After about five days, I text the HB6 that I had talked to last Thursday night. She texts back asking to call her. We speak for thirty minutes and make arrangements to hang out. I originally intend that meet at starbucks nearby for a quick coffee meeting--avoiding the unneeded stigma of "dating" too early.

Then, the conversation continues for another five minutes and things begin to get sexually charged. I up the ante and suggest a movie night at her place. She accepts, but suggests that we do it at my place. Fair enough. So we continue to converse, talk about each other's interests, and discuss sex in some detail. My phone was about to die so I let her go after about thirty minutes.

After I get home that night, she asks me to call her again. We talk on the phone for a couple hours, and things get even more sexually charged. I offer a tad of resistance and pattern-interrupt to a more intimate frame. We discuss our plans in more detail, we exchange photos, and she sends me her address.

Movie Nite

I pick her up from her house. On the ride there, I put on some mood music, sensing that she was a bit nervous, and make light conversation while holding her hand. We get home and go straight to my bedroom, laptop in hand. She takes off her shoes and lays down next to me. We start kissing and snuggling. From there, absolutely no LMR. We have sex for the next three hours. We break for a mutual post-coital cigarette. I share a stick of gum with her, and we go and do it again. Both of us tired as hell, we drift off to sleep in each other's arms. Then we wake up the next morning and go again. Then we both fall asleep spooning in one of the best naps I've ever had. When we both woke up, we put our clothes back on I take her out to lunch. Then I drove her home.

Analysis

A strong phone game was essential to setting everything up. The five-day bridge really helped demonstrate that I wasn't needy.

When I called to make plans, I offered an initial plan. Then, I let her raise the stakes first. Not willing to fold, I raised the stakes too. But the most important part of this interaction is that I let her raise the stakes first.

My second contributing factor was her mood. She was very sweet and caring, but she had been through a lot of crap in her life (a red flag) so I approached with caution. When she mentioned anything about a relationship, I had to reverberate that I wasn't ready yet and I didn't want to rush things.

To ease the nervousness, the mood music really helped in my favor in addition to a bit of light, non-assuming conversation on the way there. Perhaps I set up the meeting a little too soon and got involved with sex way too fast. Although this would work against my favor in any other sarge, I felt it had put a necessary distance between us so she wouldn't try to rush into anything else with me.

Most importantly, I may be in trouble. I think she's an awesome person and fun, but I really don't want to hurt her feelings. She's been through a lot of stuff in her life (a lot of stuff that she has only opened up to me about) and I would feel terrible if I caused her to sink into another depression. I'm not a PUA to shit on other people's emotions.

So on that note, I need some serious advice. Any help would be greatly appreciated.