Hey seddit!

I'm 20 years old and I found out about the seduction community 1.5 year ago. Back then I didn't really think that I could ever approach strangers or anything like that but at least I started to understand why I hadn't even kissed a girl yet. It was time to stop feeling sorry for myself (because hey, I'm such a NICE guy but I wasn't lucky enough to have great looks like all those jerks who get the girls!) and start taking action!

Fast forward a few months later, this change of mindset [and a lots of luck because I really didn't have any game] allowed me to find two girls that really liked me to choose from. I ended up in a 7 month LTR with one of them but unfortunately I let myself go completely due to the fact that I was feeling "safe" in this relationship. As a result the girl practically made me break up with her and I had to start all over again.

Lesson learned: NEVER take any relationship for granted and NEVER put the needs of any girl before your own.

That happened about 6 months ago. During this time I read a lot of material about seduction but the fact that most of the friends I could go sarging with have relationships held me back. I thought that I could start with day game this proved really difficult if not impossible.

So I started focusing on expanding my social circle and during the last month I made a rule to accept every invitation for a night out if I don't have a very serious reason not to go. And here is the real beginning of the FR!

Last Saturday I got invited in a party and although I wasn't really hoping for much, I decided to go and have a great time. Upon my arrival I noticed a very cute girl who was probably an HB8, lets call her Jenny. I didn't bother approaching her at that time because I wanted to catch up with some people I hadn't seen in a while. As time passed I was talking to everyone, dancing and not giving a crap about anything. Jenny was outside surrounded by 4 AFCs and I decided to join them. I don't know exactly how but I guess that the funny/not giving a crap style that I had got her attention and we started to have a semi-private conversation. I didn't have time to build much attraction (and I'm still not completely sure how to do this) and also after receiving in phone call she wasn't in the mood to dance or talk a lot. Now I'm not sure if this was a mistake or not but I wasn't really in the mood to try to get her to talk to me all night long and I decided to join some friends that were leaving the party and going to a nightclub. I didn't know if I would see her again and I decided to get her phone number just in case:

Me: "So I'm going to NightClubX. I would take you with me but I figured out that you don't know how to dance!"

Her: "Of course I do! I just can't come in these clothes! So you're leaving? :("

*I hand her over my cell phone. Me: "Yeah, write your number and I'll come by your university some time!" *

I text her the next day and we set up a meet at the university. I go there but unfortunately she is with her friends and they don't seem are all going for lunch at a place nearby. I decided to join them [although I think that this was a mistake] and Jenny is always talking to me, reacts somehow negatively when I tell her a story about my girlfriend and she seems interested in me.

Two more days passed and I decided to set up a real date. She the cutest girl I ever tried to hook up and I wasn't really sure that this was going to work with but I had to try! So, I send her this:

Hey Jenny! I guess today isn't such a good day to sunbathe! :P Anway, we're not going to Stupid_Place_We_Were_Talking_about_last_Time! (Sunbathing was something we were discussing last time)

And here I was caught off guard. She didn't reply at all. My ego was hurt a bit and I was disappointed that I didn't get to practice kino etc at the date but that's life!

My guesses are that she either had a boyfriend/wasn't interested enough/lost interest after second meeting. I really don't know and I don't think that I will find out. I thought about sending one more text after a while but she is in my social circle and I don't want to be known as the clingy guy who texts a girl 1000 times to get her to go out with him.

That's all for now! I would like to thank everyone here for inspiring me to start taking control of my own life. I'll try to post more FRs although it is quite tiring to write such long texts when English is not your native language. :P

tl;dr: Party game is great if you are starting out. Talk to everyone and have fun. Stop focusing on getting a number and focus on building attraction and comfort instead. Numbers don't mean anything and they are really easy to get if you have the other two taken care of!