EDIT: Date report? Sorry, I might not be doing this right.

I usually have no problem escalating. Most of my dates end up with at least a make out, sometimes in bed. The problem is, despite that I almost never get 2nd dates. Last date was a bit different. I thought it was a failure at first, but it actually might not be...

So the date started off with the usual, god awful , face to face sitting down at a table in a bar situation. This sucks for kino: there is a table between the 2 of you and you have to find a way to reach across the table to touch her. I was getting very little signs of attraction from her. The convo was friendly but not flirty or sexual at all. Every time I tried to steer the convo into something more emotional and flirty, she just talked and went on a narrative which was not emotionally charged at all. She was very interesting to talk to, and we connected on a friendly and intellectual level, but in terms of attraction/escalation, the date was a total failure in my mind.

What I did do though was concentrate on 2 things:

1- I was working the Corey Wayne strategy. Get her talking. Try to have the first 3 dates where she talks 80% of the time and you 20%. I don't know if I achieved this ratio, but I'm pretty sure she was doing most of the talking. I would ask her open questions about herself. You must really like such and such thing, why? Tell me more. What do you like about X? etc. I would genuinely and openly talk about myself when she asked me something, but I would always steer the convo back to her.

2 - I was working the qualification angle. When she revealed things about herself that I liked, I would phrase my interest like: "Oh wow, that's great that you like X. This meets my standards in a women/person". I wouldn't say that literally of course, but this is what I was communicating. I also asked her harder questions that set the tone for her qualifying herself to me. Eg, "what's the most spontaneous/wildest thing you've ever done?"

After the date was over, I was walking back to my car thinking it was a failure. I had touched her ONCE throughout the whole night, and our whole interaction was not flirty at all and not very emotional. I thought for sure that that would be the one and only date. But... she texted me later that night thanking me for a nice night out and suggesting we do it again sometime. This completely blew me away. This is exactly what Corey Wayne says happens when you do the 80-20 thing. She is essentially telling you "good job". I did not think this was going to happen AT ALL because of the lack of IOIs and the fairly platonic conversations we had.

This has made me question things a bit. Good kino and fast escalation can have good results for ONS and club/night game, but if you are looking for a little more, even if just FWB, it might be less important. Or maybe I just project more sexual intent, so I need to work on rapport building more. It could be a personal thing.... Maybe she is just a shyer girl, and is more comfortable this way. Who knows.

I guess I'll see where this goes. Thanks for reading.