriend? How do you decide that a girl is girlfriend material? Context: Met the most incredible girl, far above the rest i've met recently. Things are going well. Not sure if I want a relationship, not sure if she qualifies as relationship material. Mostly because I don't know why I'm not sure and what relationship material is. | /r/seduction | 25/11/13 12:28 AM |
| 2 | What are your guy's opinion on RSD and tyler's philosophies?Brad Branson ... Mark Manson ... WHICH ONES THE REAL -ANSON? | /r/seduction | 25/11/13 12:25 AM |
| 2 | Struggling with the need for external validation.Put simply, you must validate yourself. You must decide you are the most valuable person in your life and then treat yourself as such. This is something I wrote. It will help. https://medium.com/better-humans/3bd3ad5b62da | /r/seduction | 25/11/13 12:13 AM |
| 1 | Most of the girls that connect with me are in relationships -- how to avoid this?Ask. | /r/seduction | 24/11/13 10:24 PM |
| 1 | Planning to daygame real hard today, tips?Approach anxiety is a form of vulnerability. Vulnerability is the basis of connection. To be successful with women you have to vulnerable. This means discomfort and anxiety. It's just part of the game. Rather than try to rid yourself of it, accept it and use it to your advantage. | /r/seduction | 23/11/13 11:23 PM |
| 5 | Planning to daygame real hard today, tips?You'll never be free of your anxiety. It will always be there. Learn to use it as a guidepost. Lean into the discomfort. If you are uncomfortable you are doing something right. Confidence is not being sure of yourself, it's about tolerating uncertainty. Try to get in a 'zone'. If you begin to think a thought that is outside of yourself ("I bet she won't like me", "She's too attractive for me", whatever) push it out of your mind. Only focus on your thoughts and emotions. ("Wow she's really hot I … | /r/seduction | 23/11/13 10:28 PM |
| 9 | How do I change the mind set of "she's out of my league"?1) There is no such thing as a league. Remove the concept from your mind. 2) On a deeper level, this has to do with your own feeling of shame. You feel like you are not "Good enough" for her. Not sexy enough, not successful enough, whatever. You have to realize that you are "good enough". You are worthy of love and belonging. You do this by deciding that you are the most important person in your life and then acting on it. You prioritize your beliefs, values, needs, actions and thoughts over tho… | /r/seduction | 23/11/13 10:22 PM |
| 13 | My Backstory and a Serious Plea for Help Regarding AnxietyYou are hardwired like this. We're all hardwired like this. The difference between you and those who can go talk to the most beautiful woman is they have learned how to be vulnerable. They have learned how to recognize the anxiety and then act in spite of it. The anxiety/discomfort never goes away, it just becomes a guidepost. If I'm too comfortable I know I'm doing something wrong. You must learn how to "lean into the discomfort". Start small. The common pua advice of "Just fucking talk to her … | /r/seduction | 23/11/13 06:29 AM |
| 30 | AA never goes awayAnxiety never goes away because approaching a woman means being vulnerable. "Lean into the discomfort" is my mantra. | /r/seduction | 23/11/13 06:06 AM |
| 1 | In need of a major overhaul.Also, there are women everywhere. Instead of having your morning coffee at home, go to a local coffee shop and interact with the people there. Instead of reading at home, take a walk to a nearby park. Even just running errands, getting groceries or filling up your car with gas. These are all opportunities to meet women. | /r/seduction | 20/11/13 10:46 PM |
| 1 | In need of a major overhaul.You can read in public you know. Join a book club. Join a band. Do the things you love to do, just do them with others. This will also help you gain close friends that you can go out drinking with. | /r/seduction | 20/11/13 10:44 PM |
| 1 | Information overload - can someone simplify things for me?Love yourself and put yourself first Don't give a fuck what other people think Go after what you want and don't be afraid of rejection. | /r/seduction | 20/11/13 05:55 PM |
| 1 | Go to move when she's at your house?Its just physical escalation. Put your arm around her waist, pull her close to you, lean in to create some tension, then kiss her. You're probably over thinking this. | /r/seduction | 20/11/13 05:35 PM |
| 0 | In need of a major overhaul.Are you going to the bar by yourself specifically to meet women? That reeks of neediness. That's probably your main issue. Only go out if you would do the same thing if there were no women. Do fun activities and meet women through those activities. The added benefit is that you will meet women who already share your interests. You can still go out to the bar, but meeting women cannot be your main goal. You can: Go to watch a basketball/football game Go to play pool Go to hangout with friends Go … | /r/seduction | 20/11/13 05:26 PM |
| 1 | I can wingman very well but I can't get laid - any tips?You know exactly what a good motivational wingman sounds like. Try to channel that voice in your head and be your own motivator. This shit right here. Learn how to wingman yourself and combat your own mental errors and you'll be golden. This is essentially Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. (Which is like 90% of how you transform your inner game). | /r/seduction | 16/11/13 05:33 AM |
| 1 | How many times should you give her a chance to go out?Two. Three if she has really good reasons, seems like shit honestly just came up. No more than three. Not worth your time. | /r/seduction | 16/11/13 05:31 AM |
| 0 | Seduction now compared to 20+ years agoStop blaming women. Women are not the problem. You are. Fix yourself. | /r/seduction | 16/11/13 05:28 AM |
| 1 | The PedestalYou first, your women second, everyone else comes after that. Yes you should do everything you can to make her happy, but never sacrifice yourself for her happiness. | /r/seduction | 16/11/13 05:23 AM |
| 10 | Inner Game Life-Hack: Treat yourself like the women of your dreams.It's not about money. It's about how you treat yourself. | /r/seduction | 16/11/13 05:18 AM |
| 9 | Inner Game Life-Hack: Treat yourself like the women of your dreams.Right. It's more about loving yourself, taking care of yourself and enjoying your own company. | /r/seduction | 16/11/13 05:14 AM |
| 6 | Approach Anxiety, but you're confident, knows what to say, not afraid of rejection, and etc.Asking a women for dating advice is like asking a food critic for cooking advice. They'll be able to tell you what they like, but they won't be able to tell you why they like it or how to recreate it. | /r/seduction | 15/11/13 09:55 PM |
| 1 | Response to "I regret rejecting you"Depends on the situation. If you still have feelings for her than hang out with her. If you don't still have feelings or her tell her that and don't hang out with her. Don't need to be bitter. That's your own shame coming out. | /r/seduction | 15/11/13 05:28 AM |
| 6 | 6 year LTR ended 3 months ago. Just feeling defeated, alone, and don't know where to start.You won't enjoy being with anyone until you can enjoy being with yourself. This. A thousand times over. My best advice for the OP would be to read Intimate Connections by David Burns. It goes over ways to help you enjoy and love yourself and thereby enjoy and love and be loved by others. | /r/seduction | 15/11/13 05:26 AM |
| 10 | How To Get Girls to Like You Through Positive EnergyAs with most seduction advice, the more you internalize it and make it apart of your life and who you are the better success you will have in the field. Be grateful for the things you have. Stay in the moment Have as much fun as possible no matter what you are doing Learn to love yourself and others will love you too. | /r/seduction | 15/11/13 05:22 AM |
| 1 | My recent discovery that opened a new world of self confidence.It's both depending on what you're looking for. Seduction is 90% being bold and going after what you want. The rest is logistics. So they go hand in hand. | /r/seduction | 10/11/13 03:29 PM |
| 2 | Models, No more Mr Nice Guy and How to win friends and influence people are the books I currently have. Which should I read first and in what order?Models. | /r/seduction | 10/11/13 12:13 AM |
| 1 | My recent discovery that opened a new world of self confidence.Confidence. Courage. The ability to forge your own destiny. If you are looking for a place to start, there is no better point that Mark Manson's Models: Attracting women through Honesty. It deals not in how to get women to sleep with you, but gives you a guide for becoming an incredibly attractive man that women will want to sleep with. A subtle but important difference. | /r/seduction | 10/11/13 12:10 AM |
| 9 | Sex on a first dateYes. If you seduce properly you can go from approach to sex in under an hour. You should never expect anything however (Be outcome independent), but always push things as far as you can. You'll be surprised where it gets you. | /r/seduction | 10/11/13 12:03 AM |
| 79 | How to respond to a "How old are you?" shit test?Short answer: tell them how old you are. Long answer: Women are attracted to a man's behavior. They want men who are confident, happy and have pride in themselves. So when they ask you how old you are say "I'm 18", but be proud of the fact that you are 18. Avoiding the question or blowing it off makes it seem like you are insecure. YOU think it is disqualifying. If you think it is fucking awesome that you are 18, then so will everyone else. Every male goes through this same situation. Most of th… | /r/seduction | 09/11/13 11:56 PM |
| 1 | Girls that fail to mention they have a boyfriendIf you want her, go after her. That's all there is to it. Just make sure you really want her, and not just getting laid. Remember, you are choosing her over the 10,000s of women that are available for you to approach. If you are truly selecting her, then go all-in. | /r/seduction | 09/11/13 11:39 PM |
| 1 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 11/8/13I'm looking for tips on internalizing new beliefs. Right now I have a list of beliefs that I check throughout the day and whenever I go out. Things like "You are the most important person in your life" and "SHE IS INTO YOU!". I want to be able to believing these things through and through without having to refer to my list. Especially when drunk. | /r/seduction | 09/11/13 11:30 PM |
| 39 | How does your game change once you begin an exclusive relationship?Read Models by Mark Manson You still want to be confident, charming, and the man that she fell for. Lead your life and be awesome and you'll be great. Always put yourself first, your lady second, and everyone else after that. If you got into a relationship by using canned material, you're going to struggle. | /r/seduction | 09/11/13 09:37 PM |
| 2 | I've seen dozens of canned openers and routines on the net and books. Every single of them (and most improvised openers in FR) look cringeworthy to me, to the point I would never be able to try them without feeling dumb or awkward. I just can't "believe" in them. Is it just me, or is this common?Models should be top of the list. It's a great guide on the type of man you want to become. The Manual by W. Anton is a great follow up. It's more about the actual seduction process and how to get a woman in bed. Models will improve your life overall and help you have great relationships (of any type) with really high quality women. The Manual will help you get laid tonight. | /r/seduction | 09/11/13 09:35 PM |
| 2 | Talking to Girls Outside the Library and How Valuable are Cigarettes?They smoke, but you smoking doesn't make them more attractive to them. It just means you smoke. It's neutral. Never positive. | /r/seduction | 07/11/13 05:53 AM |
| 4 | Talking to Girls Outside the Library and How Valuable are Cigarettes?Fair point. Not all women will find it unattractive. However, no women will find it attractive. It's either negative or neutral, never positive. No matter what it's a net-loss on your health, confidence, and ability to seduce women. Worst habit to have. | /r/seduction | 06/11/13 10:31 PM |
| 12 | I can't get anything past a number - help?That is where you're going wrong. You don't have to qualify yourself at all. Stop assuming you have to prove yourself to women. | /r/seduction | 06/11/13 09:26 PM |
| 21 | I can't get anything past a number - help?90% of texing should be logistics. When/where/how. | /r/seduction | 06/11/13 08:58 PM |
| 11 | Talking to Girls Outside the Library and How Valuable are Cigarettes?No. You are using cigs as an excuse to talk to women because you aren't confident enough to just go up and talk to them. Want to strike up a conversation? Go up to them and say "Hi". Also, stop smoking. It's unattractive. | /r/seduction | 06/11/13 08:47 PM |
| 7 | Making good guy friendsFind shit you like to do Find other people that like to do the same shit Do that shit with them | /r/seduction | 06/11/13 08:45 PM |
| 8 | Focusing on being "hot" (I mean, being attractive doing nothing). Is it possible? Is it worth the trouble?A few things: Stop wanting to be like them. Start wanting to be a better version of yourself. Accept who you are, work on self-improvement and develop a mentality of being awesome. You want girls to like your photos on facebook because you need validation. You should stop caring whether girls like your photos or not. This will help you become that better version of yourself. Don't look to others to validate you, validate yourself. The only way to be awesome is to decide you are awesome. Finally,… | /r/seduction | 06/11/13 08:41 PM |
| 1 | I just cut myself off from reading all "pickup" related material and did the 100 set challenge in one month. OMFGThat's like saying yeah I dieted for a year, lost a pound and dropped my bodyfat by 20%. FTFY. ;D | /r/seduction | 05/11/13 10:00 PM |
| 2 | I just cut myself off from reading all "pickup" related material and did the 100 set challenge in one month. OMFGModels should be the first thing every man reads when they come to this sub. | /r/seduction | 05/11/13 09:57 PM |
| 2 | BREAK FREE from your Shitty Little LifeFigure out what you want out of life Take steps to achieve those goals everyday That's it. | /r/seduction | 01/11/13 11:40 PM |
| 2 | BREAK FREE from your Shitty Little LifeMark Manson has a "life purpose guide" on his website that details the above. The guide gets you to imagine the life you want, and the break it down into actionable items you can do now to work towards that goal. The idea is the same. Have goals and work towards them everyday. | /r/seduction | 01/11/13 11:39 PM |
| 1 | [FR] My first breakupYou handled this really really well. I'm incredibly proud of you. | /r/seduction | 01/11/13 11:20 PM |
| 5 | "I only approach cute girls" If you're a beginner read thisEh. If you are trying to get of AA and work on socializing, the great. If you are trying to meet women to fuck, only approach women you are attracted to. Be honest with your intentions. | /r/seduction | 01/11/13 11:15 PM |
| 1 | [FR] GOD MODE ENABLED. (K Close / Double # Close):3 | /r/seduction | 31/10/13 09:08 PM |
| 1 | [FR] GOD MODE ENABLED. (K Close / Double # Close)Oh yeah I only say that in person. And MOAB? | /r/seduction | 31/10/13 08:31 PM |
| 1 | [FR] GOD MODE ENABLED. (K Close / Double # Close)She didn't even respond to my text though. It'll get you a number, but if she's drunk she'll flake. Only really useful during the day. Honestly a "I think you're beautiful and want to take you out on a date" is far better. It's more concise. Remember it's not what you say but why and how you say it that matters to women. | /r/seduction | 30/10/13 02:56 PM |
| 1 | Afraid to kiss. Not because of fear of rejection but because of fear of not good enoughWhen I was in the depths of my social anxiety I had the same thought process. I wasn't good enough for anything, not just girls, but school, friends, life. What I realized is that we're all awesome. Every single one of us. We're unique and incredible human beings. It is our very nature to be awesome, we just cover it up with insecurity and other such bullshit. | /r/seduction | 27/10/13 11:12 PM |
| 9 | How do you bridge the gap to take a girl home.Comfort You must make them feel comfortable and safe around you. This means developing a deeper emotional connection with them. Develop strong values and interests, then find girls who match those values and interests and you will create these connections easily. Also logistics. If you have no where to bring her, then you ain't getting laid. | /r/seduction | 27/10/13 11:07 PM |
| 2 | If you look in the mirror and see an ugly dude looking back, how do you disassociate yourself from that and "pretend" you look better than you do?Realize that female attraction is very different from male attraction. For males, looks are almost all that mater. Luckily for us female attraction has far more to do with social status, honesty, confidence and lifestyle than looks. Don't get me wrong, looks matter. But for 99.99% of the male population if you are fit and dress well, it doesn't matter what your facial or body structure is. Hit the gym. Dress well. Pursue your passions. Most importantly, face your fears. If you do these things yo… | /r/seduction | 27/10/13 11:03 PM |
| 1 | [FR] GOD MODE ENABLED. (K Close / Double # Close)Haha. I was referencing the video game version. Ala being indestructible. | /r/seduction | 27/10/13 10:57 PM |
| 1 | [FR] GOD MODE ENABLED. (K Close / Double # Close)Haha. Good one. | /r/seduction | 26/10/13 11:42 PM |
| 36 | [FR] Trying to get better at actual dates. Took a girl out last night, started great, ended weird.You were fine. She has issues that she is working through (just like every human does) that impacted how she responded to you. She's still very interested in you obviously. Work on your logistics. I see no other problems with how you acted on your date. Edit: WHOOPS. Nevermind. I didn't handle the aftermath very well, though. Yeah that is an issue. Be outcome independent man. Getting angry at her is just neediness. You aren't getting what you want so you're gonna get mad? Come on now. Be a bette… | /r/seduction | 26/10/13 04:34 PM |
| 2 | I thought today was the night...Realize this. Going to the club is an accomplishment of itself! Congratulations! You pushed your boundaries! Next time go to the club and set a goal that pushers your boundaries just a little bit more. You stayed for 15 minutes the first time? Stay for 30 minutes the next time. As long as you push your boundaries you'll be alright. | /r/seduction | 25/10/13 10:45 PM |
| 1 | Getting numbers at a retail job?I understand not going after girls who you work with, but what's wrong with trying to attract customers? | /r/seduction | 25/10/13 08:20 PM |
| 1 | What The Fuck Is Happening To Me?That's fair. | /r/seduction | 25/10/13 02:00 PM |
| 1 | Problems meeting due to lack of girlsHave you seen a cute girl walking down the street before? At the grocery store? At work? GO FUCKING TALK TO HER Edit: After reading more of your post I see you need more help. Good looking and attractiveness are COMPLETELY different things. Attractiveness is 99% personality and lifestyle. Online is shitty unless you are really fucking good looking. This is because you have no way to display your attractiveness, because you can't put personality on a dating site. My openers suck. Mostly because I… | /r/seduction | 25/10/13 04:33 AM |
| 2 | Going out of your comfort zone seems to be one of the most important steps for building confidence. What small out-of-the-zone actions do you think would help someone on the road to improving confidence?Know that little voice in your head that tells you not to do something when you're afraid? Tell that voice to fuckoff and do it anyway. Facing your fears is the only way to build confidence. | /r/seduction | 25/10/13 04:31 AM |
| 2 | What The Fuck Is Happening To Me?You fear rejection. It happens to all of us. Realize a few things: You will get rejected. A lot. Even the best PuAs in the world still get rejected all the time. Rejection is nothing to fear. It has no bearing on you as a person. No matter how many times you get close, no matter how many times you get rejected, you are still a unique awesome human being. You need to let go. Shit happens. The quicker you can move on from bad things (and not grasping onto good things! that's called neediness) the … | /r/seduction | 25/10/13 04:27 AM |
| 13 | What The Fuck Is Happening To Me?Absolutely disagree. There are plenty of people in this world that choose to be sober and have incredible, fun filled lives. Drugs only enhance anxiety. His underlying anxiety and fear of rejection is the issue here. | /r/seduction | 25/10/13 04:20 AM |
| 19 | I can't seem to keep ladies interested after the first date – and I don't know what's going wrong.I try usually to follow things up with stories that I think are pretty entertaining This is your issue. If she has agreed to a date, she is attracted at least enough to find out if you are a match. Don't try and entertain her. She's already attracted to you, there's no need! You'll just come off as fake and that will kill the attraction. The first date is all about seeing if you are a match. It's all qualification. To improve your first dates, do this: Figure out what you want out of life. Your … | /r/seduction | 25/10/13 04:17 AM |
| 3 | [FR] I'M ON FIREThis subreddit is whatever its users want it to be. I what to use it to share my stories about personal improvement. If you don't like that, the downvote button is thataway ----> | /r/seduction | 24/10/13 10:57 PM |
| 1 | [FR] I'M ON FIREPicking up women is a skill. Like any other skill you start with the fundamentals and work your way up. The approach is one of the fundamental skills of pickup. I was out working on that skill. It's like practice vs a game. I'm wasn't out to win. I'm out to get better. | /r/seduction | 24/10/13 08:23 PM |
| 2 | [FR] I'M ON FIREPersonal development is my goal. Followed closely by having fun. Closing is a function of those two, as is opening. Neither are ever a goal of themselves. There's more to life than picking up chicks. | /r/seduction | 24/10/13 08:11 PM |
| 2 | [FR] I'M ON FIREHaha. I'll see her again. No need to force anything. Besides, closing wasn't my goal; opening was. | /r/seduction | 24/10/13 07:25 PM |
| 1 | Does it matter why you're rejected?If you are an atheist you wouldn't date a devout catholic would you? Same deal. We don't date people who don't share similar core values. Its incompatibility. | /r/seduction | 23/10/13 10:07 PM |
| 1 | Does it matter why you're rejected?The first one sounds like someone who has their values straight. That's pretty assholish and egotistical to call her a bitch because she has compassion for other living beings and doesn't want her actions to harm them. (For reference I'm an omnivore. I just had a burger, eggs, and bacon for breakfast. haha). | /r/seduction | 23/10/13 05:22 PM |
| 2 | Does it matter why you're rejected?Did you physically escalate during the date? Were you touching her constantly? Read part 7 of AtG (or the whole thing if you haven't yet). Do the examples in that section remind you of your night? If you answers are no, no, yes. You've found your problem. You must be constantly physically escalating. | /r/seduction | 23/10/13 05:18 PM |
| 1 | [FR] I'M ON FIREIt's about the process, not the end result. | /r/seduction | 23/10/13 05:10 PM |
| 1 | How much do you drink while out?Yeah that last one is a big thing for me. I have to be close to the same level of intoxication or else I feel like I'm just taking advantage of their drunken state. | /r/seduction | 22/10/13 02:24 AM |
| 1 | How much do you drink while out?Yeah I've started meditating too. It helps. | /r/seduction | 21/10/13 09:16 PM |
| 22 | You see a cute girl in the cafeteria. What do you do?Yep. What you say really doesn't matter (for the most part). Just be sure of yourself when you do it. | /r/seduction | 01/09/13 06:09 PM |
| 1 | [FR] An update from SoulHaha. I thought that would get a response. =D | /r/seduction | 27/06/13 01:45 AM |
| 0 | [FR] An update from SoulThis is a-typical for a Field Report. I tagged it as such because it's a summary of my experiences in "the field" (aka life) over the past two months, rather than a specific night. Also I wanted the green title. Haha. =D. | /r/seduction | 26/06/13 11:04 PM |
| 1 | Above The Game Part 9: Giving Back: Be a Value GiverWhat's with the downvotes and the mod deletions in this thread? | /r/seduction | 26/06/13 09:28 PM |
| 16 | [xMODx] Recent Drama, Reporting and Message to those linked here from viral campaignsJust wanted to say thank you to the Mod Team and give my support to Tofu. You guys have handled this the best you can and have done so admirably. This will blow over soon and we can keep on being awesome. =D | /r/seduction | 20/06/13 05:41 PM |
| 1 | (For the sake of discussion) Seddit, we all have an Alpha Male we try to emulate. Who is yours?Yeah I see his point. It's not as much emulation as it is inspiration. OP should have worded his topic differently. | /r/seduction | 18/06/13 02:53 AM |
| 2 | (For the sake of discussion) Seddit, we all have an Alpha Male we try to emulate. Who is yours?Seduction works on both genders, mate. =D | /r/seduction | 18/06/13 02:51 AM |
| 15 | Seddit, lets compile a list of simple exercises that improve your game (and more)This is essentially buddhism. | /r/seduction | 07/06/13 05:53 PM |
| 3 | A clear-cut summary of one anon's transformation, what women are like, and tips for outer and inner game.Focus your efforts on Tofu's Seduction guide in the sidebar. | /r/seduction | 16/05/13 12:03 AM |
| 1 | [FR] Soul's first night Solo. (Number Close!)Thanks man. Means a lot to know my experiences are helping others. | /r/seduction | 08/05/13 06:28 PM |
| 2 | Above The Game Part 6: Logistics (getting the number, texting, setting up dates, etc.)Hey Tofu, How do I make friends? Or rather, how do I turn cool conversations into friendships? I'm going out and meeting really cool people I would like to hang out with again, but I don't know how to parlay that into a network of people who want to hang out with me. Thanks for your help man. I've been reading your guides and they've really been helping me. | /r/seduction | 07/05/13 12:00 AM |
| 1 | [FR] Soul's first night Solo. (Number Close!)Was the HB7 another girl? Remember this situation for the future, it may be that such a thing happening doesn't have to mean you should see yourself out of the interaction. It's possible that even a guy walking over and kissing the girl you are talking to, doesn't have to mean the end of your set. You just have to get.....creative. Yeah HB7 was another girl. They weren't liking making out or anything, it was just the body language and positioning of the two girls and how that conversation was go… | /r/seduction | 04/05/13 04:33 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Soul's first night Solo. (Number Close!)NA. dotwav is my summoner name | /r/seduction | 04/05/13 04:27 PM |
| 3 | [FR] Soul's first night Solo. (Number Close!)Just wanted to say that I was SO PROUD of myself of using my rejection by blonde HB6 to open on black haired HB6. It was funny, made an instant connection, and just self-deprecating enough to be funny while not being a turn-off. It was about to cross over into "I haven't opened on this girl yet and I'm just standing here awkwardly", which is usually what happens. Glad I avoided that this time, and to great results! I also said comically "You don't have a boyfriend right? I just need to make sure… | /r/seduction | 04/05/13 07:13 AM |
| 1 | [FR] Karaoke! (Also an Advice Request).Just noticed your edit. I doubt I'll ever be in philly anytime soon but I'll still take you up on your offer. Don't be surprised if I PM you in a year saying 'KARAOKE TONIGHT LETS DO THISSS'. :3 And if you're ever in Cleveland, hit me up. | /r/seduction | 04/05/13 06:13 AM |
| 5 | A lot of guys in pick up need therapy, and not pick up.Exactly. In fact, most of the techniques for "Inner Game" and the techniques used in therapy are almost identical from a conceptual standpoint. | /r/seduction | 11/11/12 05:47 PM |
| 1 | How do I re-seduce my own girlfriend of 3 years?I feel like this is a better question for /r/sex. You will get better answers there. | /r/seduction | 13/09/12 11:31 PM |
| 2 | How do I re-seduce my own girlfriend of 3 years?To get his out of the way, I don't think she has what it takes to cheat, and I don't think she would do it to me. Chances are I would have found out by now. But I do feel cheated because she doesn't treat me like a man. And I know, that's MY fault, so... Wait. Hold up. How is the way she treats you, your fault? | /r/seduction | 13/09/12 11:28 PM |
| 4 | Awkward silences 30 minutes inSilence is only as awkward as you make it As an introvert and someone recovering from social anxiety this is something I've had to learn and champion, and it's very true. For a long time I felt like I had to say something during silences and by doing so I made them awkward. Once I was able to accept who I was and be confident in myself, those silences gave way to thought instead of nerves, and when the silence stops it's usually because I've come up with a really good question or topic. | /r/seduction | 28/08/12 03:40 PM |
| 2 | Made my first ever approached today. Scared shirtless, proud, but also kind of disappointed.Seriously. Super Buddhist. | /r/seduction | 13/08/12 03:15 AM |
| 2 | Made my first ever approached today. Scared shirtless, proud, but also kind of disappointed.Seriously. Super Buddhist. | /r/seduction | 13/08/12 03:15 AM |
| 1 | Made my first ever approached today. Scared shirtless, proud, but also kind of disappointed.The ego is never satisfied. The ego, by nature, can not be satisfied. Maybe it's time we stopped trying. What do we want? I want to live. Buddhist as fuck right there. | /r/seduction | 13/08/12 03:13 AM |
| 10 | "You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love & affection." - BuddhaBuddhism is great for approach anxiety. | /r/seduction | 07/08/12 05:46 PM |
| 11 | Crush Your Sexual Anxiety Once and For AllThis is essentially CBT. It's a wonderful tool. | /r/seduction | 30/07/12 07:45 PM |
| 1 | I'm that SAP on the bus. I'm not subscribed to this subreddit but it keeps getting mentioned in posts and PM's. Thought I'd give it a try.So I can walk up to a girl, say "Hi, my name is X. What kind of music do you like?". That seems so... forced maybe? Idk. | /r/seduction | 28/05/12 01:57 AM |
| 2 | I'm that SAP on the bus. I'm not subscribed to this subreddit but it keeps getting mentioned in posts and PM's. Thought I'd give it a try."Hi, my name's _____." But what do you do after that? | /r/seduction | 27/05/12 03:29 PM |
| 4 | I'm that SAP on the bus. I'm not subscribed to this subreddit but it keeps getting mentioned in posts and PM's. Thought I'd give it a try.You're not better than anyone but at the same time you're still the coolest motherfucker alive. Always. I think that is the greatest piece of advice I've ever heard. | /r/seduction | 27/05/12 03:23 PM |
| 2 | Rape prevention tips for school teachers.Yeah don't do that. That could go south real fast. | /r/MensRights | 10/05/12 11:56 PM |
| 0 | Why Are Men Frustrated With Dating? Is dating a punishing situation for men?-_- not what i was inferring but aight. | /r/MensRights | 16/04/12 01:28 AM |
| 10 | Why Are Men Frustrated With Dating? Is dating a punishing situation for men?Stop caring what people expect of you and do what you want? Create your own standards and make people live up to those. | /r/MensRights | 16/04/12 12:04 AM |
| -5 | Why Are Men Frustrated With Dating? Is dating a punishing situation for men?Socially, they are expected to be "compliant" (i.e. cooperative) partners to women. However, they are also urged by women's sexual interest to maintain an "attractive personality" (i.e. assertive and ambitious) These are not mutually exclusive traits. Author sets up a situation which doesn't exist where men are treated as either jerks or 'nice guys'. In reality, women and men have different tastes, backgrounds, and problems, and need differening things in a mate. Poor article. | /r/MensRights | 15/04/12 11:59 PM |
| 0 | It's Only Sexist When Men Do Itin which case it's possible this goal has largely already been achieved in the west I wouldn't say this. Too many examples of women being discriminated against still today, but you can say we are far more along than a lot of countries. | /r/MensRights | 19/10/11 02:35 AM |
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