[FR] My first cold approach ever after trying to overcome AA for 3 months

_stz · 2016-02-25T19:53:32+00:00

something that dawned on me reading your FR is about how you asked if she had a bf. It goes back to the belief that people are naturally inclined to agree or whatever. What if you phrased the question in a way were the positive answer (yes) is the desired answer. Like, I bet you could get more positive results if you asked "Are you single?" instead. Just a thought.

SeedGoose · 2016-02-25T21:40:26+00:00

First of all, good on you for approaching that girl! You're way ahead of most guys, including me. Keep that going and you'll develop your skills quickly.

Now, it looks like the initial approach went well judging by her reaction. Giggling and a smile are good IOI's. Try to keep improving your approach though, with eye contact, good posture and all that jazz.

You made the wrong turn after she answered that she studies English in my opinion. What you said was something in between a statement and a question, which does not come off as confident, rather as unsure. In this situation it is best to either make a bold statement (''You must speak English like a native'' or something like that) or to playfully comment on her study (also in statement form, such as ''You must be drowning in books'').

You'll eventually get it. That is especially true for the high tone and quicker speaking. It all comes down to experience. Keep it up!

Overnight_Delivery · 2016-02-25T19:56:16+00:00

Congrats

Imo don't say that she is cute and then shake her hand, sounds like a business transaction and the value of the goods had just been confirmed. Do one or the other.

Her learning english could have been a good opportunity to tease her and play around with her english. You asked about the boyfriend way too early, you should at least make sure interest is established before asking something like that. That and the intro got the yes lie / irrelevant answer.

It was kind of rude to then just leave her though, you made it clear you were only looking for one thing. However more importantly than making it clear to her you made it clear to yourself. You should continue chatting up a girl at least a little bit after a rejection simply to reinforce to yourself that it's her you're actually interested in, let alone all the opportunity that still exists after a rejection. Also after a rejection it's important to continue afterwards to try and get a sense of why.

s-cake · 2016-02-25T21:55:11+00:00

Keep up the work man! You progressed to overcome AA Greets from Vienna:D

rickrossroll · 2016-02-25T22:38:12+00:00

Her: I'm taking down some notes for my studies.

/r/thathappened

Sorry I'm sure you're just translating from german to english, but that line sounds so fake and contrived without the context that you're not a native english speaker.

Title	[FR] My first cold approach ever after trying to overcome AA for 3 months
Author	buenaflor
Upvotes	23
Comments	10
Date	February 25, 2016 6:27 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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