Hey seddit! It's been six months since I last posted and so much has happened (part of it involving me moving across the country). I thought it would be good to get one of these out since I'm always putting it off.

Anyway:

I went out this Friday with five or six friends to a bar near my college. We're approaching the end of the year, Finals are finished, and the city is packed with a bunch of twenty-somethings waiting to get their drink on!

So we grab a table at this Irish pub and order a couple of beers. The table next to us is a sorority that's cheering to the celebration of school getting out for the Summer, so I start cheering along with them and get both my group and theirs involved until we're roaring about something every few seconds. The girls love it! I get them to scoot their tables together with us and everyone is talking away while I start chatting with this HB8 who's the president of the sorority.

Man I don't know what it is, but women with power are just so damn sexy to me... Fuck, what was I saying? Oh yeah:

The HB8 gets up to go the bathroom and I immediately open into the group, throwing around plans for the summer and generally just joking around. HB8 comes back and I try to DHV by ignoring her and engaging with everyone and generating rapport with the Sorority sisters. It works like a charm and the HB8 is trying to interject into everything I'm saying, even so much as throwing up her hand in my face at one point while responding to me.

At this point I transitioned into a one-on-one conversation with her. We talked about our lives, shared stories, all the while applying kino and escalating. Eventually this girl was holding me any chance she could get, I try to get everyone to hop venues in hopes of isolating HB8, but they all do me one better and decide to call it a night.

As we're all walking to the subway station HB8 says, "I'm still so energetic. I wanna go somewhere!" I suggest that we head to this awesome two-story bar I know of nearby. She goes for it and now it's just the two of us going together. Isolation: Check.

(To all you NYC redditors, around Union Square there's this place called Bar 13. It’s the perfect place to dance, isolate, and close. Look it up!)

We get to the bar and HB8 goes straight to the bathroom. To avoid looking like a chump by just standing there and I immediately hit the dance floor, throw on a smile, and just let go. These two HB9s love my enthusiasm and start dancing with me. Soon I turn around and see HB8 back from the bathroom, laughing away at me. Still smiling, I dance over to her, grab her and say, "Lets go to the roof." "They have a roof," she asks, "Duh, that's the best part. Come on!" We head up to the roof and lounge in the chairs. We keep talking until soon I have this girl on my lap with her arms around me and, I don’t know if I came up with this but it seemed just natural to do, I moved her hair a bit out of her face while getting a little closer, she smiles, and BAM! K-close. We’re making out on the roof. We pull away after a bit and she’s all smiles. Then HB8 says, “You kissed me,” I throw back with, “Oh, is that how we’re remembering it now?” “Uh huh,” and she comes in to kiss me again.

After another make-out session she says, “Wow, I don’t normally do this. I mean this can’t get out! I’m an important member of th-” (Okay, this response I used here is totally stolen from another sedditor. Please let me know who you are to give you credit because this response is fucking MONEY!!) “Whoa, hey we’re just having fun here. Maybe this is a little too intense for you?” This is great because it gets her thinking about how much SHE wants YOU.

After more making out I suggest we bounce and we’re heading towards the subway. Now, here’s where I fucked it up. I just couldn’t figure out the logistics of it (Can’t afford a cab, don’t want things to go sour in a 40 minute subway ride back to my apartment, and I don’t have a car because I’m in NYC.) I could tell this girl wanted it; she was being blatant while we were walking and talking. I ended up falling out of state and I couldn’t think of what I should do/say. Basically, I went into the dreaded AFC mode and was thinking rather than doing.

I start pulling her along towards my subway stop while kissing her. Making her laugh and wanting to kiss me more by saying things like, “You’re so bad,” just for fun. She laughs and asks, “Where are you taking me?” Fuck, I’ve got nothing. I #-close at her stop and leave with a goodbye-makeout session. Went home proud that I escalated like a champ and tried to think hard on how to improve my end-game.

What I did right:

  1. Kino & Escalation. When done right you will feel like a goddamn wizard man! It starts out simple. Touch her on her arm when you respond, move to grabbing her while speaking to “get her attention", even though you're already in a conversation. Escalate emotionally as well. Gradually makes things more sexual—which you can only do when you have:
  2. Social Rapport. Because I spent a good amount of time working her friends and was accepted as a “Pretty cool guy,” I not only managed to earn the attention of the HB8, but the friends who would normally be my obstacles were diffused and it enabled me to escalate without trouble in the first place.
  3. Isolate: This ended up working in my favor probably by chance, but I find it essential when you want to F-close.

What I did wrong:

  1. End-game and Logistics. I seriously need to work on this.

  2. Didn’t follow up with calling her. May have been able to save this, but I made work excuses and held off.

Overall, I’d say I had a fantastic night. Even if I didn’t F-close, I learned some new things. I’m going to try to keep the abundance mentality, move on and recognize where I went wrong. :)